If I have no symptoms at the moment, am fairly sure there is no shedding and always use a condom for any sexual activity including oral, and take Valtrex as a preventive measure.
I also abstane completely during outbreaks.
I have read that under the above conditions it would be difficult for me to pass it on to a female.
And I have also read that with proper management, dicordant couples can coexist without coinfection if every precautions are taken.
In that case, would it be disshonest not to tell my new partner right away?
I feel that telling her at the beginning might scare her off for nothing, something that could develop in a long lasting relationship and maybe marriage?
Any one out there that the male has herpes but his girlfriend never caught it from him using precautions?
I feel very bad and scared about my future, this is bad timing as I am now 37 and am starting to think about starting a familly...;(
2007-04-17 21:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by fantapattaya 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
A lot of people assume if they take certain precautions that they will not be able to spread genital herpes. That's NOT true.
I contracted genital herpes 6 years ago from a guy I had sex with who was showing NO symptoms of the virus (he also failed to mention that he had the virus). I only had sex with him ONE time and I got the virus from him.
I also passed it to my fiance (boyfriend at the time) when I was showing no signs of an outbreak. I hadn't had an outbreak in almost 2 years and I still spread it to him!
Just because a person is taking their medication and isn't currently having an outbreak or shedding doesn't mean it's a guarantee they won't pass it.
If a person with genital herpes has sex with someone else there is ALWAYS going to be a chance they can spread the virus. Nothing is 100% effective against ANY STD except abstinence.
You need to tell ANY and ALL future sex partners you have this virus. It wouldn't be right, or fair to them, if they contracted this virus from you and you never told them about it.
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How would you feel is someone exposed you to the risk of contracting an STI without telling you?
Yes, it is true that if you practice safer sex and take antivirals suppressively, the risk of passing on the virus is small. However, nothing can provide a 100% guarantee that you will not pass it on.
You can choose 'when' to tell your partner, but if that is after any sexual contact has taken place, then it would seem deceptive and unfair to most people.
Telling too soon can scare people off, but not telling can have a far worse result, particularly if you are looking to form a life-long relationship.
Think about the potential emotional risks as well as the health risks!
Regards
Jeannie May
Herpes Awareness Campaigner & Peer Support Provider
http://www.livingsphere.com
2007-04-21 04:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by redlancercoupe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JMHO...
I would be totally p*ssed if my potential partner didn't inform me about something such as this.
Your partners should be able to make a sensible informed decision about whether or not they want to be intimate when there is the possibility of transmitting any STD.
It is possible to contract herpes even if you're not having an "outbreak" at the time.
As for as having children goes, consult your physician about the best possible treatment and plan on how to safely go about it without infecting your partner or quite possibly your child.
I must add however, that I admire you for taking time to ask the question and for your willing use of condoms.
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2014-08-18 21:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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