Why don't you like your mother-in-law or in-laws?

Question

Do you have a problem with your mother-in-law? How do you deal with it?

Mines was crazy, still is... when me and my husband got married she tried everything in her power to break us up. She always made our buisness her buisness. And him being "The mommy's boy" always thought she was right. That lady was crazy, and she was beyond evil. She caused so much drama and confusion it caused our marriage to end. Most was because he listened to her and his behavior towards me. So he lost his wife. And she just helped him run from child support...crazy lady!!

snugglesrn: Your situation was just like mines. Me and her were so cool, like buddies until I had my first child. She brought my husbands baby picture up to the hospital and put it next to my baby's face. B****!! I could kick her a** for that!!

The Best girl ever: I agree, that was the problem he was telling her everything. And thought he needed her opinion all the time. And was at her house everyday. Yeah it was like begin married to her.

Pinkforever: Wow thats a trip, my mother-in-law did the same thing. She abused my husband as a child and she talked bad about him our whole marriage. She had him depressed, he gain a lot of weight..he took his anger out on me and the kids a lot. And now he don't have us.

Answer 1

I can relate. Mine was a control freak too. Not much you can do about the situation. If you have to be civil...you can agree that you have one thing in common....and that is affection for her son. Although, if she's your former mother in law, even that is no longer true. It's important that a guy with a controlling mother agree that issues within the marriage are private and that interference from either set of in-laws is to be avoided at all cost. It usually takes awhile for a guy to realize that for himself. Running from child support is an on-going challenge....so good luck with eventually settling the score.

Answer 2

I don't have a MIL but I do have a SIL that is a PITA. She has a problem with mixed relationships in her family. DH's family is Latino.

How do I deal with it? Hmmm- not to well the first few years but eventually I simply told her if she couldn't butt out of our marriage I would keep her out of it even if that included keeping her away from my husband- her brother. She did not like that at all. I had my husbands full support by this time and it was understood by all in his family that we would not tolerate any interferance in our marriage.

Once your married your spouce and then your children become your family unit. All others are secondary. Your parents, siblings, cousins and grand parents included. There opinions, needs and or wants come after the family circle that you created.

Hate to say it but it sounds like your husband choose to be a son rather than a husband. You'll be happier without the drama.

Answer 3

My mother-in-law is a crazy lady too!! I've been with my husband for 19 years, She has been the source of many arguments and almost caused us to get divorced. Instead, I gave him a ultimatum and made him choose between moving 200 miles away from her or losing me and his kids. Needless to say, he chose us! They have always had a very close relationship, and I was ok with that, the part that I wasn't willing to deal with was her blatant disrespect for me and our marriage. He can't stand up to her, so I finally did. Of course that caused major drama, so we didn't speak for almost 2 years. She would go through my kids and say nasty things about me. I finally got fed up and started making plans to move - with or without my husband! It is much better now that we are so far away. She still tries, but we don't involve her in our lives very much anymore so she has no leverage. She visits on holidays, I tolerate her, and that is the extent of our relationship.

Answer 4

I can't stand my mother in law-She's a big drama queen and will do anything in her power to break my husband and I up. She was like my best friend until I had my daughter.
I use to tell my mother in law off but that would always make me look bad to the rest of the family. Now I just ignore her and it seems to work.

My father in law I absolutely love. (He is no longer with my mother in law. ) He is a wonderful and understanding man. I am glad my husband takes after him!

Answer 5

My mother-in-law is a nut case and insults everyone. She even insults my husband by saying hes gotten so big since hes been with me. And "eewww your getting so round and look at your bug neck oh my gosh" She also had bad debt and they ended up getting into my husbands bank account and taking almost 500 $ out, a week before our wedding. She also goes around to r friends and tells them that I dont like her and I'm after her, and for them to find out what I'm up to! Shes also back on drugs after 13 years of being clean. After we got married we had a BBQ for everyone and she showed up dressed up more then me. She also thinks we owe her stuff, like money.

Answer 6

My mother in law is great. I divorced her son years ago and she still tells everyone I'm her daughter! Have you considered that you might have some ownership in the struggle for sonny boy? I never wanted him to stop being her son. She was always ok with him having a wife. Its easy to point a finger, but how do you miss those other ones pointing back at you?

Answer 7

I love my mom-in-law. It took us a little while to start talking & doing things together. That's what I'd expect from some one when you walk in to there house with there son & spring a wedding on the with a week and a half notice. She didn't know me & I didn't know her. We started talking more as soon as we told her that her first grandchild was on the way. I don't know what I'd do with out her. She is willing to help me out & I'm willing to help her out at any time. I love my dad-in-law as well. They are lovely people.

Answer 8

I really like both of mine, and I miss being around them so much, father-in law he always beat me in card games, and mother-in law she was always by my side when I needed comfort and a helping hand. Now rhe ex ones were like yours that is why I traded mine for more modles.

Answer 9

I don't like my in-laws because they front at first and later they show there inself stingy,stuck-up.selfish,or whorish,greedy,and hate other kids.TRust me I have a lot of in-laws Im an expert alot has come in and out in my life very few are good and stay around.those are the ones i like and talk to others the can f##k off with there middle finger!

Answer 10

I don't care alot for mine because they think they are better than anyone else. I just stay away unless it's something really special that have to do with the grandparents because they are really neat people.