What do i say??????

Question

Unfortunately because of my big breasts i attract some unsavoury characters e.g. old perverts (old enough to be my grandfather), drunks and any other perverted freaks. Sometimes it really freaks me out and one day hopefully ill get a breast reduction.

More than often they will come up to me and either they will say something obscence and digusting or they will ask me out.

At this point, my mind goes blank and i don't what to say, i feel to tell them to F*ck off, but i'm a bit of a wimp.

So if you was in this situation, What would say or do next????

The best answer will get top points

Answer 1

I have the same problem. Not because of my breast size but just well I don't know why but I get hit on a lot- and I'm only 20 and I swear most of these men could at leat be my father or way older brother! It is so gross! So I tottaly sympathize with your problem. If they are really rude or obscene I just try to keep my cool- remember you want to stay calm and show how much maturity you have over them- just say something like, "excuse me but I prefer to get through my day without being hit on by a sleeze like you, please leave me alone" or something like that- you get what I mean I'm sure. If they are not super gross or sleazy but are just hitting on you this is what I ususally say. "I'm sorry but I'm just not interested" or "I'm sorry but I really have to go" ( I just said that to some guy at longs who wanted to "hit me up" in the parking lot and rushed to my car and drove off) Or you can just say I'm sorry I have a boyfriend and I'm really not interested in being hit on while grocery shoppping .lol. I've said that before too and it shut him right up. Even if you don't have a boyfriend just say it- the stupid idiot will never know the truth.

I hope that helps!! I know its really hard to go through that everyday and it can actually be really hurtful(Or at least I think so.. most people think having someone hit on you would be complimentary but when they are that sleazy I find it more insulting) I wish you the best and just focus on ignoring these idiots- one day you will come out with the best come back adn will feel SO proud of yourself!! Good luck = )

Answer 2

If I was in your situation ...
I would dress in a way that hides my breast when necessary and show a little cleavage when I feel it could help me overcome a problem or complete a goal.

Your big breast are an advantage (except when it comes to any kind of back pain). Talk to a girl that has a flat chest and listen to her. Really listen.

Some girls that have a small chest get ignored, get fewer job offers and have trouble finding a cute outfit that will look good on them.

If a guy stares at your chest, but ALSO ask about things you like, your hobbies etc ... he's ok. Not really a freak, he's just a chest man.

I would be courteous and sometimes I would flirt back just to shapen my seduction skills and lay any ground work with guys that might be helpful in the future. I would show my cleavage when I need my car to get fixed or when a teacher is questioning my grade (hey, any situation when you want to save money or maybe get something for free).

Other times I would wear a looser top that hides my chest. I would never refer to a guy as a freak. And, I would stay away from the drunks all together. If I had a big chest and I thought a guy was slightly drunk I would say, "excuse me" then leave.
A guy thats drunk and horny can be a big problem.

I would say to the really old guys ... "be nice", "hey, I"m a lady", or "Its really rude when guys act like that".

Think twice about elective surgery. Get the facts on any side-effects first. Also, learn how to be assertive and express your feelings without being rude.

Answer 3

I'm large chested also. As big of a pain it is, you are also somewhat blessed. People pay thousands of dollars for what we have been given naturally.

Anyway, the next time some makes a comment about your breasts, just walk away. Don't even give them the time of day. If they ask you out, but are clearly staring at your chest the whole time say something like, "I don't date men that stare into my chest, rather then my eyes when talking to me." then walk away.

As much as you think your breast are attracting these men, it could also be your attitude. Try being more confident and posed, then these men might stop approaching you. They will see you have a lot of self-confidence and will no right off that you won't take any crap from them.

Good Luck

Answer 4

hi asuka, first of all, go for the reduction!!! I had mine back in 2000, and what a difference. I had mine done for the sake of my back, but wow what a difference it made to my confidence. I don't think about "them" anymore, don't worry about what bra or top I can wear, where I'm going what sort of guys I'm going to have to fend off.
By the way, it makes no difference how conservatively you dress, how shy and retiring you are, most guys assume if you've got a big bust you're "friendly"!
I remember how difficult it was dealing with those men who are older, people you're supposed to treat with respect. Its damn hard when they're doing something disrespectful to you.
One thing I used to find would stop some, was a blank, innocent look and ask them to explain what they mean, while looking them right in the eye. or "sorry , I didn't catch that" . Do it quite loudly so that anybody nearby can hear,( they usually don't like an audience for their leching) Try not be embarrassed, some older guys enjoy that.
Another trick when some guys mouthing off in front of his mates is just to look bored and say "gosh, how original, Ive never heard THAT one before", and just turn your back.
And if all else fails, my one liner that used to shut up the rudest, mouthiest of disgusting lechers who thought he was god gift to wit was " the bigger the mouth, the smaller the dick". It shuts them up fast!!
good luck

Answer 5

I've always found big boobs are a curse. All they do is catch toothpaste when I clean my teeth.

I don't know where you are when you are being approached by all these wierdos but, if it's in the street, then you need to find a better route home. Tell them to eff off and leave you alone. You shouldn't have to feel self conscious because of a bunch of freaks. Maybe you need a bit of assertiveness training. See if there are any self help groups in your area. When you ooze confidence they should leave you alone.
I'd still rather be big than flat chested though.

Answer 6

as someone who used to have big breasts i can sympathise with you completely, people think because they are bigger they have a devine right to touch them regardless of whether you want them too or not, i suggest a smack in the mouth would put them off doing it again, but if you would like to take the more diplomatic approach, then ask them if they would like their eyes back as at that moment they appear to be attached to your cleavage, if all else fails hold your head up high, ignore the sad little people who are either jealous or not getting much action at home, be proud of who you are and remember, what goes around comes around, you will have your day.
Take care..

Answer 7

I met a woman yesterday who was also well built and wearing a low cut top. I made a point to not look because a gentleman won't.
As far as those who treat you like that, silence may be the best. Giving them the thick ear they deserve would probably get you arrested.

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 8

That sucks and I'm sorry you have to deal with such creeps. As much as you want to tell them to f*** off and despite the fact that they have an uncanny knack for making all of us uncomfortable, it's not worth stooping to their level. You can tell them they're being offensive and walk away or you can simply try to ignore them. Don't give up your dignity just because someone else gave up his.

Answer 9

You could always try to wear a minimizer bra. Which will help a little bit.

Try the usual "take a picture it'll last longer" too. Or look at them in disgust and run away. Or scream and run.

Answer 10

People can be horrible.You will have to learn to ignore them or tell them to get lost.I have red hair always been called ginger nut etc.I now take no notice one day you will be able to.Good Luck