A question for christians who believe sexual orientation is a choice?

Question

I know there are quite a few of them, because at least 5 responded that way to http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AthwbxQMfyrvj1jyrr1HdDLd7BR.?qid=20070418131055AAXZ1RQ

My question: How and when did you decide to your sexual orientation? And before making your decision, were you attracted to both sexes or to neither?

'Truth', why not answer the question then?

Steve, are you saying people who decide between heterosexuality and homosexuality have a choice if they choose homosexuality, but not if they choose heterosexuality? That makes no sense whatsoever.

Scully, Mark: You have not answered the question.

Answer 1

What completely blows my mind, is every one of them who say that it's a choice, are not homosexual, so HOW could they POSSIBLY know that it's a choice? The only way you could POSSIBLY know that is if you are homosexual, and know that you CHOSE to be so.
People really should stop shooting their mouths off about things they couldn't possibly even begin to comprehend. (For the purpose of condemning people according to THEIR religious point of view.) The ignorance in those kinds of statements is so incredible, that I'm surprised the people saying them have even figured out how to walk.

Answer 2

I was never brought up in a Christian environment, but I always knew that heterosexual sex was the only real norm.

My conscience made it clear to me long before I ever heard anyone talk about God - just like my conscience lets me know it is wrong to kill or steal.

Later in life I learned that God gave us a conscience as a security guard against sin. We sin when we run against our conscience.

I think if every homosexual were really truthful they would say that deep down inside they knew what they were doing was wrong the first time they did it, but they derived so much sexual pleasure from it that they kept on doing it until it became the normal thing for them. Some of them are fighting with their conscience after years of this lifestyle and would turn from it if they knew who they could turn to for help.

To them I say, look online for those who have left the lifestyle of homosexual or lesbian and find out what helped them get out of it. You can accept or reject what others have to say, but you owe it to yourself to see what others have to say who are no longer involved in homosexuality. There may be some valuable information there for you.

Answer 3

In my opinion, there's no such thing as gay.I don't pretend to understand homosexuality & neither do I understand what makes someone gay. But I don't believe they are born with a homosexual inclination.
I can understand how this view would frustrate a gay person because they believe they were born gay, but I believe everyone is born with an attraction to the opposite sex, which occurs at puberty. So I tend to presume that a person turned gay around that time in their life or after & only they know the reasons for it themselves. It doesn't mean they're evil, as some so-called Christians on this forum will say. In my opinion gay=confused.

Answer 4

The Bible says that Homosexuality is an abomination, it also says that getting drunk is a sin. Some people are more prone (since birth) to be an alcoholic, other never struggle with drinking. Same thing with conceitedness, pride, etc. It is a tendency to sin that each person deals with on different levels. Some people are just more likely to struggle with homosexuality. The choice comes in when they act upon that tendency. It is never a sin to be tempted, only to give in.

Edit: I didnt choose my orientation, I have simply always been heterosexual, the way God tends for poeple to be. Not that I cannot be tempted to act upon homosexual urges (which are sinful). All people that claim to be homosexual are only acting upon or living out a temptation, they did not decide their orientation.

Answer 5

I definitely dont believe that we are born gay/straight....I believe everything in life is a choice(that all of our actions are our choices...we choose to act the way we do...)...

I have been attracted to men as long as I can remember or for as long as I have had "sexual" feelings...Im pretty sure I had no attraction to either sex when I was a little kid...


EDIT..

I am christian and I think that god made us to be with the opposite sex not the same sex ...but I cant and wont look down on homosexuals just because of their choice...Even if I think they made the wrong one I wont go as far as to say that they will rot in hell because i believe god loves all of his children....I honestly dont know...

Answer 6

I believe that sexual orientation is a choice. I also believe that some may be mentally, or even genetically predisposed, to homosexuality.

I also believe that regardless of the above, God views homosexuality (regardless of how one feels or predisposition) as an abomination.

For me, prefering the opposite sex was not a conscious decision. How early was I attracted to girls? hmmmm....well, I so loved Miss Jay, my 1st grade teacher....of course, then there was Jennifer, that girl that sat on the other side of my 1st grade room. I just cannot remember earlier than that. I hope I answered your question satisfactorily.

Answer 7

CHRISTIAN HERE:

I think it depends on the person. A bisexual can indeed choose between the two genders seeing as how they are attracted to each other.
I don't think you are born with this issue. When growing up, I was always drawn towards guys. (I did not sleep with a man until I met my husband).
I felt more comfortable and at ease with them and I was not judged by my popularity, looks, or where I lived. I did not have to deal with all of the catty arguements that are often between girls.
In that same example, there are many girls who are drawn to girls and men to men. It is in the way they are treated by each gender that connects them. For women, sexual attraction is rarely based on looks. Instead, it is the emotional bond that statistically turns us on, with looks being a bonus, if you will.
Generally men are said to be the complete opposite, but this is a myth. I believe that men have a much more enjoyable sexual attraction when there is the added emotional bond.
Okay, I forgot exactly what my goal was here, but I think it is combined personality/environment/treatment.

Oh, yeah...My sister in law is bi sexual (wich my brother loves) and she is also a Christian. I do not think God loves us any less for our decisions as long as we love who we are with and love him as well.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

I believe that sexual orientation is a choice; however, not in the context you are satirically framing it. (I must admit that I chuckled at the irony exemplified in your question.)

Many times, one does not say, "I believe that I wish to be gay!" and in so doing live such a lifestyle. According to the Bible in Romans 1:18-32, people who chose not to acknowledge God were given up to their own lusts. These people did many things, including exchanging natural relations (heterosexual) with unnatural ones (homosexual).

It was not that the people decided to be homosexual; rather, they chose not to acknowledge God as who He is: the perfect, holy, righteous, judge of the Universe. Homosexuality is a perversion of His creation; God does not approve of it. Just think about what happened to Sodom & Gomorrah if you are unsure about this.

"What about homosexual Christians?" you may wonder. I propose that these people, while they may think they have the best intents, do not see God as He truly is. (This is a common error and is done by many people. However, since God gave us the Bible as a revelation of Himself, He intended for us to know Him as He is. We should never make the mistake of mentally "creating God in our own image.") In this way, these homosexual Christians are living in sin.

I hope I was of some help. =)

Answer 9

Normal people do not decide their sexual orientation.
People decide to be homosexual. For many reasons besides sex. Every person makes choices. If I make a choice to kill some one, I am a murderer. If I make a choice to steal, I am a thief.

Btw, there are many people that make a choice to not have sex at all. Were they born that way? No, they made a choice.

Answer 10

So... because someone is say... attracted to a dog? That means they were born that way?

HAHAHA.... I'm sorry, really, but that's just silly.


According to that logic anyone who has ever had a homosexual thought is homosexual.

*EDIT* When I was younger I had thoughts going both ways... it just made sense to be attracted to women, since I am a man and I could never have children with a man.

I also know that lifestyle brings hurt and pain or stems from hurt and pain.

I didn't mean to offend anyone and i hope everyone can learn to find happiness.

Answer 11

I honestly don't think it's a choice. LIKING someone of the same sex is not a sin, it's how you act upon it. you can like someone of the same sex but it's a sin to have a love or sexual relationship. I know that sounds foolish and unfair but it's true. lol, sorry, i think i gave you a little more than what you were asking.