Cinema Situation?

Question

My boyfriend moved here to live with his brother about 6 mo. ago and we started going out about one month later.

I just found out that his brother is moving to Michigan and taking my boyfriend with him, he said they'll be gone before the next school year.

Now the movie-esque part:

He was talking to a friend of mine and he told her that he loved me and that the last time he told a girl he got hurt so he didn't want to tell me to my face. He also told her that if I felt the same, then he would stay and not move with his brother. But....that would mean he'd becompletely on his own. He have to get his own appartment, job and still go to school at 18!

I'm still trying to figure out if i love him and I think I do, but I don't want to do that to him. If he left he would have so many more opprotunities than here and I don't want to hurt him just so he'll go.

So........
What do I say?

Answer 1

Speaking as an old fart, I'd say 18 is too young to be changing your life for a girlfriend, especially if you just think you love him.

So I'd say try a long-distance relationship for the school year and then reassess the situation. If you were meant for each other your relationship will survive one year. What you do then depends a lot on where you are in life.

By the way, I like your title--made me want to read your question.

Answer 2

To be honest it isn't exactly great to "Think" you love him. You should definitely know if you have those types of feelings for him. Think about it, when he leaves, will you be able to manage without him? If you can live like that and just think about him once in a while, then maybe he's just attractive or sweet, but you don't love him.

If you think you can't spend any time without him at all, most likely, you do love him. You never want to lose someone you love.

Also, consider him. Being 18 years old you are finishing high school or just getting out. You don't want him to crash and burn by not being able to afford much. If he has to work all of the time to get money to say, what good would that be on a relationship?

Do what you think is best for you and him.

Answer 3

Tell him that you know he will like Michigan because they have real nice people there. Then kiss him, tell him goodbye and wish him well.
Then as for you, my advice is to sort of do like the fisherman does when he has caught a fish that is too small to keep. He releases the fish back in the water then casts his line out to get a bigger and better fish. Good luck.

Answer 4

Letting someone go to allow them to have a better life is a difficult decision. Be strong and do the right thing. If you're having trouble understanding, watch "The Butterfly Effect".

Answer 5

You need to be completely honest about it. Don't tell him you love him if you don't or you're unsure because that could hurt him in the long run. I would just let things happen as they may. It'll all fall into place and what's meant to be will be

Answer 6

Tell him the truth. Tell him your feelings and make it all clear. Emphasize that you can work through the distance (if you believe you can) and support him.

Answer 7

let him go but keep in touch and if it's meant to be it will be,