My Maid of Honor decided to be selfish since she does not like another bridesmaid and step down. She will not even be coming to the wedding (Shows me what kind of a friend she was). Due to this *new* problem we do not have the site that we had planned on for over a year! My wedding is only a month away and I have called almost every park and venue in my area and all are booked on the day I am getting married.
Luckily We are only having about 20-30 guests at the wedding so would it be ok to hold off on the reception? Would it be rude to not have one at all or wait until a site comes available?
2007-04-18 06:21:17 · 13 answers · asked by T Rad Fools 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
** Some more details: We are not getting Married in a church, The original place was in a Garden, I have called all local parks and Halls. Unfortunatly we do not have a backyard. I love all the ideas that have been given. I am trying not to sweat the small stuff. I just don't want to offend my guests
2007-04-18 06:49:20 · update #1
It's absolutely ok to hold off on a reception, and there's nothing in the wedding "bible" that says you must have a reception at all. (BTW, there's not a wedding "bible") You could also have the reception on a separate date--my hubby and I did since we had a destination wedding--ceremony in one city with family, and the reception 2 weeks later in our hometown.
Since you have such a small number of people to plan for though, does someone have a back yard you could use? You could probably rent a tent (yes, even at this late date) for some shade. But that's only if you want to fool with it, no one will think anything if you don't have anything--and you'll save a bunch of money.
I'm sorry about your MOH as well, that's always sad to lose a friend, especially one who you obviously felt very close to.
2007-04-18 06:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While most couples choose to have a reception following a ceremony, it is not required. I have seen a few couples opt for just a ceremony and not a reception at all. Just be sure to thank all of your guests for coming after the ceremony to let them know you appreciate their support and attendance. But if you can afford it, look into having an informal dinner at a buffet, Italian, or even Chinese restaurant. Often their prices are very affordable. Or you could have a post-wedding reception at a later date. Or you can opt to not have a reception at all. The choice is really up to you. The ceremony is the most important part of wedding. A reception is just an added plus. I'm sure your guests will understand.
2007-04-18 07:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wedding is that small, you should be able to find a venue. Perhaps you could look a little more outside of town. Or, do you know anyone with a nice house that could host the reception? Have you called local hotels to see if they have ballrooms available? This site looks kind of neat. Put in your location and see if anything new comes up.
2007-04-18 06:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by lei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I held a party in my flat, it was for 40 people, it's a small flat and no garden, people enjoyed standing chatting to others while the canapes were going around, we had a fork buffet and people just sat where they wanted (we borrowed some extra chairs) Have a small champagne reception at your house, with 20 - 30 guests that would work.
2007-04-19 03:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your MOH situation. :(. Are you getting married in a church? Can you have a small reception in the church? That would be my recommendation especially with only 20-30 guests.
2007-04-18 06:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by troyman2000us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like my son & daughter-in-law. Pitch a tent on the lawn right outside the church, rent folding chairs, too, and cater a dinner or at least cake and punch! The reception has to be right before, or right after the wedding ceremony!
2007-04-18 06:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a small wedding, how about in someone's yard? Even if you or your folks don't have a house, You may want to ask about a family friend's home, they may be willing to allow it if given enough encouragement. Outdoor weddings and receptions can be even nicer than ones at halls, if done right!
2007-04-18 06:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by taliswoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 30 guests, do a restaurant, or even a bar. Then could do something like give 2 drink tix per guest. They might even have a back room. Or even check into anywhere like the above post said, like museums, kid party places, the zoo, barns, ranches, or even where you're having the ceremony, see if you can get something catered in.
2007-04-18 06:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Area?
What about unconventional sites such as a botanical garden, a college rose garden, a school gym, local farm, bed and breakfast etc.
Try also to book on either a Friday or a Sunday , where sites more likely won't be booked.
Good luck
2007-04-18 06:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any chance of a friend hosting something at their house, with you paying for the food and beverage. It' doesn't have to be fancy. Just a chance to share your day with people you love. Otherwise take everybody out to dinner. many places have private dining rooms that may be available. It's your day, enjoy, don't stress out over the small stuff and remember, it's ALL small stuff. Congratulations
2007-04-18 06:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by willbillbedamned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋