Do you think it's rude to tell others that they are too young or too old to have children?

Question

Personally, I think it's rude to assume you know better than someone else. But others think it's important to share their opinion. What do you think?

I mean telling someone this spontaneously...not when someone outright asks, "Am I too young?"

Answer 1

I don't think we should be judges of that. To me age is just a number.

Answer 2

I had my first child at 17, do you think that is too young? I took care of her alone and independently. Now she is about to be 9 and has a younger sister that I had at 21. In my opinion I think it depends on their maturity. Oops happen these days and if the 'child' having the child is responsible to care for the baby then I say support her. If a 14 year old who can't have a job, drive or take care of the child wants one you should try to find out whats going on because something isn't right. Also if you don't know them personally then it is not your place to tell them anything except 'I am hear for you if you need me'. Don't be so rude, there is only one judge in this world that you have to answer to for your actions and it isn't you or your friend!

Answer 3

i think it is all about the attitude it's said with. to just out and say pointedly, you're too this or you're too that is almost always rude. giving a simple opinion within a much more gentle framework of caring isn't necessarily rude but i do have my opinions on the subject, also.

i have a friend who refuses to go to a baby shower, hospital or visit the baby after it gets home if the mother is around 23 or, younger, even if related. i don't understand her perceived right to be so judgmental. if you ask me such attitudes are whacked.

no matter their age, every mother has the need to be supported and championed, especially when their personal circumstances possibly make them more vulnerable to the stresses of early them motherhood.

- the 'too young' or, 'too old' are exactly the ones in need of rallying.

Answer 4

Giving someone unsolicited spontaneous feedback on any aspect of their life is always considered rude. In strict etiquette codes, it's rude to say someone looks tired or to comment on their clothes or household items, even positively.

I'd say, look at the spirit a comment is offered in, consider the maturity and social skills of the person talking, and family has the right to say anything.

Answer 5

Well I would never tell someone spontaneously unless they asked really. I do think that younger than 18 is too young, for obvious reasons, and older than 50 is too old, again for obvious reasons.

Answer 6

Well the choise is up to them not us but I don't think that people should have kids under 25 becuase alot of the time they are too young to take care of them and they have their own lives to worry about and people shouldn't have kids at 40 or older becuase they are ageing and people are meant to have kids earlier they will also die sooner in the childs life. And old parents can't be any fun. So the child birth range should be between 25-39

Answer 7

It is rather rude to just blurt something out like that.
On the other hand, it may come from a place of experience. A young mom may say in retrospect she wishes she hadn't started a family so soon and an older one may say she wished she'd started earlier. If the speaker is a parent who falls into such a category just check it up to your unsolicited advice list and move on.

Answer 8

Yes it's rude. I had my kids at young a very young age , probably to young, BUT I can tell you one thing. I love, cherish, and play with my kids constantly. My nieghbor who is 30 and who the world percives as the correct age to be a mom does nothing but yell, scream, and criticize her kids. I've never even seen her interact with the those kids unless its to yell at them and tell them what they are doing wrong. Bottom line it no one's place to tell someone if they are to young or too old because age doesnt mean your a good parent.

Answer 9

I think that unless your 16 and trying to get pregnant as seen Maury lol, then it is definetly rude to comment on the age when someone decides to have children. Who knows better than yourself how ready you are financially and emotionally to have a child.

Answer 10

Steveo sounds really ignorant. A person is aging from the moment they are born, not just at 40. Nobody gets any younger ever. The arrow of time only goes in one direction.

Answer 11

Depends on the situation, if they ask on Yahoo Answers if they are too young or too old then I will tell them what I really think, However, if I saw them in the grocery store I would not ever say anything cause then its none of my business.