I am probably asking out of insecurities but you men are just so hard to read. I've been dating this guy for 10 months and he is wonderful. We moved in together in January and that seems to be going well, I have a daughter (not his) that he takes very good care of and says he loves her like she was his own. He has talked briefly about our future together and tells me often that he loves me but no real details and when I ask him about his plans or his feelings he really has nothing to say, yet whenever I talk to his friends they always bring up how he talks about me all the time and has nothing but good things to say about us. He is very romantic when we are together yet when we are apart he "forgets" to call often. I am at a crossroads, how into this relationship is he?
2007-04-18 04:13:47 · 4 answers · asked by Mama of 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, please..... Guys are NOT females, and we don't need to call each other, or our significant others every minute of every day.
2007-04-18 04:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have created this "crossroads" out of your own insecurity.
You seem to have found a good guy, yet he isn't good enough because he isn't moving fast enough for you. If you kill this relationship, you will have no one to blame but yourself (of course that won't stop you from blaming him). Fact is 10 months is a very short time frame to be thinking what you are. You are being unreasonable in your expectations.
The fact that you don't think he calls enough is a bad sign...of you. You seem to be needy and clingy, two qualities that guys get tired of over time. You really need to chill or you will drive him away. He likes you and if you don't give him space, you will kill that off.
2007-04-18 04:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is very much into the relationship, we just arent good at expressing our feelings directly to the person involved for fear of looking vulnerable or less than perfect. He would probably find it easier to explain them to me than to you
2007-04-18 05:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Peter A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is in it just as much as you are, but dont push him and nag him about it, you may make him uncomfortable and its only been a few months. Lighten up i think you guys are fine!
2007-04-18 04:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by brian b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋