Why do so many silly parents think that it is wrong to whoop your child's behind??

Question

Everyone that I know got a good old fashioned behind whoopin when they were growing up. They are not violent criminals, they are not dreds of society. They are productive law abiding citizens. I wasn't whooped that often as a child, only once or twice, but when I did get it I knew that my parents meant business.
These parents that say that whoppin is wrong are severely misinformed. I bet you are the same parents who's kids are out in public running wild, very disrespectful that will eventually grow up to become criminals because you didn't stop problems right when they started.
I am not saying abuse your children. I am not saying to whoop your child for every little thing that they do. No way not at all. Only give them a good behind whoopin when they really deserve it. Talk to them first. Whoop behinds only as a last resort. If more parents did this, the world would not be as messed up as it is today.

Answer 1

I believe in a good whippin. That is how i was raised. Time outs dont work as effective. All they are doing is showing that they can get away with it and only have to stand in a corner. Now Im not talking about abusing your child or anything but i dont think that a few pats on the butt when they misbehave is a big deal. Its been around for a long time and im not gonna stop because people think time outs are better

Answer 2

I believe in spanking. but only for 2 very specific offences on the part of the child. the first case is when a child intentionally does something that can cause himselfe or another injury. The other case is when the child is blatenly insubordinate and disrespectful. If a child doesn't respect and acknowlege the parents authority, none of the Spockian Psychology will work.

My kids know what the line is and they rarely test it, but when they cross that line, I spank them as soon as possible but not in anger.

I see a lot of parents who believe that any form of punishment is abuse. Their kids are the ones that grow up to believe that you are only guilty of a crime if you get caugt committing it. This is because they never learn respect for any authority.

The other extreme are the abusive parents that losecontrol of thier temper with the children and lash out in anger. That too is wrong. This makes the child into a rebel.

Answer 3

Most children are very adept at mimicking and learning through the examples that have been set. By consistently turning to "whoopins" most children have managed to learn that hitting is the way to get changes in behavior or attitude. That philosphy does not go over very well in any other aspect of life.

But what really is troubling is your term "silly parents." There is not a parent out there that is not struggling daily with the decisions that are made in order to raise a healthy intelligent well adjusted child. And all parents make huge sacrifices, and put in a lot of effort in their attempts to do the very best job they can for their child (ren.) Your term "silly parents" is insulting and trivializing to the modern day parent that struggle with issues found in today's world.

In addition, I would bet that you don't have children. Because most parents realize practicing the self control required to use any other form of discipline other than a "whoopin" is immensly more difficult than issuing a "whoopin" and sending someone to their room.

But thanks for your question because I know most parents really need to have one more critical voice questioning their parenting decisions.

Answer 4

nothing wrong with putting that hand across a bottom side long as you dont go over board ,use it as a last resort and dont use anything but your hand.yes i got my share of whoopings growing up.my kids doget a butt whooping at times.time out is just a way to ignore them for a little bit so when its over they go back to what they were doing to start with.you watch way to much of nanny 911.when kids get in trouble and show disrespect it is the parents who are blamed.yes i have grown kids to and there doing great they even admit if they got whoopings more often maybe they would be a little different but there not bad.there decent respectful adults now.one even wants to be a cop so tell me how does it ruin them

Answer 5

I see no problem in a good old fashoned whoopen every now and then, it's all those parents that dont decipline who are the cause of all the out of hand hoodlums rinning around now days. My father didnt hesitate to whoop me and my brothers when we needed it and I am glad that he did, I actually have more respect for him with him doing that, if he hadent who knows how we would have turned out. There is a difference in a whoopen when it is needed and abusing your child. I am a mother of 2 and one on the way and both my husband and I are firm believers of proper decipline and our children will defently know what it is..

Answer 6

I agree with you in this. Yes, there has to be some form of discipline. If you say one thing too many times and the child ignores it. A whooping comes in handy when you really get their attention. My method: If he/she doesn't stop after you said said quite a few times then a whooping comes in handy, force them to sit quiet or go to their room to think about what they did then you can sit down with them and discuss why they got a whooping. It usually works in my case. Society is just messed up. I don't think it is the people who put this dumb law up or whatever you want to call it, its always the government interfene into something that doesn't concern them. I wouldn't give a crap what other people think, if my child doesn't listen then i have every right to whoop them, not abuse them. There is a difference between whooping and abusing and nobody is that stupid to NOT know the differences.

Answer 7

It doesn't make them silly parents, it simply means that they choose a different method of punishment. I am not against spankings at all, however I feel that every parent has the right to make choices in how they raise their kids, without being put down by other parents. There are so many different choices that parents make, on so many different subjects, that just because you personally don't agree with them, you should respect that they have the right to make their own choices, and as long as their children are not abused and neglected they have that right.

I don't personally agree with alot of choices that other parents make with their kids, but I don't think that the fact that I dont agree with them, means that I have the right to call them names or say they are a bad parent.

Answer 8

I don't know the answer. I was hit a LOT. My dad went so far as to make himself a custom paddle for me. He cut it out, sanded it, stained it, polished it, and USED IT! A lot...

I was a good kid most of the time, I turned into a good man. Did that have anything to do with being "whooped" a lot? I don't know. I do have a lot of resentment toward my father though.

Should I spank my children if I ever have any? I just don't know...

Answer 9

well i am on both sides of that question,
i believe its ok but it can be taked to far.
i will slap my sons butt when he needs it but im not for any belts etc..
i dont take pleasure in doing it,i often feel bad after the fact and it wasnt even hard.
but he is 6 now and i need more control i wont spank him for not listening to me just when he does bad things that could harm him or something he repetes doing,i find taking away things he enjoys works better.
i dont do the time outs i think they are harsher than a smack to the bottem.his school does the time out and if he ever comes home and tells me he had to stand in a cornor with his nose to the wall me and the school will go around.
when i was in school they paddle the students and back then we didnt hear of school shooting becouse there was order in the schools.
either way what i am doing is working good i have a well behaved kid in school hes never in trouble and they all talk about how sweet he is.
so i beleive in a spanking when needed..

Answer 10

I personally do spank at times. I know people that do not and actually their children are pretty well behaved. The parents are pretty strict and consistant with the time outs and punishments. As long as their is a punishment-time out, grounding, spanking, whatever-children will get the picture who is in charge. I just personally think they need they spanking while someone else may feel they need no TV for a day .... I do think when someone says they dont spank peopls assume they dont punish and thats just not true for many people