My ex and I had a huge falling out when our relationship ended. Much was said and done and we both acted out in anger. When I tried to talk to him and confront him, he deleted my emails and didn't want to talk to me anymore. I let it go and time has passed...it always bothered me and I called him and apologized but I got really emotional and told him I would email him and to please not delete it. Well...he has been online, yet the email says "unread". Does this mean he is considering it?
I want things to be ok between us, without any anomosity. We went thu alot and I helped him thru so much. Has time made him think? Or does he not care. He knows we cannot go back to the way things were...but I wanted to see if we can get past this and remain friends, he also is aware of this. Please just tell me if you were him how would you feel. I mean he could have deleted it like the rest.
2007-04-18 11:20:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please...I just want to know..in your opinion if he is considering to read it?. That will tell me that he does care. I know its not much. But at least I will know he does not hate me.
2007-04-18 11:21:37 · update #1
If he has not deleted it - he is considering reading it.
Give him time. Don't hassle him. It's my guess that he is very, very hurt/angry. Both can be diminished with time.
It worries me that you are so concerned and that it is essential that he does not think badly of you.
You must allow him his own feelings. He may very well have the right to be VERY angry/hurt - and he must deal with that in his way. You cannot demand that he responds in a way to suit you.
I assume you helped him in his hour of need because you cared for him. You did not buy and pay for him or his everlasting gratitude.
The worst case scenario is that he has not deleted it just so that you stop bothering him about the emails. Either way - it has to be his choice.
How about you forget all about checking and get on with all the other stuff in your life that makes you happy.
Best of luck.
2007-04-18 11:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by isobellistowel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would be the point in remaining friends if you have feelings for him? I don't recommend that. Right him a standard letter and send it thru the mail. Let him be for awhile. It's up to him. I'm not sure if there is anything you can do. But, maybe call in a month or so. But if you want to date him friendship will just be frustrating.
In response to the possibility that he might read your email. I think your grasping at straws. If he wanted to talk to you he would. And, I think you need to realize you're on shaky ground with him. It sounds like it could be over.
2007-04-18 11:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up. Not reading (ignoring) or deleting. So what. He is not anxious, nor does he care, to read the mail. Being 'friends' with an ex is usually a very bad idea if one or the other hopes the relationship will become what it used to be....too much heartache for you if he doesn't feel the same.
Advise you to move on. He has.
2007-04-18 11:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel individuals can think unfastened to have the opinion that they desire. They will have to be equipped to specific there opinion, and those that pay attention (which will have to be plenty of individuals) will have to have an open brain, and probably difference there opinion. Some evaluations won't become whatever, nevertheless it doesnt imply there nugatory. Even if no person treasures your opinion, you will have to. Its what makes you who you're.
2016-09-05 16:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what he is feeling - to him, you are an "ex" which means he has disconnected from feeling for you or WANTS to. If he wants to get over you and you bug him, it will push him closer to totally withdrawing. MAYBE a few years from now you can try to be friends again, but for now I think you best leave him alone. For some people it is difficult or impossible to be friends with an ex, and sometimes it's best not to even try. It does not matter if he has bad feelings for you now - it will pass in time.
2007-04-18 11:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's so much hope for you and your ex to be a real "friend" situation. You should just let go and stop thinking about him. It's over- you don't have to be bothered by stuff, it's pointless. You broke up with him, and I think there's nothing good about being back as freinds. That never work.
2007-04-18 11:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's cutting it off and you aren't ready. You've apologized and sent the email. It's his cue now. If he chooses to read it, okay. If he doesn't it's okay too because you are now free and clear. Go on with your life and enjoy it!
2007-04-18 11:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is no longer interested and could care less about your emails. Stop begging!
2007-04-18 11:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard for me to decide because i dont know all the facts.it sounds like he might want to be your friend,but he is still mad--maybe he needs more time to forgive you.was cheating a factor in your break up?if it was,then i woulnt blame him for still being mad.
at any rate,just give it more time.time heals alot.
2007-04-18 11:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by jayistheway33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to be your friend? That would be foolish on his part. He doesn't even think about you, but you won't let him be. Leave him alone and stop stalking him. He has move on, why can't you?
2007-04-18 11:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋