Should I Ask Him Or Would It Be Rude?

Question

I've been talking to this guy since December 06 and he's really cool. I finally met him in January of '07 and I noticed something about him that's been bugging me, but I don't if I should bring it up because I don't want to be looked at as rude.

He has a MAJOR UNDERBITE and its really really bothering me. I haven't seen him since January, but we still talk almost everyday and since March he's been in a relationship with this other girl.

I don't want to ask him about it or tell him it bothers me hbecause I don't want to seem like I'm superficial because there can be a lot of things he doesn't like about me and we're not together.

Would it be rude to ask him or should I just keep it to myself?

If I do ask him, how should I go about it in a nice way?

Answer 1

I actually used to have a major underbite, which I've since had surgically corrected. I would say that its not rude to ask about, but at his point, definitely don't say it bothers you. Especially since you aren't an exclusive couple. But a good way of approaching it would be to say something like, "I noticed that you have a prominent jaw. Has it always been like that? I heard you can sometimes have bad headaches w/ that. Do get any?"

Answer 2

Well you should ask because you know things about each other in order to be in a relationship so if do decide to ask you should say "there has been this one thing bothering every since we met and I think about everyday and it's not that it's anything wrong with it I just gotta know do you have an underbite" and he shouldn't take that in the wrong way and if he have anything about you that bothers him then tell him to be free to ask

Answer 3

There's really no reason to ask about his underbite, unless you're just curious. If you're actually bothered by it, that's not his problem. An underbite's an underbite. He's still really cool. And asking him won't take away the underbite. His jawbones simply didn't form correctly; that doesn't change who he is.

Answer 4

I don't understand .... you want to ask him why he has an under bite??

If he's in a relationship then the two of you aren't a couple ... then I don't see any reason why you need to tell him that he has a physical feature that he can't help that bothers you.

I would suggest just keeping it to yourself and be his friend without being rude to him.

Answer 5

what will telling him do about it? Make him more self conscious?

Mentioning it to him is a bad idea. I bet he already knows about it and hates it.

This is the same a guy asking the question "should I tell this girl I know that she has small breasts"

Pointing out others flaws is always a bad idea.

Answer 6

It would be rude, keep it to yourself.

What would you ask him about it? "Did you notice you have an underbite?" (He does) or maybe "Would you ever have surgery to correct your underbite?"

Why on earth would you mention this? Would you want someone to ask you about your flaws?

Answer 7

Ask about an underbite? or ask him about it bothering you? this makes no sense sorry. anyways point it out to him if you want to.

Answer 8

Ok there is nothing he can do about his overbite unless he gets it operated. why bring it up if he's probably not gonna get it fixed and hurt his feelings. If your not gonna pay for his surgery and neither his he then why even bring it up.

Answer 9

Keep it to yourself. If his underbite is a deal-breaker for you, then move on.

Answer 10

I would just simply ask him what happened to his mouth. I mean, if you can see it there's no reason that would be rude. Now if you intend to tell him that you have a problem with it, that would be rude and superficial but asking isn't.