A friend of mine, is in love with her B/F for three years. she's 24 now. and there was many people proposed to her throughout these years. the situation is that there is someone recently proposed to her and this is the deal:
He's 35 years old, great position, good future, handsome, rich and have his own house and car, broke up with his ex-girlfriend coz she doesn't want kids and he want it so bad, so open-minded and high-educated and from a well-knowen familly. all his neighbors says good things about him.
her current B/F:
He's 25, not settled at work, still stuying and doesn't even know what major to choose yet! planing to move out of his area but doesn't know yet to where. live in rent apartment with a retailed car. doesn't want kids, not close to his family but he loves her.
the problem is she truely loves him although everybody tried to advise her not to waste her time with him and if she rejected all this good aportunities now, she'll regrate it later when she get older?
2007-04-18 04:55:28 · 9 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think she must follow her heart and she might regret it later or follow her brain and what everybody have adviced her?!
2007-04-18 05:05:30 · update #1
Well the 35 year old guy has had a lot more time to figure out his life and get settled. The 25 year old guy could very well get to that same point.
If your friend cares only about having a lot of money then she would have gone with the 35 year old. But she loves this other guy, and she might not want to settle down just yet.
When she gets older she might think gee i wonder what would have happened with (35 year old man) but if she knows what she wants then she won't regreat it even if the 25 year old doesn't make a ton of money.
If this girl is your friend then respect what she wants, not what you would choose for yourself.
24 and 25 is still really young, they don't need to be settled yet, and if she is picking the 25 year old over the 35 year old he must have some good qualities, give him a chance.
2007-04-25 23:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by kimmy125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard Discussion, well the 35 year old is mature and practically knows what he wants - he wants to settle down - but it seems that the word "marriage" is not in his vocabulary as of yet. The 25 year old is still young and undecided and doesn't want to rush into things - and has a lot of growing up to do. I don't believe your friend should have anyone make-up her mind for her. Your friend should not be push into a relationship because the 35 year old has it all-together. Let her think this through on her OWN! For in life we will make our mistakes and hopefully learn from them.
2007-04-26 04:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 is the right age for you, er, your friend, to be honestly thinking about settling down. The 25 y/o sounds a lot like a 48 y/o I used to date, that I ended up with domestic violence charges on when he took his frustration about this life out on me. Your 35 y/o sounds like a dream catch, however "Prince Charming" is only in fairytales and then can be quit a schmo.
Give your friend this advice, try dating the 35 y/o more often, get to know him better. If your friends boyfriend is truly moving on or out then this will be the perfect opportunity. See if the 35 y/o wants a partner or a "pretty" to sit in a gilded cage and a brude mare. And don't' rush in to anything.
2007-04-18 05:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by ladyk5dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been in a long term relationship, and you have been totally faithful (which if your in love you do) then why do men keep proposing to you?
Would you rather be rich, have kids, nice things and be with a man you don't care about. Eventually become bitter and break up the home of your children.
or-
struggle with the man you love to make your life better, have his babies and be with each other knowing your love can withstand anything and eventually get the nice things as you grow older (hopefully)
Go with the heart.
2007-04-26 04:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by mom_of_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 35 year old guy when you are 24 isn't a good deal.
If she loves her current boy friend, then that is the end of the discussion. She needs to be happy in her heart first, everything else doesn't matter.
2007-04-18 05:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she leaves this guy that she really loves to take up an opportunity based on financial stability, then she WILL regret it later. When you have lots of it, money is not important. But love is. I would rather be poor with someone that I love and loves me, than to be rich with someone that I don't truely love and have to wonder.
2007-04-18 05:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is following her heart, love makes people do illogical things some times
2007-04-26 04:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sick jusyt reading this, what has financial status or your car and home have anything to do with how much you love someone and want to share your life with them? jesus. shallow minded rats.
2007-04-25 14:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by mecicoplajjer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her choice, & no one's else. Let her choose what is right for her.
2007-04-18 05:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋