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cuz if u do its like giving thm a nudge/permission towards sex...but if u dont, they might have unprotected sex n e way...so what should parents do?

2007-04-13 10:41:07 · 17 answers · asked by Sike O 1 in Health Diseases & Conditions STDs

17 answers

First of all, parents should be honest. If they can't trust you, they won't respect you or listen. You can't control your kids and expect them to grow up. You can however, show yourself to be trustworthy and hope that they trust you in return.

Consider what you want your kids to do, and why. Explain your concerns and that you want them to be safe, first of all. There are many risks out there.

Do they want to have kids of their own? Some STIs can leave you sterile. Not all of them have obvious symptoms, either. There are treatments for many, but some are incurable. Do they want to take medication for the rest of their life?

When do they want their kids? Having them too young might leave them with regrets, and abortion is not a simple or easy choice. Most young people want to have fun with their friends. Babies are a lot of work, especially if they care about raising them properly, as you want to do.

Respect that they will have hormones raging and will want to explore boundaries. They have to know the risks if you want them to be able to make good decisions.

They should know that condoms are the only form of birth control that can offer some protection against STIs, but even then, they are not foolproof.

Giving condoms is a personal decision, but giving information and guidance should be mandatory.

2007-04-13 11:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Empress_of_Light 3 · 1 0

Parents should not wait until 14-15 years of age, they need to start when they are young, tell them the consequences of sex ( pregnancy, std, reputations, etc...) If you are trying to raise your child to not have sex until marriage then you need to tell them WHY!!!! Personally I have told my boys that I would rather they not have sex until they are married but that I cannot be with them all the time and they will have to make their own decision. I told them that if they chose to have sex that I hope they can come to me and let me get them condoms ( and my girl). I would rather they be protected then to have a child at a young age or have to go through their life with an incurable std. That is my stand on it and I know not everyone will agree, but it is the best I know to do. Telling them they CANNOT have sex does not work so hopefully this approach will.

2007-04-13 11:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by tcconssw 4 · 0 0

The parents shouldn't be giving out the condoms! Is this a goofy society or what? Do the parents really think that they should do EVERYTHING for their kids until they're 30? Half the fun of doing stuff is scheming, planning, succeeding or failing. I would think getting the condoms should be up to the person who is going to need/use them. If they're not that resourceful I really don't think they should be having sex!

2007-04-13 10:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 1 1

Before kids are given condoms, they should be given an education about sex, the consequences, and the emotions that go along with it. But, if kids are gonna be having sex, then absolutely, they should be protected. I would much rather give my kid (even if he/she is 12) a condom than antibiotics for a VD or worse yet, a funeral.

2007-04-13 10:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by VMSS 3 · 0 0

**provides a noisy around of applause** I agree one hundred% with you. you be attentive to what, my buddy is fifteen and her dad and mom in no way had the intercourse talk together with her. in no way. I propose of direction they reported don't have intercourse yet they only left it at that. yet I believe you because of the fact my mom has given me condoms or informed me that if I ever choose them because of the fact I plan to "get busy" then they're on the genuine of the cabinet interior the showering room. And wager what? i'm fifteen and that i'm nonetheless a virgin. i've got not even had a boyfriend yet. i'm an occasion of ways giving your toddlers risk-free practices won't cause them to run out and function intercourse. My mom has talked to me approximately intercourse, each and every little ingredient which could probable arise. and that i could say if there replaced right into a pop quiz, i might get an A++. She has defined to me approximately each and all of the beginning administration strategies, how powerful they're, what they do to ward off any STD's or undesirable pregnancies. She's additionally talked to me approximately STD's and undesirable pregnancies how they influence your existence in such assorted techniques. She additionally reported that if I ever decide for that i choose to have intercourse to first come to her so i might nicely be positioned on the pill. I only nodded and reported ok. i think of dad and mom might desire to do the two, I agree. they might desire to speak to their childrens approximately intercourse and likewise provide them a condom only in case. have faith me, if i did not run out and function intercourse while i replaced into given a condom then it is organic bull that it will ensue. a minimum of you be attentive to your toddlers would be using risk-free practices while having intercourse. might you quite have intercourse understanding you probably did not seek advice from them and that they did not use a condom or the pill? Or might you quite have your youngster have intercourse understanding the information and using the condom or the pill or perhaps the two. so as I reported formerly, I thoroughly and fully believe you. :)

2016-10-22 02:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

i think kids should be given condoms, you just need to warn them about how condoms are not 100% affective! also talk to them about how they should wait until thy're mature enough. yeah , sure you think kids think that a condom is a token or like a reason for sex, but kids will get ahold of them one way or another! so i suggest you give them condoms and if they do go out and have sex, at least its protected.
hope i helped :)

2007-04-13 10:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My friend once ask me that about her son about 15 year ago
he was 13 year old she said he was too young to have sex
behold that same year the kid had a baby girl the mother was a little older my friend son 13 I told her to give him the condoms but she never did because she believe she have told them over and over again not to have sex etc etc

2007-04-13 11:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 7 · 0 1

they should buy their own.
your kids are going to have sex no matter what you say to them.
so be realistic.
press the idea of abstaining all together until they're around 14.
and then put the idea of condoms and things like that.
there's no way to cut off a child completely, no matter how hard you try.

2007-04-13 11:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by mdizzle 1 · 0 0

Give them a discussion on the morals of your family, tell then what sex is like, about STDs....a slide show could help. Just let them know that, as great as sex can be, it's not worth their life.

2007-04-13 10:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

no.. kids should not be given condoms only for making balloon animals out of.. i feel if you don't start stirring it up.. the subject wont be there .. your right its like permission and making the "sex" subject free in the house hold.. there are better ways to deal with it with kids.. maybe the awareness about STDs and effects aids does . and how many people Carrie viruses. more then saying" here you go kids!! its a condom you slip over you penis for intercourse in case you cant stop your self from bumping uglies!!!!

2007-04-13 10:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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