Ok I am really confused right now. There is this guy at my school and he has been sitting at my lunch table for like a couple of days now directly accross from me and he always defends me for some reason. A lot of my friends say that he likes me and that we would make a cute couple and that we should go out which I TOTALLY DO NOT WANT TO DO! Then one of my friends today just walked up to him and said that I wanted to be his girlfriend and I am soooooo mad about that. Ok just because I have never had a bf before (well in kindergarden i did, different story!) doesnt mean that I want to put up with all that drama in high school. The guy is nice to me, im not trying to be shallow but hes kinda ugly and Ive known him forver but I DO NOT WANT TO GO OUT WITH HIM! Please i am in desperate need of help here. I would ask my best friend who goes to another school but shes grounded! So please help :-(
2007-04-18 13:06:21 · 19 answers · asked by pinkjunebug7 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow honey.
I think that you really shouldnt be concentrating on silly things like this.
Just get some balls and tell him "I am sorry, but my friend lied to you. I dont have feelings for you and I am sorry if that hurts."
2007-04-18 13:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to him and tell him you do not want to go out with him, do it gently. (make sure he likes you for real 1st) Tell him he's really nice and all but its just strange since ive known you for a long time. Make sure hes alright and walk away, run if you have to. and your in high school so get a BOYFRIEND! Its sortof like a rule. Geeks probably have a Bf. No offense to you or anything at all. you seem nice. Hope you don't crush his little itty bitty heart. Tell me what goes on!
2007-04-18 20:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by smiley101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the guy, or do you avoid him because he is ugly. Its a shame really, he sounds like a really stand up nice guy and you will never get to know him.
If he is just your friend then where is the drama? Unless your worried about hurting him. Has he indicated any incline to you at all or are you just assuming it because he is sticking up for you. It could just be he thinks you as a good friend worthy of sticking up for but no more, and you are just overthinking this.
Best of luck whichever way it goes
2007-04-18 20:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he is nice to you, if he gets pushy just speak to him that you are not interested in dating at this time but continue to be nice to him like saying "Hell-o" or kind of a remark like that. If he compliments you on your appearance just say "Thank You" and keep walking. Other students may hear what is going on and you will be known as a "Snob".
2007-04-18 20:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all kill this friend of ur's that doesnt sound like a friend to me, get that straight with ur "friend" that u don't like for other ppl to respond for u, u can do it by urself! then tell this guy that u want to be friends and that ur not looking for that kind of relationship(i don't know that u might want to but that's up to you)if he's nice he should understand but he might get crushed tell him not to take it seriously there are other girls just not u. if he's does't have feelings for u in a nice way he's not even worth being friends with ..hoped i helped!
2007-04-18 20:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by wiwa lover! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help you do what?
You don't HAVE to go out with him.
Have the broad, (I can't use the other b-word), go back up to him and apologize for lying. If she just says it again, or something else inappropriate: stay calm, don't react. Tell him yourself that "I'm not in a position to start a relationship right now." - something that won't hurt him.
2007-04-18 20:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay..well..i TOTALLY understand ur situation.don't worry
what i'd do, personally, is just be ur regular self;
and if the subject comes up that he asks you out, say no...(i don't mean say it like "NO WAY!"..i mean more in a subtle, but direct way, like "ur really nice, but i'm gonna have to say no..i'm sorry")
so..don't be afraid to say no...
but ultimately, it's up to you if you want to remain friends with him..he seems like a nice guy..and sometimes, you might need a "nice guy" friend to turn to
best of luck!
God bless
2007-04-18 20:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your friend(s) you don't appreciate making remarks to a guy on your behave, you can speak for yourself and if and when you want a B/F you can make that decision. Ask your Friend how would she feel if you did that to her.
2007-04-18 20:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Mysterious ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~hElLo PiNkJuNBug~
yeah maybe he likes you..
or maybe he want to be friend wif ya..
he just don't tell dat he likes u rite..
he just don't make any move..
so u just ignore him..dont stress or tension because of him..when he start to ask u out or confess dat he likes u, or create story such u hav a relationship with him..then u tell d thruth n say
"sory man..i don't like u n u r not my type, ilike sumone else ok"..bye..=)
2007-04-18 20:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by ::.m!$s B ~> u kNo Me.:: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, don't just go out with him because of your friend. You want to be happy. You don't want go through life woth your friends picking guys for you.
2007-04-18 20:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by vmorissaint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋