2007-04-18 06:25:12 · 15 answers · asked by Junebaby 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
So basically I can hit you and it's O.K.! Since you are practicing the no consequences life.
No one is saying a beating, but a good spank never hurt anyone. Last time I checked there weren't many of the "old school" parents going into schools and opening fire. They knew the difference between right and wrong, because someone loved them enough to reinforce the words that were spoken.
I guarantee when your child goes to school and tries it, he'll be hit back. Do you really want it to come as a complete shock???
2007-04-18 06:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by JSB 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the child. Some children respond well to reason and time-outs, while others couldn't care less about anything besides immediate retribution.
Tell them ahead of time that if they hit, they will be spanked. Then, if they hit, spank them. They won't doubt your word anymore, and most likely you'll only have to spank them once or twice.
Remember to spank them with regret! NEVER act like you're enjoying it, or are even neutral! Make sure the message is clear that you don't want to do this. Don't just tell them that, either, behave like it too. Kids really don't want to see their parents unhappy.
2007-04-18 07:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by notmakani 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes indeed it is setting the wrong message. toddler hits, daddy hits back shows that hitting is ok.
Young children don't have the language capacity to express themselves, so they hit to get attention. A suggestion is to remove the child from the situation and get down to his level, holding his hands and speaking to him with eye contact.
using toddler-level language and limiting the words too helps. words like "use your words" depending how big a vocabulary the child has or "we dont hit" or something like that to get the message across. Also - go to your library for tips on things you can do or say to a toddler this age.
key is get down to child's level.
2007-04-22 01:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by morrigansstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely sending the wrong message. You can't hit me, but I can hit you because I'm bigger and more powerful. Your child will take out that agression on others. As far as "we all got spanked when we were children, and we turned out fine." No, we didn't turn out fine. This culture is absolutely infested with violence and abuse and spanking is one of the first exposures a child will have to that violence. Absolutely not o.k.
2007-04-18 06:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mommato2 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
When people murder someone we give them the death penalty. Is that sending the wrong message?
2007-04-20 06:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. He needs to learn not to hit other people. If he doesn't want to be hit then tell him don't hit others.
2007-04-18 10:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Girls Rock Too! 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no, not at all. I spank my son and he's 13 mo. old.
There is something wrong with society today that believes everybody is committing crimes and killing because we spanked our children, well the biblr itself says "spare the rod, spoil the child"
2007-04-18 06:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by CJ&Drewsmomma 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I agree, it is sending the wrong message! We need our children to learn consequences to behavior, like sitting in the time out chair, or on their bed, instead of getting hit. When they are older, and can understand why they are getting a spanking, it may be different, at toddler ages, they don't understand.
2007-04-18 06:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 4 · 2⤊ 7⤋
Disciplining a child is NOT the same as hitting people!
2007-04-18 08:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
i don't think there is anything wrong with a good old fashion spanking! we all got spanked as kids and we turned out just fine! i think that if we spanked our kids then we wouldn't have as many rotten teenagers out there running around these days!
2007-04-18 06:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by j_z_256 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋