Does this drive you crazy?

Question

Am I the only person who has a overly active child (also very strong willed but I love her just the same lol) that is soooo sick of hearing the "perfect parent" with the "perfectly quiet, calm, easy going child" criticize your parenting. Dont get me wrong I HAVE rules, consequences, etc in my home. I wanted to just smack my new neighbor when she came over yesterday with her daughter (very quiet passive child) . The kids (ages 4 & 5) were playing nicely so we walked away for 2 MINUTES to show her something in another room. When we came back my daughter had climbed on the counter and was stand there getting snacks from a top shelf. I immediatly got her down told her it was very dangerous and she could have fell and made her sit in timeout for a few minutes. EVEN SO I still heard "My daughter would never even hink of doing something like that, etc" from the neighbor. Along with a lot of "You need to do" Am I the only one who HATES people that tell you what your doing wronge

when they either have no children, or the children that have are quiet , calm, easy going, listen to every wo....rd they say with out question, etc....

Answer 1

I think defiance is a sign of intelligence and the acrobatics of scaling to the top of a cupboard to get a snack a sign of advanced dexterity. Not to mention, she was getting a snack for herself and a new friend which shows she knows the meaning of hospitality. So, I would just shrug off these comments and think to myself how advanced my child was. Its never a good idea to fraternize with neighbors just in case they annoy you. To sum this all up...stupid little comments are always annoying whether they are about your child or how to care for your lawn or anything else.

Answer 2

I'm a first time mom, and have a 9 month old so I don't get much of that. But yeah, it drives me nuts. I think you handled the situation wonderfully, and I wish more parents would discipline their kids, and explain why they shouldn't do something.
Also, is your child the 4 or 5 yr old? If the neighbors kid is 5, maybe she's had experience with that sort of thing, and thats why she wouldn't have climbed up there. Kids just want to feel independent and each child will expres that in a diff way.
Good luck with your daughter :)

Answer 3

Their problem is that they don't realize that each child has a different temperament, and those temperaments are formed during infancy. Children will have their personalities; it has nothing to do with your quality of parenting. You child is simply exploring. Children do things to learn about the world around him, so they can make sense of things using the limited access to the world they currently have. People shouldn't make those comments about how they do differently. That's the entire point: everybody's different.

Answer 4

I hate those people. I have 3 kids with ADHD/ODD and 1 of them has tourettes. Taking them out in public is bad. These people that thinks there kids never does any thing wrong always think they have to say something.
No you not the only one honey.

Answer 5

Yes it drives me crazy ........but have you ever noticed that it is always easier to comment on other peoples shortcomings than your own?, you usually find that those who have problems in their own families will be the first to give opinions on yours......try not to let it get to you, your kids are normal and they will learn right from wrong because you explain things to them properly, some kids need to find out the hard way now and then.You are doing a great job x

Answer 6

they are lying or in complete denial, I have a stepbrother like this, his son listens, his son is perfect, great in school, never talks back, etc, me and my step sister are the only ones with girls, and they are considered the bad ones, (reason is because when they were 3 grandma let them outside to play and ran to grab her phone, in that time, they were able to draw with rocks on my stepbrother's wife car, I must point out, that it was my niece who began the drawing and my daughter decided to finish it because it would look better that way, mind you....this was 4 years ago :) ) however, the little demon was at our nephews birthday party last week, and smacked his mother right in the face, but he's perfect :), my daughter was in such shock, she was like mom..did you see that?! I would never do that! my mother would kill me! my stepbrother and his wife were soooo mad, but the worst is, I don't think they were mad about the smack, I think they were more angry that everyone witnessed it and had something to say about it....but of course....he's perfect. :) yeah...my butt

Answer 7

Yes, I hate that! My daughter is very overactive, and even though we also have rules, she loves to break them!
It's not your parenting-it's the fact that you have a strong willed child.
I always say this to the "perfect" parent that loves to give advice: "Thanks for the tip-I just happen to have a hard-headed daughter. " Sometimes, I even throw in "She is just too smart for her own good-she's always thinking of a new way to do things."

Answer 8

SUGGEST to your new neighbor that you are willing to help her PACK HER _ _ _ _ (choose your thought) up and find one that is going to keep things to herself. While I may disagree with how people do things I think it's VERY BOLD to talk to someone you don't know like this!

Well, I guess you know what kind of FRIEND your new neighbor would be- if you want to become friends you are going to HAVE TO tell her your feelings. I am starting to do this in my life!

I HATE UNSOLICITED ADVICE!

Answer 9

Sounds like something my daughter would do. I bet her daughter would do that to at her home.
Out in public my kids are much more well behaved. At home in their element is another story.
Your daughter was showing off to her friend.

Have fun.

Answer 10

I agree with you 100% that your neighbor had no right to put her two cents in about the behavior of your child. If you don't like it, bring it to her attention. She was in your house, and she has to respect you. You need to put her in her place, in a nice and respectful manner.