What are your views about spanking?

Answer 1

There is a huge debate about this. I was spanked. My husband was spanked, and I think that we turned out ok. The thing is that there are those people that take it extremes and end up hurting their children. My son is now 8, and has had his share of them. And he is a great kid. Personally, I am ok with it. But I am for trying alternatives like time outs and restrictions. It depends on the child and the situation. We have always used it as a last resort. It's a personal decision and it will vary by parent.

Answer 2

I think it's ok, depending on the situation. You should only ever use your hand though, and only on the bum. Once kids get to their teens I dont suggest it, but for the little ones it can help with disipline. Again, there's obviously a difference between spanking and abusing. there is a huge debate going on aboout this in New Zealand at the moment with lots of different views. I was spanked when I was a kid, and didnt turn out any worse for it.

Answer 3

I have seen the best parenting technique for discipline, mind games, when they are young, now when they reach the ages of 6 and up, they will defy you. It will only get worse as time goes on, so start this early, boot camp drills. I am dead serious, my brother was in the army and when he got tired of the kids talking back to the mom, fighting, yelling, so forth, and saw that the spankings werent working, he tried the boot camp method.

He would have them stand in the corner facing him while standing on the balls of their feet (tip toe) and had them hold out a pencil, gripping one end of the pencil with each hand. He had the timer set, but not so that they could see it. If they stepped down, dropped the pencil or brought their arms down below shoulder height, they would start again. He only set the timer for 3 to 5 minutes, and after about 1 minute they were begging for a spanking. Which they never got.

Now he has brought back the rewarding, which is what spoiled them to begin with, but if they are good and do what they are asked, good in school, etc., they will be rewarded somehow. If they mess up 2 times, they dont get any kind of reward, and each time they mess up, depending on what they do, they do boot camp styled drills. Its never the same one in a row, he doesnt want them to adapt and overcome the drills, so he always has new things to try.

It works, you should try it. Or like George Lopez said, hit them with a bag of oranges, it doesnt bruise.

Answer 4

I think that spanking should be used as a last resort, and should never be administered in anger. When I was younger, I experienced spanking done in abuse, and spanking done as discipline. I do spank my child; when he uses the oven door for the 18th time in 30 minutes and timeouts and redirection don't work, then I'm gonna spank. Oven doors are expensive to replace, not to mention the injuries my son might sustain if the oven happens to be ON the next time he does it.

I've found calisthenic exercises to be more than effective in most circumstances... 'wall-sits' (or 'wall-squats') are very popular in my house and also help develop my son's buttocks, upper thighs and lower back muscles.

Answer 5

One cannot say it's bad for everyone, each child is different, some can do without spanking and some cannot. It's because of abusive parents that people are worried. I got spanked, never feared my parents, it can be very effective.

Answer 6

I think every parent need to choose how they are going to raise their children. Their our responsibility, how we choose to enforce consequences is up to each individual set of parents.

Our personal view is that spanking can be very productive as long as it's not over used, and it's very clear as to why a spanking is being done.

Answer 7

It's not the best method of discipline for everyone. Some kids it won't work at all, others it's the ONLY thing that will work.
A couple/3 smacks on the butt is ok, but NEVER use a belt or spoon, only your hand. Never spank when you are angry, you might hurt the child.
It's a personal choice that each parent must evaluate and decide on.
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With fear comes respect. I don't care if my kid fears me, if fear is what it takes to keep her butt in line and out of jail, off drugs, and not knocked up, then fear is what I want.

Answer 8

Anyone who resorts to hitting another human being, of any age, is committing an assault! If you can be charged with a crime for doing something to an adult, how can it be right to do the same thing to a helpless child.

When a child used a cuss word, for example, I explain that there are some words that nice people don't use, and suggest words that can be used instead.

The best parenting advice I ever received was NEVER, EVER HURT A CHILD.

Answer 9

Spanking is fine as long as the parents communicate with the child about what they did wrong, why it was wrong and what they can do next time to avoid it. They have to be able to understand what happened. And YES it does cause fear but not fear of the parents, fear of the consequences of their actions. It should never be used as a first resort except in extremely dangerous situations and it should never be done in anger.

I was abused and I know the difference between abuse and getting a swat.

Answer 10

enough to hurt their feelings but not a beating.
i got spanked and i turned out terrific. i thank my parents for doing it.
it's not the spanking it's what you teach them about the spanking.