Time limit on sex? Love?

Question

Ok so I've met this guy, I'm sooo in to him, we click... In many ways. He seems to be into me maybe even more than me into him if that makes sense... So how soon is too soon for sex... I really like to hold out so that the guy will get to know you & respect you but damn I dont know how much longer I can wait... We havnt been seeing each other long ~ 1 month... & Im an adult

Wow I really appreciate all the advice!

And to those of you that were rude screw you!

Whats up with the 'soooo" is it really that bad I mean come on how can you really convey feelings on here, just was trying... Im 26...

Answer 1

Then 1 month is long enough.. if the moment is right.. you know.. you're watching a good movie at home.. you look into each other's eyes... sneak a kiss.. it gets passionate.. and then you get all over each other.. that's how it usually works best.. you cant just say.. okay lets have sex tonight!... it's best to work it at your advantage.. without them knowing you planned it.. just watch a movie.. and let the movie d o the rest.. but pick a movie that will make you get close and passionate.. like ... Just like Heaven, great love movie* or the lake house*** a man apart*** you know chick flicks that have some good stories in them.... you will definetly get what you deserve without him thinking you're easy and you will get the respect you want too!

Answer 2

Adults don't say " I'm sooo in to him "
Once you start talking like an adult then you can make decisions like an adult , until then you should not have sex..
Because there is always the chance that an accident might happen and then your future would be put aside in order to raise a child ..
If you think just being into someone is a good enough reason to sleep with him then I guess you don't need any ones advice here .. you need to have more respect for yourself ....

Answer 3

I'd try to wait for at least 3-5 months. You don't want to give it away too soon and sex may change the dynamics of the relationship. Get to know each other more, build some memories together. Have fun and let sex come later.

Answer 4

Wait as long as it takes to feel comfortable with him. You'll know the "right" time, as it will be natural and feel right. Waiting a little longer may also help you stay together as you'll actually know more about each other.

Answer 5

if u think u will be the same way as a couple after having sex then go for it otherwise try waiting to see how long till he brings up the topic

Answer 6

There's really no set time limit. Some girls wait for the third date, others wait three months (eek!)

But in any case, no matter how long you wait, the guy can blow you off any time he feels like it, no matter how long you wait for sex. So if you can love him and let him go, then go for it. If you can't handle it then don't bother putting yourself through this and cut him loose.

Answer 7

When the moment is right, you'll KNOW when it's right. You won't have a second doubt of the moment, but be wary, when you are ready to give your all, there is no turning back. Take a sec and make sure you are ready!

Answer 8

Being that your an adult....I think a month is good...considering you see each other alot. But if you only see him on weekends....I would wait about 2 months.

Answer 9

If you are an adult, then you shouldn't be playing the "hold out" game. All that does is show you are immature for your age.

He will not respect you more or less for holding out, you are only fooling yourself. He should dump you and find someone that respects him and won't play games.

Answer 10

I think you wait until you feel the time is right for you. You have done a good job this long if it feels right go for it.