I'm hurting bad right now. I said something to my bf that i wish i never,it was stupid,nasty and immature. He told me he might take this job offer which is quite far,and so i would'nt see him as much. I said some nasty things just to hurt him,i apologised after but he wasnt too happy and now i feel like crying because i really love him and now he probably thinks the past 3 years we spent together were meaningless because of what i said. I cant take it back and none of us have mentioned it today when we txt each other but i know he wont forget about this,how can i forget this horrible feeling?
2007-04-18 09:50:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the positive replies everyone,as for those of you who left nasty comments,you need to seriously grow up!
2007-04-18 10:21:07 · update #1
the way to forget it is t know that he has your back and loves you. You two seem pretty serious after three years of dating and if one little comment comes between you then your love for one another wasn't as strong as you thought. Let him read what you just wrote up there ^^^ any guy would understand that a little nasty comment is no comparison to your love for him. Good luck sweetie.
2007-04-18 09:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to forget what you said and neither will he. For both your sakes you will need to bring the subject up and explain that the things you said, you said to hurt him because of the job situation and that there was no way in this world that you meant what you said. Tell him that you are truly sorry. If you feel you can't confront him and talk about what happened, buy a nice card and put all of your feelings down. Good luck with this situation. I'm sure things will work out in the end.
2007-04-18 09:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i have said things many a time and deeply regretted it however it´s what you say now that is important. I feel you must be really honest with him in your apology y simply explain how this nastiness came from your deep sadness at the thought of loosing him but of course how you wish him well and are pleased he has a new job, even if you are not. I am sure if he loves you and this relationship is meant to be he will forgive you. I wish you well.
2007-04-18 10:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do something really special?
Make a home cooked meal with wine etc. as a way of apologizing. At some point in the meal, give him a really heart felt apology. Hopefully, he'll forgive you :)
Otherwise, just shrug it off. We always say things we don't mean when we're hurt.
Put it this way, we're only ever truly angry and mean to the people we love - because we trust them and can trust that they won't leave us, despite how mean we maybe we were :(
2007-04-18 10:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Luchia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey everybody says daft things and regrets it. You were maybe abit hurt at the time wen he said he probably woulnt see you as often.Why dont you explain to him that you were hurt at the time and said these things only because you would miss him if you didnt see him as often.Dont feel bad about it anymore.Tommorrow is a new day!
2007-04-18 09:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by tibetantiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bit too late to forget the feeling. Although if you feel this way why are you on here telling us? If you mean it, go tel him face to face and show him you mean it and do it now! Don't waste time thinking about it, don't think it'll wait till later because something always comes up, do it right now.
2007-04-18 10:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u've been with him for 3 yrs so u must know a way to get to him, appologise whole heartedly, and wait,he'll know even if he wont talk to u now but once things cool down.
Also try to do something else, take ur mind off it for now, sleep etc....as crying over spilt milk never helps!
hope things work out.
2007-04-18 10:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by mamaroach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all say things we don't mean when we're hurting. He hurt you by saying he was going away, and you retaliated. Now you're sorry, so just tell him so. If you love each other, you'll get over this hiccough!
2007-04-18 09:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last three years together were meaningless because you said it. If you really loved him and those years meant something, you wouldn't have said what you did. He should take the job and dump you for a good girl. One that will support him in his attempts to better himself. Instead of trying to hold him back for selfish reasons.
Let him go, he deserves someone better than you.
2007-04-18 09:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
try to talk it out with him!! call him tonite.. or give him a visit at his place.. i understand u feel bad rite now, and you need to tell ur bf exactly how awful you feel about sayin those hurtful words
2007-04-18 09:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by sexii 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋