...divorced yet? My wife left 6 months ago suddenly and filed for a divorce. The papers have been filed but the waiting period isn't over for another 2 months. I am emotionally over her but am dating a new woman now who is a bit tenative. I am wondering if this is maybe why she is holding out on her feelings a bit.
2007-04-18 05:19:26 · 15 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would definitely take it slow with a guy like this. First of all, he isn't technically free, and might change his mind (or the wife might change her mind). If I really thought I had a future with him, I wouldn't mind taking it slow in the beginning.
Also, I would doubt that he was really over her already - divorce is a very turbulent process, and even if he feels he's ready to start over, he might not have really cleansed himself of the previous relationship yet. I would take it slow to make sure I wasn't the "rebound" or "crutch" girlfriend.
2007-04-18 05:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down! Just enjoy your feedom and have fun for awhile. You might even find that you like beiing single and playing the field. I can't imagine getting a divorce and starting right away to seek another serious relationship. It's like jumping out of the frying pan & into the fire. The woman you are seeing is a sensible person.
2007-04-18 05:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she will be the first relationship after your wife, she just may be prepared not to take the relationship very seriously.
Smart, not getting too close with a guy isn't legaly divorced. there are too many men who lie out there. All the way round, she is being smart by keeping a little distance.
2007-04-18 05:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by so tired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, as a woman (or man on the rebound) I would never expect ANYONE to declare their feelings after 2 months of dating...Not a realistic time frame.
You two need more time together dating BEFORE anyone opens their mouth to say anything binding - and certainly, she deserves the assurance by actions AND time passing, that you are not still, in ANY way, involved with your ex.
Most Sincerely,
Grace
2007-04-18 05:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be better when the divorce is finalized. You should also wait for that to happen before you let your relationship grow. Then, you officially won't have a wife and the stress will be gone. Good Luck. It will happen sooner than later. =)
2007-04-18 05:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she is abit worried that you still have feelings for your ex. She wont relax until its all officially over. Right now, she's afraid of getting caught up in your mess. Be patient & treat her like a queen. Thats all the reassurance she needs.
2007-04-18 05:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a woman, but Im smart enough to know thats why shes holding back a little.. wouldn't you be ? your not totally done with the first relationship and are all ready in another relationship. personally I wish people would spend a little time on reflecting on their life before they jump from one relationship to another.
2007-04-18 05:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by lovin_livin_laughin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rule it out, but I most certainly am not going to wear my heart on my sleeve for you either. You cannot expect much from her right now until you get your divorce, and you shouldn't expect much of her either. She has to protect herself first, and too many guys say whatever out their mouths. Get you divorce and then step up the relationship.
2007-04-18 05:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by ellasdaughter2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she has every right to. Don't hold that against her, that probably means she is a good girl. I personally don't think it would be a BIG issue, but hey, different strokes for different folks!
2007-04-18 05:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by lovepink317537 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally yes - to me it's still adultery as the person is not divorced yet.
2007-04-18 05:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋