i'm still very depressed?

Question

i've been on here off and on.my ex is still looking on dating web sites rather than come back to someone who obviously loves and cherishes her.i'm thinking about the end of this pain.you know what i mean.checking out,kicking my own bucket.god hasn't answer me in years and i'm done waiting and begging,praying.i'm very serious about this and want her back more than anything.i can't go on without her.rob c

i've been trying for over a year to meet someone else and none of them compare to her and the ones that do blow me off and it's getting harder to keep asking because i've never really had to in the past and rejection is not my strong point.plus when i see my ex i get choked up and nervous like a kid again.i want her so bad.

Answer 1

Dont want her back. You should get out, but don't make a scene. Just leave. I've been there and moping and feeling sorry for yerself wont help. Hating on her wont help either. Go buy some new clothes, get a haircut, go to the gym, actively do things that will attract a new girl. Dont ever beg a woman. Puppies beg and they wont do a puppy. Pick up the shards of your remaining dignity and go out into the world to live without her in it.

Answer 2

Please don't do it. Your life is sooo valuable. Think of reasons to live. I get like this too thinking about death at times. I am sorry you are feeling this way. Look at how many people on here don't even know you and care about you, so please don't do it!

Do you have 5 minutes to spare? Just 5 minutes? That's all this guy asks for. http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Please if you think you cannot hold on any more call 911 or a hotline in your phone book. If you can come on here, then you have enough strength to make that important call.

As far as your ex, there are books that can help assist you in that area. Like Gary Smalley's Winning Your Wife Back and Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson. If you love her enough you can read these. Also please try a specialist who deals in relationships/marriage. If you hold on long enough, you never know... I've heard on the radio about a couple getting a divorce and later (not sure how many years) they got back together, remarried, and are now happily ever after, and stronger for it. This can happen to you. Or maybe someone better will come along who will appreciate your love and you, someone who needs you and someone you deserve.

Answer 3

I think you can, Open your eyes to her & see her for who she is. Looking at someone through rose coloured glasses isn't healthy.
With a break up of longterm relationships (or relationships in general) There is always grief, this is natural, a wishing that you could go back & change those end times, the reality is that it wasn't to be & she has no interest in you.
Keep praying about you future love, God will provide her, and it will come at the time you least expect. There are a few things you need to clean up & focus on before that really happens. (And that is between you & God)
Good luck and if you really feel that ending your life is the key go talk to your GP & get some professional help.

Answer 4

If people can't appreciate a good thing it is their loss always. Sorry but get help no damn women ( or man) is worth your life, hon! You are in a dark place but you will get away from it. Remember in life you will have dark and happy periods. Life is better lived unhappy than not at all! Besides, that depression will lessen over time. I dealt with idiot guys and I survived. Some people are to stupid to see a good person. I suggest you talk to someone, write in a journal, or go out and find something to do like a movie or so! Please not let a person make you this way. Prayer does help..so ask God to send you peace.

Answer 5

Rob man.... damn brother.... Ive been there too man...

Listen, there is still hope, is there not? She is STILL LOOKING - meaning she hasnt found anyone like you or better yet - so thats a good thing, right?

Perspective, my man. It all depends on how you look at it.

Let her go - if it is meant to be, she will return. If its not meant to be, it wont happen... Truth is, if she saw you were happy and moving on with your life without her, she'd be a little more apt to realize that you are a cool guy. Instead, youre sending her the message that youre a pathetic lump of shyte without her in your life - and thats not the case man!!

So, my sugestion is to go out, find another and move on...when she sees that, she will be depressed that you moved on and she hasnt!

Remember: The best way to get over somoene is to get under someone new. (feel free to spread that knowledge around...)

Good luck man, and write me if I can be of any more assistance... And, dont end it - this is your one and only shot at life, bro.

Answer 6

Okay, so God isn't answering you... what are you asking Him?

When God doesn't answer my prayers, I visualise myself as a child, asking a parent can I PLEASE just play on the street for a little while, because it looks so fun...

God - the parent- says "NO!", turns away, won't allow it.

I don't understand, I'm a little kid, I get angry I start to cry...

Okay, so that might seem silly, but it helps me remember that God loves me and wants the best for me. He knows things I don't/can't/won't ever understand.

If he's not answering you, you're asking the wrong question.

Don't keep throwing a tantrum over wanting to play in the street..

Ask Him, who knows all, where would be a better place to play...

Just try it!! What do you have to lose??!? God loves ya!! :)

Answer 7

You obviously have a lot of love in your heart... please don't throw it away.

I was dating someone who I loved very much and she decided to stop our dating... We started taking again after a few months.

My parents broke up and got back together again then were married.

Sometimes there's someone even better... I know it hurts I've been there. But just think what if your soul mate isn't the one you think it is ... you could be killing or huting yourself before you even meet her.

Give it time man... everything will work out for the best!

Answer 8

Good grief, are you a grown man?

God's answer is NO YOU CANT GET HER BACK.

How long has this girl made you feel this way? You are too attached to something that is bad for you. FORGET IT. Do you understand? FORGET IT.

YOUR GIRL IS NO LONGER YOUR GIRL. SHE IS GONE FOREVER. QUIT WHINING. I DO NOT FEEL SORRY YOU.

Now, get off the computer. Wash your face. Go outside. Get in the car. Go to Church. Start living the rest of your life.

Do it Robert. Just do it.

Answer 9

Your faith must be stronger in God, not the relationship you have with a girl. God must be MORE important than her. Once you get to that point, I know you will hear the Lord speak- He is waiting for you to put Him first....
This world always gets us down- but with Christ, we are always strong enough to move on, and joyful in Him! When something horrible arises, we can get through it just by KNOWING He is in us. And when you have faith like that, you will see God at work! Believe me! But first He must come first.
I love that song that goes "Give us clean hands, oh God, give us pure hearts, let us not lift our souls to another, Oh God let us be a generation that seeks, seeks your face, Oh God of Jacob....cast out our idols!"

Answer 10

We often think our whole existence is about loving and being loved, this is true to an extent. But you shouldnt wish for death just because someone decided not to love you. Youre blessed with a capacity to love. Try to forgive, forget and move on