2007-04-18 07:18:07 · 16 answers · asked by GUMMY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds all too familiar...By the time my father DID speak of his condition, it was too late, so I feel your pain dear - truly do.
It would help if you knew the name of the doctor, what his specialty was, or if you see a prescription around and know the nature of any drug(s) he is taking...That would be a start. That advice aside...you need to find a quiet moment when there is just the two of you and say something like..."I'm worried about you Dad, about your health...I don't want you to leave me...will you share with me what is wrong with me so I can do my part to help you?" -IF, that doesn't work...maybe a short note, and in it, close with how much you love him and want to be there for him...
Goodluck honey, my arms are wrapped around you in thinking how hard this is for you right now, but I think you should try one of my two suggestions. You clearly are hurting to know, and believe it or not, by gently prodding in this manner, he may open up to you - and you could be a viable and much needed, source of support he never dreamed of...
Please try...
Grace
2007-04-18 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are getting really concerned I would suggest that one night after dinner you ask your dad if the two of you could have a talk. Tell him you obviously know that he is seeing a doctor and that you are concerned and that you would rather know what is going on that guess and imagine all kinds of nasty things, even if the illness is very bad, you could at least know what he's dealing with and how to handle it. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-18 07:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he wants to sort it out without worrying you - though as you know some thing's wrong, of course you're worried. Perhaps he's worried of the outcome. Perhaps he's worried about seeming to be not tough and not coping. Ask him what's wrong and if/how you can help. Tell him you are worried. Medical information is personal so everyone has the right to keep it confidential.
2007-04-18 07:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if you knew what kind of doctor your dad is seeing but then they would not tell you,pt confidentiality.Maybe when you and your dad are alone you could tell him you know something is wrong and encourage him to confide in you.Tell him as a family you can get through it together and to be honest with you,let him know how much you love him and you want to help...........Good luck.
2007-04-18 09:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must be worried but respect his privicy - it might be something small but personal that he doesn't want you to know about, or maybe he will tell you in his own time - guess you need to trust him on this, if you're really worried you could try asking him if anythings wrong but don't push it or make it look like you're checking up on him! Hope he's ok xx
2007-04-18 07:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is in good hands seeing a physician. Just make sure he is seeing a specialist for his medical condition as this makes a big difference. Second opinion helps too.
2007-04-18 07:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your dad is not talking to anyone about it cause he dont want to worry any of the family.
Why dont you speak to your dad and tell him you are worried about this,Maybe he will let u know.
I would think if it was anything life threatening he would have told you all.
I would also speak to another family member about this maybe they can talk to him on your behalf.
Try not to worry too much,He could be fine.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-04-18 09:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you concern..hey how about talking to your dad as a friend..for that you need to act mature person and not his baby...well may be he doesnt want to hurt you guys thats why he is hiding..what you can do is..tell him that you know that something wrong.. but not knowing what ???? makes life miserable..tell him that you are feeling miserable...tell him by sharing may be you all can work together n solve it.Make sure to tell him that you love.
2007-04-18 07:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind a doctor. If a medical doctor then its good that he is take caring his physical health. If a psychiaatric doctor then be alarm, he might having mental breakdown.
2007-04-18 07:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sun Valley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he is ready he will tell you . Until then respect his actions. Maybe he is not talking about it until he knows for sure what is wrong....sometimes our elders are like that . they don't want to worry others.
2007-04-18 07:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋