Mother in law is a very mean woman. I have known her for over 20 years and tolerated her abusive ways. She is an alcoholic with a mouth like a trash can. I have now cut her off completely, don't alow her near my family, don't take her calls and try to avoid her in everyway. A short discription of what she does - she is intoxicated every 2nd or third day, she calls my home, work, parents, friends and anyone I know and says the most horific things. Since my husband & myself don't take her calls she leaves about on average 30 messages on our mobiles daily, emails, writes letters and so on. She gave up her son (my husband) when he was 4 months old as she wanted to have a good life. Her mother adopted him and brought him up. She was alowed to see him on a daily basis. Since I met her 20 yrs ago I have hardly known her to be sober. She is not only rude but tells horific lies. I need advise on how to stop her harrasment and that she stays away forever.
2007-04-18 09:40:54 · 20 answers · asked by pirate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm majoring in criminal justice and I'll tell you exactly what to do. Save the letters, messages, and any other evidence you have of her harassing you. Get in contact with a good lawyer from your local town and tell him you want to file harassment charges, defamation of character, and emotional distress. You should have no problem, with your evidence, of winning all three. If money is an issue, there are plenty of lawyers that will not charge you unless your case is won and some also give you a free consultation. I would first and for most go down to the local police station and make sure you file a report. If you take it to court, the judge will want to know if a police report has been filed or not and file a restraining order. This will also include her contacting you and your family in any way possible.
Good Luck!
2007-04-18 10:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by bAmA cHiCk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've got two options here.
Try this first: Pick a day where she's not drunk and sit down with her, both you and your husband. (Your husband needs to lead this conversation.) Tell her in no uncertain terms that she is now cut off, and she needs to stay away until she's gone through treatment for her alcoholism and has been sober for 6 months to a year. Let her know that her calls will be blocked, her emails will be blocked, etc.
If that doesn't work, a restraining order is really the only remaining option you have.
2007-04-18 09:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do, is file a restraining order (there's more than one type), change all of your phone #s, but call the police when you get messages and explain to them that you are getting harassing phone calls. This is what they'll probably do....have you sign a No Trespassing Order, which will state she can't come on your property or call you, and if she does either one; you call 911 and they take her to jail overnight. This starts a paper trail. With her drinking, that will make things interesting for the police, but still.
To have your phones changed, make sure you have the police report with you so you can give this to them, (if they charge you for it, ask for a manager). Switch also your cell #s and changing your email address can be done also. There's a way to do it, I just can't remember how. Inform family and friends of what you're trying to do so they know how to act, and make sure they know NOT to release any info on you after things are corrected.
2007-04-18 09:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact your local police dept, and file a report - also try to get a restraining order against her. Just b/c she is related to you does not mean she can make your life a living hell. Make sure to keep a record of things she does (do not erase the caller ID, keep the messages she leaves on your phone etc.) Also get a copy of detailed billing from the phone company to show how many times she called you.
2007-04-18 09:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you will need to file a police report for harrassment, detailing all she is doing(make sure to get an official copy) Save the messages and get notarized statements from anyone she is calling, these statements need full details of dates, times, frequency, and content of her calls.
When she goes to court, BE THERE! Request from the judge a restraining order against her. Phone harrassment, letters, emails are all considered harrassing communications.
You will probably want to contact you phone provider and tell them you are getting harrassing phone calls and they will tell you their procedures also.
2007-04-18 16:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to talk with a lawyer then all possible gat a restraining order against her to where she can not come near you or your family (that is she can't write you call you or even see you in person if she break this order she will be arrested )
2007-04-18 09:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Melody-Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a harassing order
Call your phone company and block all the numbers she has
Get a restraining order
Declare her emails spam
Then legally if you hear from her again she is breaking the law
2007-04-18 10:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by scienceman91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only way that you can do that is to take out an order of protection.How will your husband feel though.If you take out an order then you only need her to call once and then you call the cops and she will go to jail for harassment charges.First you should clear this with your husband.
2007-04-18 09:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by hendersonswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order..ASAP
2007-04-18 09:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mami of 2boys & 1 on da way:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never stay away.
Make sure to change your mobile phone numbers and send her letters back unopened saying "wrong addy".
Maybe a restraining order if she goes too far?!
2007-04-18 10:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋