My father and mother are puttin so much pressure on me that I should work so I can help them with the payments of their new car they got. I've worked since I was 15 yrs old and this is my last year in high school and I stop working because I dropped my grade in Geometry. I need to pass this class so I can graduate so thats why I stopped working for a while so I can concentrate on my grades becasue I can't afford to be getting bad grades in school. I want to graduate so I can go to college and prepare for the real world. They want me to be living in their hosue forever. But they don't know that I'm leaving the house right after grauation. I'm going to move in with my fiance he's going to pay for my college and university and we're getting married in June 2007! So this is what I want to do but I feel guilty becasue I have to help my parents out do I?
2007-04-18 02:25:31 · 12 answers · asked by You Reap What You Sow! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should not be expected to pay your parents' bills.
If you have your own bills or payments, that is different. And if they'd like you to take on the responsibility of your car insurance, that would be ok. I think it's good to pay something when we are growing up to learn responsibility.
I think it would do you good to concentrate on school, then get a job and move out after you graduate. I'm sorry to see you feel as if you are under so much pressure. I do hope you will be able to go to college, and please don't forget about your future. Even if you're going to get married, you probably need to finish college so you have an education to fall back on.
it's important!
sending hugs your way. please take care hon.
2007-04-18 02:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your parents are supposed to help you out until you legally come of age (24) or you get married. When your parents start nagging you about getting a job, tell them the truth, you are too busy trying to get your grades up because you want to finish school. Since you are 18, you can by law, move out of your parents house now, and move in with your fiance. They can't stop you. If you feel that this will be easier for you and puts your mind at ease, go ahead and go for it. Your parents should know better than to put pressure on you when you are trying to focus on graudation.
2007-04-18 02:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not have to help them. You have a plan for yourself and they should be proud of that. They can't stop you from doing anything because of your age. My father is the same way, but I too am leaving right after graduation and moving in with my fiance. I say you should do it, but I would wait for the marriage. If you want your parents blessing on the wedding you should give them time to cool down. It seems that your parents are pretty important to you, and I'm sure you want your father to walk you down the aisle. Hope this helps!
2007-04-18 02:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Ashely G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move out of their house, don't pay for their things once you do so. Say you have to build your own life, start going to school and get some focus. You can go to school and work at the same time people do it all the time. You just have to man up and manage your time better. If you don't you'll be living at home with a wife and eternally suck at life.
2007-04-18 02:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to take care of their own bills. If it's your car your helping to pay for, it's a different matter. If your parents are that terrible, you're 18. You can move out now. Otherwise you're under their roof and their rules. Honor your parents and work your butt off to get good grades.
2007-04-18 02:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your grades up girl and don't work to pay for their financial problems! They've already lived their lives so live yours too! But don't be in a hurry with that fiance of yours too once you two move in together!! Don't get pregnant too soon and ruin your college opportunities! =]
2007-04-18 02:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they actually cant say something nevertheless. you're 25 and out of their domicile. they have not any top to assert that. maybe you purely might desire to assert that to them. until eventually you have already got. that's often no longer straight forward for human beings to make certain their infants as grown up, and that they have got a no longer straight forward time remembering them. You do what you think of is right-for you.
2016-12-29 06:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um your parents are selfish jerks. they want YOu to pay for THEIR new cars? your not a slave. i think you have the right idea about moving out. they should be encouraging you to get good grades and graduate not help fund their lavish investments. its not your responsibility. your parents should be ashamed at how gross their behaving. get away while you can, at least one person cares about your future which is your fiance. he seems like a good guy to help pay for your college. be grateful you have some good people left in your life.
2007-04-18 02:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to live your own life not your parents. They can pay for their own car. Move you have a good plan in place! In fact move now to take the stress off yourself.
2007-04-18 03:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEIR bills are not your problem. You need to get good grades, it was smart of you to stop working for now to concentrate on that. Your last year of school is very important and they should be encouraging you to do well, not trying to get you to take responsibilty for their actions!
2007-04-18 02:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋