friends w/ too much expirience?

Question

i have these friends and they both have had dont IT and yeah i called them sluts because seriously my friends are on 13 and i think its disgusting i would rather die than do IT at the age, i find them gross and unamusing does anybody have the sma problem, oo and i know a girl who is oregnant NOT MY FRIeND but yeahh, my EX FRIENDS are a little too expirienced, and they dont know the risks how can i help them get better eventhough i dont really like them?

Answer 1

You really can't you guys are not of an age were peer intervention would solve anything... usually have to be getting around adulthood before that happens. Glad that your on the road to a healty sexual development, go you!!! But the problem with them is there learning at a young age to seperate emotions from their sexual experience. Not good, this well cause multiple problems as they get older. The fact is you can't do a thing really to help them, this is usually develop thru a family unit were the level of intimacy is sometimes none exsistent. Intimacy meaning how they show love. So without any good explanation about how they should handle sex, or understand it, they go down a path were they have the sex, before they develop the mature emotions to handle it. Since they've cheapin there experience with physical intimacy it well make it so much harder for them to bond well in future relationships... they'll have a tendency to over dominate the relationship with sexuality, instead of intimacy which will push their partners away making it simple a sexual relationship. Don't worry about them their a dime a dozen and I mean you could talk this out with them, but their problem is being compound by how society is teaching them that sex is a causal thing, and your not going to be able to stop that. See sex is never meet to be an ego bust, its met to help us to develop serious relationships.... when you turn it into a pride thing instead of a thing of the heart... you loss that heart in your life, which makes it hard when you start to feel it. We don't have cold hearts, but we do have brains that can make it seem like that... but this issue is way to deep for a 13 year old to worry about in other people, just take care of yourself.... and ooo yea If i can tell you some advice here because if f'd me up in my development... friends can make great lovers, but lovers don't always make good friends, sex doesn't destroy friendships, people not growing together destroy friendships.... just remember that when you come of age....