i would like to know... how can you move on with life after your father dies..its hard for me.?

Question

this hapen two week ago ..my father was 75 ..but up to know i still can't let go.. i can't sleep..i miss him so much..

Answer 1

Oh honey, I am so sorry to hear this.
I'm 55 and am lucky enough to still have both my parents, but they are both in their mid-80's. I will be facing this at some point.
So I can only try to imagine what you are going through. I will most definitely be totally devastated.
I know that you will miss him for the rest of your life. Right now you need to be able to go through the grieving process. Don't "try to be strong". Cry when you need to, let it out. After a while it will begin to hurt a little less and you will be able to remember all the wonderful things about your dad. Focus on that, when that time comes.
And remember, life goes on...trite as that may sound, once you are able to "get back" into your life, it will help you to deal with your pain a little better. Know that you won't ever forget him and keep the good memories close to your heart.

Answer 2

Nena sorry for your loss. It will get better. Talk about your dad in the first person and don't be afraid to talk about the good times and all of the thing he did for you too. Pray and ask God to have him pray for you so the pain will go away. Remember every time you think about your dad it makes it a little easier and he is with you in your mind and heart. Know that if you believe in heaven he will be there to greet you. He is in a better place for sure and wouldn't come back if he had the chance. So get ready to live your life to the end and have stories to tell your dad when you meet him again.

Answer 3

My father passed way at the age of 39 and i was only 9. I was a daddy's girl too and it was hard. It took me a while to wrap my mind around it, but he told me before he passed that he didn't want me to worry about him. He said that nothing would make him happier then being able to look down on me and see me living and enjoying my life. It's too short to worry, fight, or cry. Go on a spontaneous trip, call up an old friend, or just go do something you have never wanted to. I promise you, he would much rather watch you enjoying your life, then you crying and missing him.

Answer 4

I know what you are going through. I lost my dad as well. Grieve all you can. It is the hardest thing in the world to lose a parent. You never really get over it. You just learn to cope. You learn to live without them. And their memory is what you hold very dear and what keeps you going. I lost mine 10 yrs ago. He was only 50. I still cry sometimes. What makes me feel better? Prayers and visits once every 6 months to his grave to give him flowers and sit there by his grave and tell him how much I love and miss him. ((Hugs))

Answer 5

Let me tell you a story. ok last august my first son was born.. the same day my father was murdered. and my father never seen my son.. let me tell you it isn;t the easyest thing to ever get over. and let me tell you it has been a year now and i sit and i talk to my fathers urn daily.. about every day life i sit and i cry because my five children have never seen my father/ so you know what remember the good times that is the best you can do just think my father just turned 44 when he was struck by a toyota tundra that killed him... so i feel ya much love from me

Answer 6

My dad passed two years ago. He was 73 and I am still coping. You have to ask yourself if he would want you to make yourself worse by mourning him forever. It is still fresh and you need to mourn. Get angry and think about getting on with your life but never forgetting how much he meant to you. I honestly think you never get over it. I cry when I watch a movie and a kid tells their dad they love him cause that is how I felt about my father. Just rememeber him in your heart and that is the best you can do cause he will never be away from you.

Answer 7

I lost my father two years ago and still miss him a lot ,I've heard time heals all wounds but they never say how much time . I 'm sorry for your lost and try to remember all the good times you had with him . {try not to ask why did this happen that only makes it worse}

Answer 8

I am so aorry for your loss. I simply cannot imagine my father passing away. Even if it's part of the life cycle, its very hard to lose a loved one, especially a parent.
Stay strong. You know he's in a better place.

Answer 9

I lost my dad 8 months ago (he was 64), so I know how you feel. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I miss him dearly, but I know that he would want me to be happy. Think of all the wonderful times that you've had together. Know that he is watching over you. Your loss is still fresh and the grieving process is different for everyone. Give yourself time to heal, but if it continues to be unbearable for you please seek professional help. Take care and God bless.

Answer 10

It sounds like maybe you're "stuck" in your emotions. I was like that with my stepfather, it took counseling for me to get over it, I was crying all of the time, I couldn't sleep, I was "freaked out" because I thought I'd have to go through it again. Sometimes things like this are also known as PTSD..which stands for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and it can effect people who've been through any kind of traumatic even in their lives. Give yourself say another week or so and if you don't feel any different, check with your doctor and he/she can refer you to a therapist. I went through it and it was the best thing I could do for myself. This was back in 2000. Take care!