Why do men say they still want to be friends after they break things off?

Question

Why would you want to remain friends with someone who you dated romantically? Is it just me or am i ruthless? I'd rather it be just like a band-aid and be done with it. No more contact. It ends for a reason, why still be friends?

Answer 1

I agree with you, and am the same way. Girls that I've broken up with I have no ties with anymore. I don't even acknowledge them if I see them in the street. Usually, it's girls who try to use that line, and I just tell them that I already have plenty of friends.

As far as I'm concerned, we're the normal ones, and the "wanna be friends" people are the crazies.

Answer 2

I agree with you, although it is nice to be able to remain friends with someone you were romantically involved with, it is difficult to do. Some people can do it, others cannot. Either way, it is ok. Some guys suggest remaining friends as a way to make the break up not so brutal. It is a kinder way of breaking up. Does not really mean anything. There is no law that says you have to remain friends, you do what is right for you.

Answer 3

people say that ridiculous line to say it. it sounds like a nice thing to say after a break up/but noone wants to be friends with an x especially if it was serious. i rather us live as far apart and never have contact what so ever. because when u see that person its only gonna bring back good and bad memories

Answer 4

They think it will ease thing for you just tell them you would rather a clean break I am the same its not ruthless its called moving on.

Answer 5

Probably because you really like the person but not strong enough to get as serious as they are toward you at the moment. Thing change. It's always better to be best friends with your lover.

Answer 6

Same reason women tell men that after they break up...to not hurt the other person's feelings. Men have learned this technique from women...just so you know who to blame.

Yes it is foolish as most people are just lying when they say that.

Answer 7

I asked the same question when I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 yrs and he said that he still wanted to be friends.. when I asked him why, he said it was because he still loved me but if he couldn't date me "right now" because I would end up hurt. But at the same time he still want contact with me because he couldn't stand it if we weren't at least speaking to each other. I still love him so I get whatever time I can with him... And if it's just friendship then that's what I'll take

Answer 8

it depends on the situation.. if u guys broke up after someone cheated.. the freinds thing shouldnt b an option.. if it was uz it was mutual falling out of love thing.. then its probably a good idea.. if the guy broke up with u to get with someone else.. he wants u as a booty call so dont go for it. lol unless u want to b a booty call..

Answer 9

They don't, they just know girls are way too emotional and would go insane, so they play the "friends" card to soften the dump. I personally never remained friends with ex's, I moved on with my life.

Answer 10

i think if two people break up violently and dont really want to see eachother then theres no reason why they need to remain friends, they cant remain friends in my opinion. but if you two mutually or slowly drifted apart then its okay to still talk.it just depends, i mean look at me: all my ex girlfriends dont talk to me except one. that one though...i fell back in love with haha im pitiful.