how do I get my 2 3/4 year old child to stop whining and arguing?

Answer 1

This is very difficult. I have a 3 year old that does the same type of things. I have learned to be very matter of fact and let him know that I am not kidding when I tell him to do something. You just have to put a little fear in them. I am not saying beat your child just let them know who is boss. Even a little smack on the bottom from time to time will help. I know my mother spanked me and her mother spanked her and I do not see anything wrong with it as long as it is on the bottom with an open hand.

Answer 2

First, never give in while a child is whining or fighting with you. Tell your child he/she will not get what they want as long as they are whining and literally demonstrate what whining is. Then demonstrate what normal talking & asking for something is. Tell your child you will not talk to her/him until they can talk or ask nicely. If child keeps whining in a store, stop what you are doing, take child out to the car & put child in the car seat buckled with no toys for about 5 minutes, do not talk to child, but be nearby for safety's sake.

This is hard. My son did this from about 3 until about 3 3/4 & I thought I was going to go nuts. He finally stopped because he learned that whining got him into a no fun time out.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Yelling and arguing with your child will make things so much worse. my son is the same age and when he starts giving me attitude I give him a warning and if he keeps going he get a time out. When he whines I don't listen to him at all. When he takes a break I ask him calmly to ask me nicely. If he whines again then I ignore again. I repeat this until he asks nicely and does not whine at me. It only takes him two or three times. I hope that helps you too.

Answer 4

I am surprised at the people on here who still believe in corporal punishment. I, personally, do not believe in it. Hitting teaches kids to hit ("my mother spanked me and her mother spanked her"...ah, ya.). And duct tape?! Holy SH*T!!! I know parenting doesn't come with a manual but common sense! Are you TRYING to destroy your kids? I know I am going to get hammered for saying this stuff...but honestly, these are babies! What is wrong with you people?!

Sorry I went off on a tangent...

Anyway, does your child usually get his/her way if they whine or argue enough? Maybe sometimes? Maybe just with one parent? If so, that is why they keep doing it. They know that eventually, they will get their way with someone because it happened in the past. What you need to do is be FIRM and no means no. period. ignore the tantrum. if the tantrums don't stop after a couple weeks...then start enforcing a time out (one minute per their age). Be consistant. Consistancy is the key to teaching kids...that way they are not confused.

BTW - the same goes for promising them things. If you promise them a ice cream if they do "XYZ"...then give them ice cream...and right after they do it.

Answer 5

Kids sometimes just get that way, but sleep is key for my youngest if she was behind a little bit she was terrible, whe he/she whines a lot put the child down for a nap even if they protest sometimes even 15 to 20 minutes can do a lot for a tired toddler.

Answer 6

Ignore it and tell him i wont talk to anyone who acts like a baby and if that doesnt work dont hit him or shove him in a room sit him in time out for 3 minutes and the first time you sit him down explain to him why he is sitting here and how long he will be sittintg here and if he tries to get up dont say anything just pick him up and put him back in time out with out saying a word because he is looking for attention.

Answer 7

I'm afraid the only answers I can come up with would be illegal, which is why I haven't utilized them on my 2 1/2yr. old! ....duck tape his mouth shut. That's the only thing that would work, but we better not do that! I'm still looking for alternative solutions myself! For now, I just tell him I don't understand whiny talk, so I don't respond when he does that. If he wants results or something from me, he has to ask in a normal tone of voice.....not whiny, or demanding either. He simply doesn't get what he wants until he asks nicely.

Answer 8

Don't pay attention to the child when he/she whines and argues.

Answer 9

I have a 2 yr old that whins like crazy. I was reading on the internet to ignore it that when toddlers whin they are looking for attention even if its negative attention. I'm gonna give it a shot.

Answer 10

if there is a new baby in the family, he's looking for attention, any kind. if not...so you know it's still an attention getter. you need to try to spend more time with him, one on one. not all day just 20-30min w/o interruptions. you need to treat him like a big boy not your little baby boy (which we know he still is). he wants to be more grown up like his parents. if you give him big boy things to do (help set table, HELP pick up toys, pick out what he wants to wear-who cares about matching)he'll feel more 'big kid' and the whining will stop. i guarentee it. kids LOVE to be big and are always looking for appraisals.