She is really, really rude.
2007-04-18 01:50:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would give her a good spanking. 15 swats would do it. Then I would wash her mouth out with soap to reinforce the punishment.
2007-04-18 02:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
I go through this with my son, it seems to come and go. First of all, you have to make it clear what kind of behavior you expect, and let her know this consistently. I have to remind mine that he is not a superior person than the rest of us, that I am disappointed in him when he acts that way, that it makes him look bad to others when they see or hear this. Then you have to come up with some kind of ongoing discipline that you can pull out whenever it happens, as this will be a long, ongoing battle that will last for years, probably. If I know there's a fun field trip coming up at school I got a lot of mileage out of that by stating "If you continue to be rude, you will not be able to go on the field trip to the amusement park." He did not go, but lived through the experience. You have to be clever and keep a list of things you can take away as a consequence for ongoing serious rudeness, and it will depend on what is important in her life at the time - computer use, telephone, parties, TV, IPOD, etc. The trick is to find ways to help her stop herself before she is rude, and usually to motivation has to be negative. You can offer a reward if she goes for a week without being rude, such as a shopping trip or whatever, just to help her learn to control herself. Not a reward for doing what she should be doing anyway, but as a tool to help her learn to control herself and modify her behavior. If she was generally well behaved, you would enjoy spending time with her and happily want to do nice things for her anyway. Good luck. I am told by others that this stage ends at around 23.
2007-04-18 03:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read some where that a rude tween is like a temper tantrum from a three year old.
Maybe make her feel as if she can make some decisions.
Make her feel as if she is included. Give her choices a and ask what she thinks.
I think it was a guest on the Rachel Ray show who gave this info.
It was eye opening to me.
Look at this.
This was good info for me. My 11 year old can be terrible!
Good luck
2007-04-18 04:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by beanietara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm 11 and I'm home today because i have a throat infection i guess if were being rude it would be because i wanted attention..you have to communicate With your daughter don't punish her i know you probably might have forgotten but grade 6 is very very stress full there's exams and boys and dances and omg the list goes on but you have to realize if someone or something is making her mad at school home is her comfort zone so she would be lashing out and being rude at home where shes thinks shes aloud to!i don't think you'd handle a day in our shoes talk to your daughter about everything she probably wont tell you much but it is a start...i hate the aquard preteen years its very stress full...give her a break
2007-04-18 04:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no set answer to that. You'll have to do something that's going to hit home with her. Something that's going to be memorable. For some kids, it's grounding. For other kids, its the loss of some privilege. Only you know what matters to your daughter the most, and will get through to her.
Remember, though, the objective of punishment is ultimately reconciliation and behavior modification, NOT to see how harsh a sentence you can dole out.
Good luck!
2007-04-18 01:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a one on one talk with her. Ask her why is she rude? Do not punish her right away. Tell her your not happy with her rudeness. Listen first to her explanation then you also gave an answer to her explanation. We cannot scold them right away. They don't want to be scolded. Teenagers now a days are far different than before.
2007-04-18 02:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by cutiefy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds strange but try ignoring her. Not her behavior but HER when she is rude. Don't acknowledge her presence when she is being rude. Walk right past or continue what you were doing like she never said anything.
2007-04-18 01:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 15 year old.
We took something he really loved away from him.
It totally worked.
Good Luck!
2007-04-18 01:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12 year old that used to do that. I just picked one day and talked to him like he talks to me and let him know how it felt. He stopped after that!
2007-04-18 01:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by mikentammy76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the door off the hinges to her bedroom. No respect for her privacy might teach her to respect others, and not be rude.
2007-04-18 06:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by fishies624 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when my daughter was that age and acted like that i growned her from talking to ME if you cant take to me with respect dont talk to me at all
do you know how hard it is for a kid to go all day with out saying "mom can I " or "mom when's dinner "
2007-04-18 11:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋