My ex broke up with me 3 months ago after 6 years of dating. Because he didnt want to settle down. We have been together since we were 16. He has started drinking & partying alot something he never wanted to do before & he is always in a bad mood if he is sober & his family says it seems like he is trying really hard or acting to change himself. he has always been really close with his mom but know he is pushing her away. I was just wondering does this sound more like a phase, maybe he just needs to have a wild hair & doesnt want to be tied down or does it sound like this is the person he wants to be. I really want him back but I cant figure out if this is a phase he is going through or not..what do you think?
2007-04-18 06:39:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it is not a phase, this is one of those clues to what he will be like later in life. He isn't going to change for you, and if you don't like it find someone new. You have now been warned, if you go ahead and marry him, don't complain later.
2007-04-18 06:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am deducing that he is now 22, correct? Since you guys had been together since 16, I'm assuming that he is sowing his wild oats at the moment and wants a taste of life after being tied down for so long. Unfortunately, it hard to say whether he will become alcoholic or not. These are choices that are in his hands only.
2007-04-18 13:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me this is not a phase sounds like your friend has a drug problem. been there and done that angry at the world when iam not high or can't get there.once you start drinking it's a life long struggle either to stop or keep going. especially if he's now pushing his family members away
you need to get some professional advice to help him especially if you still care about him. if it's his drinking or drugs he needs help and support but he want let go until he's tired of it. it'll be easy for him to turn his life around now if it's only been three months
2007-04-18 13:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like his life has become unmanageable. You should check out Al non for yourself. He hasn't hit his "bottom" yet. Do you want to continue enabling him to drink. Suggesting AA to him will not do you any good. If he continues there are only a few options for him: institutions, jail or death. How far are you willing to go with him? This doesn't sound like a "phase", it sounds like full blown alcoholism. I also sounds like he needs de-tox. Sorry.
2007-04-18 13:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a phase...but in a way it seems like he has a problem with drinking... just give it time and see what happens.
2007-04-18 13:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phase or not, don't wait around. He may never get beyond it, or it may take months or years...move on with your life.
If a time comes when he's "grown up" and you find him acceptable again, and you are available, then you can consider re-perusing a relationship. But don't hold your breath.
2007-04-18 13:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a phase.. getting out of a long relationship.. leads people to drinking.. and partying to mingle with others to still see if they still got it.. mean they can still attract the opposite sex.. he probably just wants to be left alone for now.. or for someone to sit down and talk and tell him he is loved.. you just have to talk to him and find out yourself
2007-04-18 13:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by i ♥ Food 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the person he wants to be NOW but later in life he will realize responsibility when it kinda falls in his hands and he cant push it away, the more he gets older the more he will slowly drift away from being this crazy ...partier but it will take a long time before he totally gets it.
2007-04-18 13:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a phase that usually takes a LONG time for guys to grow out of. don't wait around for this guy, it's not worth it!
2007-04-18 13:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your was to young to try in get serious at a young age. he wanted to still party and have fun, and you wanna settle down
2007-04-18 13:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋