My son will be 5 in May and I have 20 month old daughter as well. I feel so quilty and feel that I am always telling what not to do & to stop doing something. He doesn't listen! I ask him to repeat what I say and he'll say something completely different. I ask him to tell me when he doesn't understand. I explain things simply, I get down to his level, I take privledges away, I threaten a spanking, I show him what his actions can do, I try everything. Daddy comes in and with one word he'll act right. He does this only with me. He's start to act up with anyone else and it's like magic spell comes out of their mouths and he stops. I change the tone of my voice, I change the direction of the conversation, I ignor it, I show him what he should do instead. I hear oh he's just a boy, he's testing his limits, he'll be fine when he starts school. But they don't understand is that I can get him to concentrate on one thing. I can't relate to him and it's wearing me out. Any suggestions? PLEASE!!
2007-04-18 04:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by arousalelements 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I noticed you said you THREATEN to spank him. Threatning him is not working, and will never work. Children are very smart and they will push you to your limits, if you allow them. top threatning him and start spanking him. I may be wrong, but I'm sure his father spanks him with no problems or regrets. Your child knows that his father means business that's why his behavior changes. Your son is not too young for disciplinary actions to be taken against him. You need to spank him now while he's young before he becomes too much to handle and out of control when he gets older. Remember you are the parent, not him.
2007-04-18 04:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl20012 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who will be 5 in July, I think part of it is because he is a "boy". Sounds like he might be a tad jealous of his sister:) What I found is that my daughter who is 7 1/2 gets to where she is acting like your son. We have started a mommy and me time. Just her and I do something like lunch or go out to dinner or to the store so I can give her my full attention for those few hours and it helps greatly. Maybe you could let daddy watch your daughter and you and your son could do something like the park or he could be your helper at the store just him. This way he feels that he is important to you too. Good luck
2007-04-18 04:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by asilyrraj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to mumble, yelling a lot, tell him not to this and that but is ok if he doesnt' do it? I was like that, but I learned this from my husband, put your foot down, make sure he does things when you asked. work on couple of things at a time, e.g. ...like put the toys away, make sure he did that then he gets to do other things or he time out until he get that done. Keep work on that one thing for couple of weeks, work on another problem, until this improved. For my 2 sons, that worked, my older son, age of 6 never wants to organize his closet, and I made him a rule, if he does not clean his closet, then he does not get to change his cloths or get anything from there. I explained to him, that way his closet will be always neat, and he does not has to organize neither. after couple of days with stinky cloths, now he organized his closet neatly, without me jumping up and down. Try rewarding also. hope this helpful
2007-04-18 05:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by mom 2be again 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you are the primary care giver. If so, this is normal! Be patient and consistent. He will come around. Take away priviledges, make him stand in a corner, etc...you know the tricks. Just don't cave! Hang in there!
2007-04-18 04:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's testing you, to be sure you are going to be consistent with him.
He sees his dad as "Totalitarian." He probably ALWAYS has to do what daddy says, but can get some stuff over on you.
Be firm, loving and consistent. If you threaten a punishment, follow through. Discipline and consistency go hand in hand. If you can't follow through, don't threaten.
2007-04-18 04:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kaci 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well kids are going to disobey and all that and sometime the kids could tell whos the weaker parent and they wont listen like my sister does and so you have to show him you the stronger parent or atleast stronger then he thinks you are you know like punishment for like 20 min or something
2007-04-18 04:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a normal 4yo to me, be the parent.
2007-04-20 02:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋