Not daddy's little girl!?

Question

I have 2 kids a boy that is 6 years and a girl that is 17 months. I know that everyone has heard of the momma's boy and daddy's little girl, well at my house it is the other way around. My little boy would rather do things with me and my little girl can't stand to be around me. She is a momma's girl and will not let me do anything with her. My wife is a home health nurse and is on call 1 night a week and one weekend a month so that is the only time that I can do anything with her. The thing that I cannot understand is that she will let anyone else but me hold her and play with her. Any ideas on how I can get her to like me or even to just tolerate me?

Answer 1

This must be so difficult for you. Is it just a phase she is going through or has she always been like this? Maybe you need to just spend a little more time with her, playing with toys or something else fun to try and build up your relationship. Try not to get too worked up about this as that might only cause more friction. Im sure she will come round. Just a little tip though, DO NOT try and buy her, dont get her new things to try and win her over as she will just use you for her own advantage when she gets older and thast not the type of relationship you want with her, Im sure.

Good luck!

Answer 2

There is a great book you can get, maybe at your library called Nurture By Nature and it is so so so good. EVery parent should have it. There are essentially 16 personality types. I am 56, and ESTJ and 75% of ESTJ's are men, so I am a tomboy, but very heterosexual. But, as a kid I would do what the boys did. So I did not fit the girly stereotype, it is not gender,but personality. You might want to look into this book It is marvelous. I am also a retired elem teacher .
The best way to "
be with and enjoy a child" is to sit back and watch what they do, be a "fly on the wall", See what she leans towards .. if she likes to draw, draw with her, if she likes to be read to, that is a huge one, because what they actually like is not only the story, but the human bonding and closenes. But meet her where she is at. IF you like lay out her toys and see which she goes to most often or what activities she enjoys, do those, Meet her where she is at,just like you do with your friends.Here is a good site too http://www.rockofmysoul.com/card115.html

Answer 3

It will happen just be patient and read, play, sing basically reach out to her. My youngest was much the same as a toddler then it flipped until school started and now she is nine and all about being a "family". Kids go through stages it is important that you be patient and loving and invite yourself into her world. If she is playing tea party ask to join and then listen as well as participate in the conversation. Make a hat or boat out of paper and show her how it works she may just see how fun you can be. Kids react to our cues and maybe you are inadvertently sending the wrong ones. Good Luck!

Answer 4

i am a mom and i hace a 11 month baby i stay home and dont work her father works all day she basically she spends her days with me she was so attached to be and would cry when he dad would hold her. i started a part-time job in the evening been working for 2 months but my point is that know that im working and spend time away from her she has gotten attached to him she will interact and play with him more. maybe she got used to her mom more that is if she a stay at home mom.

Answer 5

some children are sensitive to looks ie: my niece will run from the room screaming if someone walks in wearing a baseball cap. maybe if you play the "whatever" role (like it doesnt bother you,even though i know it does) she will slowly come around. maybe try letting her and big brother play together for awhile and then you join them. this will let her see dad is not bad and he even likes to play.i hope this helps.maybe have mom help with the interaction between the two of you.

Answer 6

Have no worries about it. Kids go through phases all the time. Trust me - when she's 13, she will HATE her mother... and then love her again around 16. It's all kinds of love hate love hate until they get older and stabilized. Just keep loving her and she will come to you soon.

It's awesome that you care so much. You must be a great father. WOO HOO!!!! That's hot!!!

Answer 7

My daughter is 22 months old and is the same way. I am a stay at home mom and my hubby hates that our daughter doesn't want anything to do with him. He ignores her when she is like that and lets her come to him. It works but only when she is in the mood! Give her time... she will love you later!!!

Answer 8

aww you care so much, i think you're a sweetheart.. trust me regaurdless of what happens, keep trying and showing her you want to hold her, play with her, and spend as much time as you possibly can with her.. in the long run, as she gets older, she'll mature and realize all of that and her heart will go out to you just like mine is for you rght now... i know i may sound sappy and corny and possibly ridiculous but i dont care.. i'm just really touched for some reason.. goodluck she'll come around. =]

Answer 9

She is only 17 months. She will change who she likes being with ever so often. Don't worry about it, try to get her interested in some games or something she can do with you. That might persuade her.

Answer 10

That's sad too hear that your own little girl wont go too her father, don't try to hard let her come too you. you know toys she like too play with the most star playing with them go in a different room when she is there you will soon notice a difference.