How do you know when you are ready to take things further physically in a relationship? My bf and I have known each other for about 1 1/2 years. We both want to take our relationship further physically. Will becoming intimate change our relationship for the better? Is it normal to feel nervous in taking this step?
2007-04-18 04:30:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you get merried.
keep everything the way it is, get married and then have sex, trust me it is worth everything for that is the only way you will have true plesure and will enjoy it the most.
I had a friend of mine that went out with his b/f for two years and once they had sex three weeks later he dump her
so as you can see sex before marriage is never a good thing and will never help out.
wait. take it slow. don't rush and don't lisen to anyone that tells you to go ahead and have sex for sex before marriage have alot of bad turn outs.
trust me I now what I am telling you. I have seen it and lived it.
2007-04-18 04:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ed76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm gonna answer the last part of your question first. Of course it is normal to be nervous about becoming intimate with your significant other for the first time. Maybe it's because you don't know what to expect from the other the very first time.As for being intimate will it change your relationship for the better, well that depends on you and your boo. It will definitely change the relationship though. And as for "knowing when the time is right" you should want to go to that level. If you are not ready don't do it. Sometimes women feel pressure from their boyfriends to take that step before they are sure that's what they truly want.Good luck
2007-04-18 04:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by nikki bling bling 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you are under the age of 18, I would recommend that you keep the panties on. I'm no prude but I know all about the consequences of teenage sex.
If the both of you are adults and you have clearly known each other for a length of time and both mutually want to be intimate then I guess you are ready. It's normal to feel nervous. Having sex won't make your relationship better though, if you are having relationship problems it's better to focus on how to change the problem rather than thinking sex will be a quick fix. Sex will only be yet another way to express love that you have for each other and a whole new way to be closer to one another....but those feelings are only there when two people are ok with each other.
2007-04-18 04:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is cause you don't want to mess things up. well physically is good but that is not what you want to base it on. Relationship is more than physically it is also mental. You can be intimate all you want but it comes down to the mind and the emotions. It's no point to be intimate and you and your bf can't have a decent conversation cause you and him are frustrated mentally and emotionality. Me personally i think the #1 key in a relationship is communication. talking to one another to me is very key to having a great relationship. Just weight your options think more than just being intimate.
2007-04-18 04:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by blaw7162000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming intimate will change your relationship, the fact that you have waited so long means it will probably be for the better. It is very normal to feel nervous, just remember he is too.
One word of warning, don't give it up and then take it away. Guys don't really like that, either go forward or not.
2007-04-18 04:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's completely normal to be nervous, trust me, especially if you're not the first girl he's been with. My man had been with 3 other women before me and I still think he's comparing me to them when it comes to that. Becoming intimate can either make or break a relationship. If you're both ready to take it up a notch, go ahead. If you're not sure but he is, don't because it will only make things worse.
2007-04-18 04:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Country Chick87 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to feel nervous..It is hard to say if getting intimate will better your relationship. There are a lot of variables. How good is your relationship now, without the phsical aspect? Are you emmotionally bonded now? Is there a trust? Do you want to have sex just for the fun and thrills? It's always a chance..Good Luck...
2007-04-18 04:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're both not ready for marriage; then it will wreck your relationship. Just get married ... that is what used to come after 1 1/2 years of "dating".
2007-04-18 04:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is a step that shouldn't be taken lightly. There's a lot of things going on in this country such as aids,and sexually transmitted disease. So if you think you're ready and he says he is too. You both should go get checked out completely and then make the decision. (Remember that disease doesn't necessarily make a person look sick on the outside,but you need to know what's going on on the inside of your boyfriend.)
2007-04-18 04:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by beatyful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be well prepared for this... if u trusts ur bf and u think both of u luv each other very much there's nothing wrong in going further... but u need to know what both of u are expecting from each other in future and decide whether it's worth going further or not... i would suggest u sit and think about the consequences of it... gd luck dear
2007-04-18 04:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋