My ex ended our relations 2 1/2 months ago as she said her feelings on me changed over a short period. Throughout our relationship of 9 mths, and only 3 or 4 weeks before that, we were in love. She used to say to me she loved me, wanted to live with me etc
Things changed very quickly. She became cold with me and ended things. For a mth after I tried to persuade her to give us another chance but she said I was better off without her, and she knew I would find someone who "would be as lucky to have met me as she was". Weird comments!
I have left her alone to give her space. I realised all my trying to persuade her was not working and pushing her away more.
I want to try and get her to see why she fell for me, and me her, in the first place. I am gonna call her in a couple of wks to suggest a meet up, no strings, and just be myself. If we are still attracted to each other we will know it, if not, then at least I tried.
Tips to do it without being pushy? Ladies thoughts??
2007-04-18 04:37:38 · 14 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At this point, you should leave her be. She will come back to you if she's meant to.
2007-04-18 04:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may not be what you want to hear but maybe she found another guy who she was attracted to? She might not want to break your heart. She sounds like she still cares about you a lot, and her distance tells me that maybe she is trying to tell herself that she doesn't love you. Yet, she does. The easiest way to get over somebody, is to pretend their not there, but thats impossible. It doesn't work! I've tried!
I think the 2 of you need to talk, maybe write her a letter. When she replies, you'll know where you stand and it will give you a better understanding of the situation.
If your convinced she is the girl for you, and your in love with her and can't see your future without her, tell her that. If she is 'the one' don't let her slip through your fingers. Maybe suggest you go for a coffee with a group of friends or something.
Good Luck, I'm sure everything will work out for the best. Have a nice day..
2007-04-18 11:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sahra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are doing the right thing by giving her space, but I must tell you that usually when a woman decides that she is done with a man, and she truly feels tht way......she is DONE. You might have some hope left in her, but always prepare for the worst, when you set up this meeting, dont go to her expecting to change her feelings, go there jsut wanting to talk to her and express yourself to her, because trying to persuade her will make matters worse. You will become like you say "pushy". I suggest that you talk to her, let her know how you feel about her, and go to her for answers, why all of a sudden does she not want to be with you? What turned her away from you, things like that, be yourself of course but don't go trying to make her want you. If she is smart, she will realize that she is actually passing up a guy that loves and cares about her, and every girl wants that. But I hope that helps you and good luck I hope it ends in your favor.
2007-04-18 11:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by cosmetologistbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its pushy at this point but i wouldn#t go any further with it.
She has to realise herself that she wants to be with you and you have to give the chance to do that and at the same time know that she may never come back to you as harsh as it sounds...
I know when you lose someone it feels like you can;t breathe but thats how you're feelin ... she was able to walk away relatively easy and not contact you...
Good luck its a toughy!
2007-04-18 16:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky 209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have done it that way, so she didn't have to tell you the real reason, and it was an easy way out... When you suggest a meet up, if she says no, then you need to let it go. If it is meant to be she will come back for you. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket though. Enjoy life...
2007-04-18 11:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're a fantastic guy. I agree with most of the other answers advising you to not to keep trying to get with her. I was in a off and on relationship for a year with a guy. He kept breaking it off and it kept breaking my heart. But finally i had the last straw and i broke it off for good. Women are usually sure of what they want.
And if she really loved you she'd be 100 % sure of it.
My advise? Go out, have fun, flirt! You're free to find a girl that really appreciates you.
2007-04-18 11:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by melissarbrsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. It seems like you feel a little helpless. The only thing you can do is let it go. My mom says "let go and let God." Basically meaning let it go and leave it to the higher power to work out for you. YOU do not need to DO anything but that.
2007-04-18 11:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you that you are better off without them, it's a good idea to listen because they are obviously not ready for an equal relationship. For whatever reason.
2007-04-18 11:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from a ladies point of view she seems to have her eye on someone else, thats why shes cold with you ect,
if you want to win her back, do what a boyfriend did for me after hed finished it with me, he called me on mobile and just played OUR song, and said nothing at that moment my heart melted and I took him back, the song was our song and only we two knew that, good luck
2007-04-18 11:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by ♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate im a bloke and your the same as me, dont, let her go she never loved you! she is with someone else she is just being nice about it even though she has cheated on you
listen to charli her answer is the best in my experience
2007-04-18 11:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋