maybe he can change his ways, right?
2007-04-18 05:34:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wrong. If he's abusive, talking to him will NOT change his ways.
Be smart and get the hell out before things get any worse. An abuser will not change until he fully realizes how dangerous and abusive he/she is.
2007-04-18 05:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely break up with him ..... No he will not change his ways. Once a man is abusive he will always be that way.
I got my husband arrested because of abuse. He broke my fingers trying to get my ring off, he hit me and dislocated my jaw, he dragged me around the floor by my hair ....... once I pretended to be unconscious laying on the floor and he bent over me and dribbled spit all over my face, and then a day later said he was sorry ..... then a week later it was all on again.
This went on for nine years and I took it. Stupid me but i didn't have anywhere else to go. He did this nearly every week and the next day he would say he loved me, he was sorry, and he will change. What a load of crap.
But worse than being physically abused ... is the mental abuse. That is where they start saying .... you're stupid ... you don't do anything right .... etc etc.
No don't go there at all ..... they will not change .... once they start it won't stop ... believe me.
And thank god I haven't seen him for the past 13 years .... I never want to again ... I have a great life now.
2007-04-18 06:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a stupid person would stay with someone thats abusive. The problem with women is they think they can change a man, if you want to change the man then you dont love him for who he is.... so move on. LOL why do you think he'd change hes not the one unhappy being smacked around. The only person you can change in life is you, and the first thing you need to change about you is the fact your being abused. LOL talk to him now thats funny, when he hits you do you think you have to tell him you dont like it or it hurts? come on now grow up and move on.
2007-04-18 05:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Run as fast as you can the other way. He won't change. In fact, he'll get worse. If you care about yourself you'll break up with him. There are far too many men out there who are man enough to keep their hands to themselves. You know as well as I do that abuse spirals out of control and the next thing you know you're on the Maury show describing how your boyfriend tried to kill you by pouring gasoline all over you and lighting you on fire. I'm sure you're smarter than that and you definitely deserve to be treated with respect and honor. Good Luck
2007-04-18 05:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with the asshole. If you continue to put up with this unacceptable behavior it may one day cost you your life. Get out while you still have the chance. He knows its wrong so theres no need to make a discussion out of it. He wouldn't do it if he cared about you. If he hasn't change his ways already then he's not going to. He needs the kind of help that you cant give him. This help is from a therapist.
2007-04-18 05:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. He may change for a while, but most times they will revert back to being abusive. Get out while you can.
2007-04-18 05:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by jesssikahhh_x3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy and i'm telling you to leave his ***. you will never change his ways. maybe for a little while, but he will always fall back to being abusive. Also, help out the rest of us nice guys and give us a chance. you deserve much better.
2007-04-18 05:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Scottie_T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT expect change. Do NOT accept his behavior at all!
No ONE has the right to be abusive to anyone. And no ONE has an obligation to accept this type of behavior. It's HIS problem. Advise him that you will NOT continue this relationship until he seeks help with HIS problem! Such behavior will only escalate.
2007-04-18 05:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong he will never change, he is a punk and you should kick him to the curb now, no one should put up with abuse from any one. If I was you I would throw rocks at him.
2007-04-18 05:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never change and you deserve better! There IS a guy out there that will treat you like a princess, don't waste any more time on this guy! Get out now!
2007-04-18 05:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by corazon_muy_dulce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋