I have a problem.
Tonight, I already said to my good lady that I would go for an informal meal thing with her work colleagues last night. Unfortunately for me this morning, the lads have decided to have a beers and bowling night which is much more up my street.
How do I play it, do I try and worm out of the works do or do I bite the bullet and listen to them droning on about print management all night.
Help me good people of Yahoo Answers!!
2007-04-12 23:52:03 · 22 answers · asked by Chris O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the advice guys. I think I knew deep down I was going to go for this meal, just a kick in the nuts when you play it wrong!
Print management it is!!
2007-04-13 00:08:41 · update #1
If you let her down you'll be on bread and water all week - if you know what I mean!
2007-04-12 23:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by bumblecherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have already made arrangements to go for the meal with your good lady so you should stick to that.
No doubt it will mean a lot to her if you are there with her, show your support, don't let her down. I'm sure you would not like it if the boot were on the other foot so to speak.
You can go out with your mates anytime, ask them if they can do it tomorrow night instead so you can go.
2007-04-13 07:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh this is a tough one alright but at the end of the day if it was the other way around and your mate asked you to do something not so interesting and then your good lady friend asked you to do something you wouldnt let your mate down.
I would recommend that you go with your girlfriend, she might be hurt if you even mention that your thinking of backing out on her and anyway think of the thanks she will give you when she gets you home, I dont think the lads could beat that!!
2007-04-13 07:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chris--there has to be a balance between you and this girl and your friends. You can't back out now for a beer night---it shows a lack of integrity, and a bit of disrespect. I'll bet the guys don't drop their girls for a beer night--if they do they are wrong also !! God, what future is there in beer nights?? Can't expect the girls to just lay down for you with that attitude. Go and have fun with her and man up .......my guess is you will smile after you show her that you care enough to go and not embarrass her by not going. Time to grow up, here. There will be other nights to go out with the guys....and if you put guys over gals--people might wonder about you. I would !! Relax, have fun and good luck
2007-04-13 07:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about the night out with your mates and say something like shame we have this thing tonight would have been a right laugh. Chances are she won't mind you going with your mates especially if the other work mates aren't bringing there partners.
Be careful though if she doesn't offer to let you off the hook don't just blow her out will take months to get back in the good books. Your night out with your mates might be a laugh but is it worth a week of her sulking with you and getting no sex!!!
2007-04-13 07:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever thought you could do do both! Superman!!
Gp for drinks with your lady, get a round in for everyone - they all be super impressed by this and your girl will be so pleased that you didn't blow her off that she won't mind you then going to catch up with your lads later. You might miss out on the first game but you'll be pleasing everyone! Good luck and hope you have a good night!
2007-04-13 07:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you will earn a lot of brownie points for going out with your lady and you will take a lot of cr*p for backing out on her (I'll bet she's been telling everyone all day that you're coming and she won't want to look like she's got the lousy boyf).
I'd bite the bullet, its not worth hurting her over. Then you will have those points for next time there's a boys night.
Plus - tell your friends to be more organised in future!
2007-04-13 06:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Chris!
What a bummer! As you have already said that you would go out on a "works do" with your girl you really should honour it. It depends on how you think she would react! I dont think I would be too happy if my man had said yes to coming out with me and then decided go out with his mates! Any chance you could get your mates to arrange the bowling and drinks for tomorrow?
Good luck!!
2007-04-13 06:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already committed yourself to the informal meal, you should go. It would make your lady very happy (if you don't go, you will never hear the end of it). Plus, I'm sure the guys will forgive you (she never will).
Good Luck!
2007-04-13 07:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by scarab_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stick to your promise to your lady. be a real man, and real men have word-of-honor. so just go with your lady, just as you told her, and be the man that you should be--trustworthy. don't worry about your lads, there will be other times when you can do such things with them..this won't be the last time. but when you promise someone that you would do something, then you have to do it. that's how maturity is.
2007-04-13 06:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now there's still gonna be more nights with the guys, this is just a once off thing.
2007-04-13 07:03:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋