I'm letting my bridesmaids pick their own dresses and shoes. I gave them a sample of the shade of green we're using, and asked them to pick out what they liked. I wanted to be sure they'd get something they were comfortable in, and something they can use again (that they acutally like). I've gotten a lot of static from family about this....what do you think?
2007-04-18 02:48:35 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To fro: It's a pale shade of green....really pretty!
2007-04-18 02:53:22 · update #1
To me, the style is not that important. It's a small outdoor wedding, and I only have two bridesmaids.
2007-04-18 02:55:47 · update #2
BRAVO!!!!!
I did this and it was fantastic!! The maids didn't feel like I was making them do something terrible by wearing a dress they hated (THEY picked it out, after all!), and they all had to agree without ME acting like a psychopath to get them to wear a dress.
It was one less headache and it made MY life SO much easier.
Good for you...and stick to your guns. It's YOUR wedding, and your family doesn't have to listen to the fit-throwing (and now neither do YOU!).
2007-04-18 02:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is a wonderful idea. You are respecting and trusting your bridesmaids enough to go out and pick their own dresses, but still being involved by giving them the color swatch to go by. I agree with the person that said about how not all dresses suit everybody's body form and now everyone will be comfortable.
I was in a wedding where the Bride picked a beautiful plum colored dress, but because myself and one other bridesmaid were not the standard dress size we had to have dresses made for us, well let me tell you my $405.00 dress is now in my closet in a dry cleaners bag collecting dust and has not been used for anything else. I was happy to be in my friend's wedding, but I would have been happier to pick my own dress and not spend that much money for 1 day and a dress that I can't really use.
I have to wonder why all of the people who have said that this was a great idea are getting a thumbs down. For the people giving the thumbs down, Have you ever been in a situation like this?
2007-04-18 03:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Important 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a wonderful idea! Bridesmaids dresses don't come cheap and usually wind up in the back of your closet and never used again. Buying a dress that they actually like and could wear again makes sense. I told my bridesmaids to get any black dress that they liked as long as the length was the same and they all looked beautiful! (And 2 out of the 3 have worn the dresses since!) I made sure to order the same bouquet and bought them all matching jewelry to tie the look together. Good luck!
2007-04-18 03:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by terasa425 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your family is probably just not used to the modern way weddings are now being done. A lot of people are letting their bridesmaids choose their own dresses now. It is a great idea. It's your wedding so do what you want. I'm sure no matter what it will be beautiful!
2007-04-18 03:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a great idea! The only other suggestion I can think of is that they might want to go shopping together or get them at the same shop to ensure they don't clash, but I see nothing wrong with the idea! That's really considerate of you.....sounds like you migt have been a bridesmaid stuck with a dress you can't use a time or two! LOL
I did something similar...I had 3 bridesmaids...and picked my color...but took all three of them shopping with me and let them decide on the style of dress....it was the same dress for all three of them, but they all came to decision on one dress....it was a strapless dress...but they all wore a shaw over it for the ceremony....and they've all worn their dress after that to different things...two of them had it cut off to knee length, but I was happy they got more use out of it!
2007-04-18 03:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a great idea! Then you don't have to worry about bridesmaids bitching about their "ugly dresses" because they chose them! Also, I think it is a nice thing to do for your friends because we are all different body types and there is no way that everyone can look good in the same style and cut of dress. I was actually going to do the same thing when I get married, except I wasn't even going to make them stick to a specific color- matching isn't that important to me, I was just going to ask them to stick to a pastel theme or all black or something like that. Don't worry about your family's opinion- it's your wedding, not theirs. Also, don't forget- at the end of the day, it's not about the bridesmaids' dresses, it's about your marriage, which I hope is successful!
2007-04-18 03:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Really cute idea, as long as the dresses are equal when it comes to how formal they are (i.e., if one person is wearing a long dress, they all should be)
Green bridesmaid dresses are gorgeous. People always think of grass color when they hear it, but light green dresses are beautiful at a wedding.
2007-04-18 03:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it works, its a great idea. My soon-to-be sis- in-law did this, and the results were BAD.There is only 2 bridesmaids, (me and another girl) and the other girl chose a super-tight, neckline so low and backline so low u could see my undies...I have had 2 kids, no way i was squeezing into that thing (cause she said we could choose our own, but try to match)So then we found a dress together, gorgeous, $300, and the other bridesmaid wouldnt wear it. So, my sis-in-law to be, just got sooo frustrated, that she went out, bought 2 dresses and just said here, this is it, your wearing it.
So it can be a lot less stressful, just to pick the dress up yourself, and remember, its your wedding, and u want your pics to look a certain way, it will look weird if u have the bride and groom, looking like they shoukd, then the groomsmen in nice matching suites, then the bridesmaids all doing their own thing, they wont look like they fit.
2007-04-18 03:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it's great!!
I'm doing the same thing I figure they are spending all this money on a dress and not everyone is a size 0!
So, I picked the color but, they are picking style and shoes!
So far everyone has been happy and my girls have even been bragging to other maids in weddings and making them really jealous =)
2007-04-18 02:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by erink1799 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a great idea!
I would still, however, try to have them go together to pick out "their" dress, just so you are sure that the colors all do match.
But no, I think your idea is very considerate of the girls. Some dresses just don't flatter every woman's shape and size and now they can get something that will be perfect for "them".
Good thinking!
2007-04-18 02:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by SamCam 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Chinese saying: Decision already made, let us admire the result.
Do not worry. As you have already handed the sample to your bridesmaids and one or 2 could have tailor-made their dresses, just let it be. Besides, the tailors would also offer advice on the choice of colour shade and quality.
It is a happy occasion and the main focus is on you couple. Just assure the family members things would be turn out fine.
Hope for the best and everyone would be happy for you.
2007-04-18 02:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by simck 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋