Is "Distance" or "the lack of love" the cause for this break up? please help?

Question

was in a long distance r. for 1.5 years. last met up in JAN, were great. We were planning to meet again in Easter. But finally broke up in FEB coz he is tired of handling LDR n he has lost feelings to maintain it. (NOT coz of another girl)

he's 24, and me 23. he has just started working for 8months. So it's really not a time to talk about compromise n stuff. I wanted to move there but he doesnt want me 2 sacrifice. Also, he's very independent and kind of compromise-phobia. Anyway we broke up.

i just wonder if he is so rational (give up a relationship coz he knows that it's hard)... or just because he doesn't love me enough to make an effort and to solve our problems.

Is distance really so difficult for a compromise-phobic-man that he chooses to break up even he knows im important?

or Would a compromise-phobic-man like him try his best to maintain the relationship IF he really cherish me?

is distance or the lack of love the cause?! can love really overcome everything!?

Answer 1

Nope life isn't that romantic, besides you need understand love is personal to each person. What they believe it is and how they treat it. Love is a symbol that humanity uses to sum up the total feelings that an individual feels for another person. I don't know you and I love you, simply because I feel for you. Now we can paint this in so many different lights but that might be more confusing. Just understand that humanity can love (therefor feel) for a lot of things, shoot even dogs and cats have hearts to feel and love. But its the human brain that keeps us out of trouble. The dance these two play is what makes most of our relationships work. The problem hear is chances are it was for the physical that he even bothered to love you. If not maybe just for the attention. But the fact we do know (because honestly we can never know how much he felt for you, or loved you, because thats him and him alone) he didn't think it was good to keep you around... sorry to say that... but at its most simple, honesty, and no holds bare, his actions show, that you were expendiable. Now weather he is thinking about you now and feeling stupid, or laffing at how he game'd you, well never know. Use your brain next time.... the main reason long distance relationships don't work, is because the point of a relationship is to share your lives, now how do you do that at a distance? This is typical of the direction they tend to go, no one is special enough to deny it, but relationships can be. Yours unfornatunely wasn't sorry, just live and learn, love is intense, but it isn't all a relationship needs. Besides their is no compassion in the way he treat'd you, hopfully you'll realize that and not do this to yourself again... he wasn't in your corner thats for sure..... I mean you don't loss feeling... its something you take step forwards in and your never really ever able to take a step back, unless he lied..... which makes more sense, the heart doesn't have an on/off switch, but game does... remember this next time....