Why don't parents discipline their children anymore?? Why do parents have a "whatever" attitude??

Question

When I was a child, I was not allowed to speak to adults any kind of way. I was taught to have respect for my elders. I am not that old only 31, but it seems that the world has changed so drastically since when I was coming up during the 1980's.
I look at the kids now and I am amazed at how rude and disrespectful they are. They are mean and nasty towards their parents and it seems like parents just accept this kind of behavior.
Is their no such thing as discipline and respect anymore? Why have parents gotten away from the basics needed in raising good God fearing children.
In my opinion the world is so messed up now because of the lack of morals and discipline parents do not demand from their children. I am yet to become a mother, but if I did have children they wouldn't get away with disrespecting me. Why do you think parents are so lax now a days??
Please give all opinions on this subject matter!

Answer 1

BECAUSE NOWADAYS ANY DISCIPLINE IS CONSIDERED CHILD ABUSE. IF YOU SPANK IS CONSIDERED CHILD PHYSICAL ABUSE IF YOU SPEAK TO THEM ON A MORE FIRM AND LOUDER (NOT SCREAMING) BUT JUST A BIT LOUDER THEN IT'S CHILD MENTAL ABUSE. YOU CAN'T PULL THEIR EARS YOU CAN'T SPANK THEM ON THEIR BEHINDS YOU CAN'T GRAB THEM BY THE ARMS PULL THEM TO THE SIDE BECAUSE GOD FORBIDS SOME OLD LADY SEES YOU DOING SUCH A THING THEY WILL CALL THE POLICE ON YOU AND SAY THAT YOU ARE ABUSING YOUR CHILD. SO WHAT'S A PARENT TO DO. NOT ONLY THAT BUT KIDS NOW A DAYS ARE TOO SMART. THEY KNOW THAT IF YOU LAY ONE FINGER ON THEM THEY CAN GO TO DSS AND TELL THEM THAT THEY ARE BEING ABUSED AT HOME. WHEN ALL YOU DID WAS SMACK THEM ON THE MOUTH BECAUSE YOUR LITTLE 9 YR OLD THOUGHT IT WAS OK TO TALL HER MOM TO FU%#K OFF.

Answer 2

I think a lot of parents are slacking of on the discipline aspect due to a few factors. One people are becoming parents at younger ages. And two most of those who have children want to be ":better" parents then their parents which means not doing the things that hated their parents doing.
I don't believe you need to physically punish your children to raise well behaved children. My parents never once hit me they opted for a calm adult conversation and then some sort of repercussion. Their is no need for you to hit your children.
I don't think TV has anything to do with the way kids act . But I do think that you should as a parent limit the amount of TV your kids watch. Make your kid play a board game or read a book every once in a while. And make sure if your children are watching vulgar shows with sex violence etc., you should explain that most of the activities are wrong and are just for TV.
I also think tho that we have no right to judge any parents methods until we have children of our own.
Nickie

Answer 3

They want to be buddies not parents. A parents job is to be a teacher, a discipline giver, a caregiver, a provider and a friend. A lot of people out there do not want to teach their kids right from wrong and would rather that their kids be able to blame someone or something else when they screw up and not accept the consequences for their own actions. That is where the problems with our society is today not bad kids just bad parents. Also parents look for excuses as to why they don't raise their kids right, just a reflection on their own parents. It is a cycle that needs to end before things can get better. Don't you just love the blame game?

Answer 4

I worked with a girl last summer who has a 12 year old daughter who was a brat, exactly as you describe. She said she decided a long time ago that she would always let her daughter "speak her mind". For some reason she also thinks being disrespectful is "speaking her mind".
I have an 18 month old and she will know how to respect and be respected.

Answer 5

I am not that kind of parent. The good parents and kids are not in the spotlight bc we are quiet. SO we get forgotten, but we are here. And there are many of us.

I taught kindergarten for a while, and the majority of kids and parents are the "good ones." It;s the others that bring us down. They are just too immature to want to discipline there kids and raise them the right way. Living the way they do is just EASIER. They let their kids watch tv and movies and music vidoes and games with horrible stuff, bc it is accessible, and gives parents their time to do what they want.

Answer 6

DEAR

MISS

I WAS TAUGHT THE SAME WAY BUT KIDS OF TO DAY JUST DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE OLDER PEOPLE OF TODAY THEY JUST WANT WHAT THEY CAN GET AND NOT WORRY ABOUT THE REST OF IT AND IF THE

PARENTS DO NOT DO WHAT THEY WANT THEY GET MAD AND PISSED OFF AT THE PARENTS AND DO NOT GIVE THE RESPECT SHOWN TO THE PARENTS

BACK IN THE 70, 80, -91 WE GOT SPANKED AND IT WAS NOT CHILD ABUSE ARE ANY THING OK

SO NOW THE PARENTS WILL NOT SPANK THE CHILD BECAUSE OF CPS ARE IT IS CHILD ABUSE OK

TAKE CARE

Answer 7

We live in a world where the government has taken over and won't let people live. SRS comes down very hard on abuse, neglect and exploitation. Kids nowadays are getting away with things because parents are not allowed to disipline their children. If you wanted to spank (not beat, spank) your child. You can't because it's not allowed anymore! There are even some children that tell their parents to go ahead and hit them because they will call SRS. That is the world we are living in. That is the reason why kids are getting away with murder and rape and everything they get away with.

Answer 8

Some parents today want to have kids but they don't want to parent. By that I mean they aren't interested in being intentional about their parenting. Unfortunately they are more interested in having everyone get along and being a friend to their children the point of parenting is lost to them.

Answer 9

Too many parents want to be their kids' "friend". Also we all know that it is SO much easier to let them go than to implement discipline and enforce it. That is the "lazy" parenting style. Children don't need more "friends ', they need loving discipline and BOUNDARIES to know that they are loved and it also makes them feel worthwhile to know that somebody cares enough about them to make them do right. THIS parent does discipline (I didn't say beat butts) and my children are not mouthy and rude.

Answer 10

Sounds like you know what youre talking about. Volunteer somewhere then, its far more useful than complaining on here. Lots of youth organizations would probably love to have you. Get involved in your community and make a difference.