I have always hid being unhappy because I have no one to talk to about it now I am really hurting help please?

Question

I am very unhappy I feel worthless like I have nothing to offer I've felt this way my whole life but covered it up by acting happy now I just feel really depressed and just cry alot

Answer 1

Hope you you feel better. God Bless!!!

Answer 2

Well, though you could have many logical reasons to feel unhappy some of the time... to feel worthless your whole life, is not a good way to feel.
There are many people you can talk to about your feelings...it doesnt have to be anyone you know already. If you are in school, go to your counselor. Go to your local community mental health center, and they can advise you, and then if you need to take meds, TAKE them!
Also, after doing all that, try doing something for others,as in volunteer work, if possible, because that will give you more of a purpose and help you realize you ARE worthwhile, and have much to offer.;)You dont have to have a degree, or be skinny or older or younger,or smarter, or pretty, just show up to help.

Answer 3

We all have bad days...and some are definately worse than others.

You need to look around you...and see all the things you have...all the things you should be grateful for. There are so many less fortunate people in this world who don't have half of what you and I have. They go to bed hungry, and sometimes don't even have a bed to sleep in to go hungry into.

Now, you may be clinically depressed. Only a combination of a therapist and a psychiatrist could properly and medically access that. If that be the case, you may need to be on a medication for awhile to see if that helps you. If you are a minor living at home, you may want to talk to your parents.
If you are living on your own, you may want to confide in your husband, boyfriend, or a really close friend for help and advice. But, ultimatley, the decision should be yours.

If you ever find yourself feeling suicidal, then I would be very concerned and ask that you please go immediatley and get help through a counseling center in your area.

I force myself a lot to get up each morning and go to work, when I would rather just lay around the house. I try to stay busy by working in my yard, doing volunteer work when I can, and above all---EXERCISING! I cannot stress enough how important that is for not only your physical body, but your mental health as well. You will sleep better at night. You may also want to consider eating healthier, if in fact that is an issue for you. A good, balanced diet is important.

Spend time with your good friends, talk to those you feel you can, and begin to try and like and respect yourself. You're probably a good person...and you don't even know it!

God bless you.

Answer 4

You obviously feel really, really low, and being this depressed is horrible.

Do go and speak to your doctor. Anti depressants get a bad press, but in fact they can help enormously. Be aware that you might possibly have to try a few, though you may be fortunate and the first one you try might be brilliant!

But you will feel much better once you get some help; if you really hate the idea of medication, how about therapy? Either counselling or cognitive therapy has proved effective in treating depression.

For a good book on this topic, try 'Feeling Good' by Dr David Burns; get the latest edition as at the end is a revised and updated section discussing all the anti depressants; it's really helpful.

Answer 5

I can relate to how you feel and the first thing you must do is acknowledge that you are depressed. You can't change something you don't acknowledge. Figure out what is causing you to be depressed. Self-esteem, a traumatic experience or just plain unhappy with how your life is?
Once you figure that part out then we can go on to the next step which is to change the things which we are unhappy about. Ask yourself what would make me genuinely happy?
Whatever it is, set yourself to achieve it. Learn that you are your own bestfriend. No one in this world is going to care about you more than yourself. Depend on no one to fulfill you but YOU. What has always worked for me is that I tell myself that God has put me on this Earth with a purpose. Find your purpose. No one is just taking up space.

Understand that life is controlled by us and our choices. That the remaining things for which we have no control of, we must learn from it and move on.

Answer 6

3 things helped me.
1. was keeping a journal, writing and writing until I couldn't write any more. This was my way to talk with someone and it became my sounding board because in a day it has new meaning and I can see the problem clearer.
2. getting counseling. The counselor gave me tools I needed to work my way out of depression and deal with some aspects of life that I didn't know how to handle.
3. medications helped. I didn't take them for long, but I needed them to help me get a grip at one very low point.
You are not alone. This is a very widespread feeling and there is lots of help out there. Keep looking. And good luck.

Answer 7

I'm sorry you're hurting. You need to talk to a health professional. You sound like your depressed.
Depression is treatable, and can be caused by many things.
I'm sure you a very wonderful and valuable person. There is worth in all of us.
You've reached out which is a start, now seek help beginning with you MD.

Answer 8

You made a big step by asking for help. You probably need to talk to a Dr. because there are many treatments for this. This doesn't mean you are crazy or mentally ill. Millions of people suffer depression as it is a chemical imbalance in the brain. If you are a teen, I suggest you talk with your parents. Good luck.

Answer 9

First, I would suggest seeing a dr. and getting some professional help.

Second, maybe doing some volunteer work like at a library or with Habitat for Humanity. You don't have to know construction work to help there. They always need people.

Good luck and I hope you find the help you need. You are a valued person.

Answer 10

I feel the same way but i never felt like this my whole life, just last 5yr. I'v tryed anti deppressednts but hey make it worse. i find myself always wanting to be alone, i used to have freinds but my boyfriend has secluded me from them, I feel like an alien when Im around people and i never use to be that way, I was always very happy out going and full of life now, I feel like i dont matter. U can email me if ud like [e-mail].

Answer 11

Me too. We have such a desire to be loved, that we always put on this super happy person that everyone will love. I have been diagnosed with bi polar manic depression. Medicine is not the answer to our problems. However it can save us from desperate thoughts while seeking counseling. In your heart of hearts...you know who or what broke your mind. Go to your doctor and get on medication that can help you in the meanwhile, then please go get counseling. Pray, God will never leave you even though we think he has. Once the crying starts,,,it is too hard to manage alone.