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Question

parents make my life a living hell i go to church im a christian but sometimes i feel like giving up.everything i do or say is a big bother

Answer 1

Hi,
You're going to read this and either think:
1. What a load of rubbish I'm different
2. BUT WHAT SHALL I DO???

I'm 19 in university, have an amazing boyfriend, lots of friends etc etc. When I was in high school, around the age 13-16 I HATED my life. I'd be so angry because I wouldn't want to live anymore but because of my family I couldn't exactly just commit suicide!

I think most 13 year olds feel like this. BUT when I was 13 and read things like that I ALWAYS thought - "yeah right whatever, I'm totally different"

The fact is hun, you will feel angry and upset, you will feel like you don't want to move because living is so painful. But there is nothing anyone can say to you to make you feel better, because they only person that know how you're feeling is YOU. You need to just try and take each day as it comes and focus on what you are so unhappy about - perhaps its your religion that is getting in the way or just over needy parents

- just take some time out and think about WHY you're so unhappy, if you try and focus on this it might not seem so bad if you can't actually find a reason.

Forget the nonsense about seeing a GP for depression or a counsellor, you just have teenage Angst - it is one of the most painful and difficult things any person has to go through, but trust me, if you experience it now you will be so much stronger for it later.

Answer 2

Thirteen is a really tough age, both for you and your parents - as a former 13 year old, and a parent now, believe me I know both sides of the issue! No matter how hard it is for you Hon, don't ever give up!! It truly will get better as you grow older. Your parents will probably mellow out some when they see you growing into a mature responsible adult. Let's say they don't mellow out and you have the type of parents that are really super hard on you all the time with no sign of it changing any time soon - do you have anyone else in your family that you can talk to and "vent" when you think your parents are being absolutely impossible? (Sometimes if you can't talk TO your parents, it helps to talk ABOUT them to someone you can trust!!) Do you have a close friend who's the same age as you that you can turn to? If the answer is no to those questions, how about a counselor, or your minister? Even though you may feel like everything you "say or do is a big bother", don't feel that way or let that feeling bring you down! If you can't get the emotional support you want and need from your parents, turn to one of the people I mentioned above! I'll be thinking about you! Good luck!

Answer 3

At thirteen life usually resembles a living hell most of the time. Your parents probably don't think everything you say is a bother you just have different priorities. I know when l was 13 I felt like my parents were the most ignorant people on the planet and that I was only in the way most of the time. Since l've grown up and have teenagers of my own I know better now. If you feel that strongly about this than you should try to sit your mom down and tell her whats on your mind without being angry or accusatory.

Answer 4

It seems like you have some unanswered questions or emotions you have bottled up inside about whatever it is. Think about what exactly your parents are doing that you say makes your life a living hell. Maybe what they do has good reason behind it, talk to them about it and find out. If they are just being aggitive or annoying then you just gotta try to learn how to let it all go in one ear and out the other. If you meant that when you try talking to them they just make you feel like you're annoying them, then maybe they have issues they need to work and and still try and talk to them about it and tell them how it makes you feel. Don't ever think about giving up, when things get tough.....you work at it even harder. Only then will you find that real happiness. One other thing you can remember is that after every bad, something good comes out of it. You're always gonna have something bad to deal with everyday so you just gotta learn how to see it, try and fix it and move on. Remember that if today was perfect, there would be no need for tomorrow. Keep your head up, keep your faith...and good will come!

Answer 5

You cannot let life get you down. One of the best things you can do now is "take away". What I mean by that is that for every event in your life, good or bad, you take away something from it. You learn something. What have you learned or discovered? If you think bad things, bad things will happen. You have to find out how you got here,, to this point, and get out, if you can. If you're unhappy, go and do something that makes you happy. I was watching this tv show the other day and a woman said something like this: "It is the fool who refuses to return to the place of their greatest happiness." When was the last time you had fun or enjoyed yourself. Try to bring it back in some way, shape, or form. I find that watching a funny movie helps, or losing yourself in a good book, if you like to read, and playing or listening to music is a nice distraction from your problems and worries. Thanks for reading all this. I apologize for the spelling mistakes, and I'll get off my soap box now. If none of this helps, all I can say is good luck. I think Dori put it best in Finding Nemo, "Just keep swimming."

Answer 6

Sometimes I think the same things about my parents. I've been on the edge. Don't give up; do what they tell you, try your best and when you get out of the house (at 18) run like the wind. That's what I'm doing, gonna do.

Answer 7

well my parents divorced i stop good to church. my little sister and brothers don't see me no more cause of there mother. i have a bad relationship with my mom. sometimes i want to give but i scared. you just have to deal with it or like i do give up but the best thing i think you should do by the information you gave me live with a family member i going to live with my dad but i don't want to hurt her feelings but that's how life goes. i hope you have a happy life want ever you do try to make the best of it.

Answer 8

Don't give up!!!! My parents spoke about divorce from when I was 5 through 20 - then they got divorced. I felt scared, alone, worried, depressed, etc. I took comfort in my friends and I saw a therapist for a year. But most importantly, DON'T GIVE UP ON JESUS!!! He loves you and He wants you to talk to Him - always!!!! God Bless You Sweetie. I know what you're going through - but keep the faith - you WILL feel better!!!!

Answer 9

Hang in there. This time in your life is one of the hardest, trying to decide who you are can be a strange journey and unfortunately our parents sometimes forget what it was like. Stick it out. The best is yet to come.

Answer 10

your great

ok your coming of age-and its normal

relax go with the flow

learn to love your room and have a life dream to work towards

we think everyone got the perfect life-one day lol you will look back at today and say this was a wonderful time in my life-your future decisions will be life impacting/changing

a prayer to help you- "Jesus help me, come into my heart, forgive my sins-even one lie, and be my friend, amen."

if you said it before say it again-its not a rote prayer you need Jesus not just as savior but as your friend-then read some bible every day-even a Psalm it will keep the blues away-and Revelation 3:19&20 is where Jesus says he knocks to come into our heart and help us and be our friend when we ask him in."

prayin for you princess and I am proud of you-and thankfull your willing to speak up-its not a bother-yet in some times it can be to another but it will never be to Jesus either between you and him