How do YOU deal with death? (reactions, emotions, etc)?

Question

It usually takes me months or even years to come to grips that someone I know died. But, my friend that just passed away provided me with tears of grief and sorrow in an instant... I keep thinking what made him so different? Is it because I am older now and understand death a little more or maybe because I am more emotional now than I was back then...

I am also very fascinated with death and I think that is another reason why it usually takes me a while to realize that someone is gone forever...

Answer 1

Death when it comes too soon in a person's life, is really, a tragedy. One that affects moreover someone having lived life to the fullest, being old and simply becoming ill and passing. This is, as it should be with humans. Once again I say, we are born, we live, we die. No one lives forever. Accepting death as a very real part of life helps to unconciously keep aware of how precious our lives are, how important it is to strive for the best and to forgive others when they fall down.

The immediate reaction of a friend or loved one dying is simply one of frozen emotion...hard to believe, if not accept and not always wanting to deal with it. TIME is what eases our pain, our suffering and heartache at the loss of a human life or even pet, that was most special IN OUR LIVES. Kind words, friendship, but most of all, time to grieve in each, our own way. Whether that be keeping busy or a flood of tears...we all grieve a little differently and that most certainly is, most human and - OKAY!

My father passed 5 years ago - full life, sick for a short while...I never stop missing him. Seeing another with their father is enough to make my eyes tear up, I miss him so...and I probably always will. But my thought is, wasn't I lucky to have had a loving father for so long, that loved me back? An unqualified YES.

Grace

Answer 2

It is different for everyone the way that they react, when someone dies, People will express it and other will want to bottle it up inside of them. When i lost someone really close to me, shock just over come my body and my emotions and i never reacted then cried for a while, My nan was the best thing in my life and i love her so much. I still sometimes think why don't i grief. I feel guilty but i know that i thinka bout her every day and i will never stop loving her. Death is a terrible and horrible thing. People's life get taken when they are the best and most amazing people in the world. Just remeber the good time and also the bad times, like little arguements and things and this will help you. You will never forget someone or stop loving them because you don't hear there voice, But the hurt will fade and go. Hope everything works out.xoxo

Answer 3

Here is a web site that helped me when my mother in law passed last a few months ago from lung cancer at only 62 yrs. old. This page is about the last days and imminent death and how it is viewed.

She moved in with us, and I had to take care of her the most, on top of that I have 4 kids. For me it's not fascinating, it's heartbreaking to see your 7 year old watch a loved one dying and to ask me why he only got seven years with her, and his dad got 27 years with her. And my husband's heart being ripped out and stomped on, they were very close and I was with her too. She was supposed to move in and enjoy her grandchildren, and finally start to live her life and enjoy it. Instead, not 24 hours after she came, we were at the hospital.

It is eventually guarenteed for all, but i'm more of a focus on life and stop and smell the roses kind of person. I don't like to think about death, i'd rather do what I can to prolong it into the far future and eat healthy, so I can see my grandchildren get married some day.

Answer 4

It is wierd for me, when an animal of mine dies it is harder for me than when a Family member or friend dies.
when family for friends die, it doesnt really hit me until the funeral, after which i cry on someones shoulder, have a rough next day. then i start coming to terms with it after that process.
I even watched my grandfather pass away in the hospital last year and while i was very upset i did not shed a tear until his memorial.

But when one of my animals die...it seems like it never stops hurting, as im writing this and thinking about my loss' my eyes are becoming watery. It seems as if all the dogs, cats, and even a turtle i had in the 3rd grade (i am 22 now)
never knew how much i loved them, and I believe thats what makes it so hard.
I can tell a human being i love them in three simple words.

Answer 5

Death is of the body. Your memories can never be taken away. And, in your heart, they will always be with you. Maybe youve now learnt how to deal with a loss more, or maybe youre still hurting alot and yet not showing your feelings fully. Some people do have a delayed reaction. But, I would say it seems like the first reason in your case. We do learn to take responsibility in regard to dealing with death, and handling it better. I wish you the very best...

Answer 6

But they're not gone forever. The spirit is an energy that lives on in my opinion. Not to mention they will live on in your heart, in your mind, in memories. Death is never easy to deal with, but I take peace knowing that we are all here to learn and teach lessons. Once that time is done, our work is done, and it's time for us to move on to a different plain. Now, I'm very glad for the time that I have with the people I love...and I try to remember in my dealings with them that none of us are promised tommorrow, and if the day should end permanently for me on this Earth, the ones I loved knew I loved them. :)

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I have found that I, myself, also took alot of time to acknowledge death, and when my boyfriend died two years ago (in 3 days), I was instantly grieving. I think that for me, it was that I was better in touch with myself, and my feelings. I have learned in the years to able to process my feelings and emotions faster. I believe that I am grateful to have begun to grieve him so quickly. This way I am not harboring feelings that I am trying to deny, and you know, death is a part of life.
Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 9

well the best way is to let emotions out... never keep it in or hide it... there is always someone who will be there to help you throught it... i also sometimes wonder about death.... but i learn, at least from my own expirence, that you can't let death break you... i know ppl who said.. we all will die some day.. why live if it only give pain?... the best way i deal with death.. is to carry on what the person who past wanted me to... knowning they would be happy...

Answer 10

i never heard someone aying to be fasinated with death ,it is the cycle of life to get sorrow and joy ,tears and smile its not a deal it comes naturally.