I take the kid on trips etc, and recently he has opened up to me that he likes to wearing, makeup, pantyhose, high heels etc.
He is pretty feminine, and now he wants me to buy him some clothes and makeup etc, so that he won't have to borrow his Moms. He wants me to let him dress when he is over at my apartment.
I don't want to betray his trust, but I know that his Father will go nuts.
2007-04-18 06:23:54 · 13 answers · asked by William A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you dress him up one weekend when he stays with you or take him on a trip as your niece. He must really trust you and you should let him see what it's like to dress-up like a girl, he might change his mind after he spends an entire weekend as a girl.
2007-04-22 05:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this usually means that he is more comfortable with women and he feels good "being" a woman. there might be some kind of issue with him and his father. maybe his father is cold to him or closed-off to him. do NOT break his trust and tell the parents! the kid is 12 and is probably going through A LOT of stuff. it does NOT mean he is "bi" or "gay" that's old-style thinking. tell him that you aren't comfortable with him dressing up in your apartment and that way you aren't putting yourself in the middle and don't by anything for him.
2007-04-20 18:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by stevemincer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too attached to his mother and her life. His father needs to take an active role in his upbringing. Don't betray the trust just make sure dad knows that his son needs his attention and affection.
2007-04-18 13:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that your nephew trusts you enough to open up. I would suggest counseling for the whole family. The dad so he can deal with it and the nephew because he HAS to have some anxiety issues with this.
2007-04-18 13:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by willbillbedamned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a discussion with the parents on this issue. Explain to your nephew that he is who he is and you want him to beable to be himself around you, and you want to help him to be himself around his mom and dad too, and that you really need to discuss this issue with them or that he can and you will be there for him when he does it. His dad may or maynot accept it and he needs to be prepared for that but he also needs to know that he does have someone (YOU) that he can turn to and count on and knows that he is loved uncontionally. It will do him more harm in the long run hold all this in and hiding who he is. Also before doing so you may want to get some information regarding this to share with the parents, like who they can talk to help them through this and what its like for their son. Good luck and its great that this kid has one trusted adult to turn to, that is one less kid thinking harmful thoughts. Thank you.
2007-04-18 13:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the mother's brother or the father's brother? (Or is your wife sister to one of the parents?)
If the mother is your relative, I think you take her out to coffee and sit her down and tell her (or at least feel her out on the subject). If you are related to the father, you have to decide how you are going ot handle this. Are you willing/able to take the boy in and raise him if the father throws him out?
Also, try to get the child to go to the counselor at school to get help (to deal with the kinds of negative feedback he is going to get from family/friends when they find out). See what type of crossdresser he is - is he attracted to boys (gay) or does he just like to dress in women's clothes (crossdresser) or does he feel like a woman trapped in his male body (transsexual)? Then do lots of research to help him out.
Good luck to you and him! :)
2007-04-18 13:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this kid needs some serious counseling so that he can decide how he's going to live the rest of his life. Try to help him.
2007-04-18 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i have riased 2 men and i believe that 12 is way to old just to be playing dress up~~~there u have all the signs of bi-or other>>>i believe there born this way bless there hearts
2007-04-18 13:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladysosureone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u need to start asking questions. something could have happened to him in his 12 years. there are a lot of creeps out there who will do things to kids. i think that this type of behavior reflects on something that could've happened where someone may have abused him.....
just please start asking questions on WHY he does it, HOW does it make him feel? WHAT makes him do it. Remember that is NOT normal for a 12 year old child to say.
2007-04-18 13:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by shes so lovely 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
omg he is gay, he just doesnt know it. dont tell his father, he has to do it himself or he will never tell you anything again, talk to your nephew about how you feel that his parents should know.
2007-04-18 15:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by sum1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋