my problem is that my boyfriend studies out of town, and our only way of contacting for now, is through pc and chat (he lost his cellphone, and long story that we cant call eachother) and it's a month that his hard has got burnt b/c of power supplies, so now our only way now is that he goes to a net cafe at the WEEKENDS, b/c he has many exams and needs to study the whole time, but again b/c of his studies, he sometimes cant make it, and that makes me sitting infront of the pc waiting for him, but he doesnt show up, then the next day he comes and apologizes and tells me that he really couldnt come cuz of his studies. but eventhough i know he's really busy, that still hurts me and makes me angry that i waited so long and he didnt come.
how can i nicely ask him to either dont set a time or when he does, act upon wat he said and dont make me wait so much?
I DONT WANT TO TALK ANGRY WITH HIM.
2007-04-12 23:30:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In any relationship when distance starts building physically, changes are bound to occur...m facing a similar situationfrom the past 1 year...i kno it really hurts..i used to stay awake all might just waitin for his call, if nt call a text message even it it just read that hez busy..but nevr hapnd several times..but there is no solution to it..
if u chose to bug him everytime as to y dint he call or come online he mite get irritated anytime and relation goes worse...
So just get used to it and stop waitin..it sounds really difficult but seriously stop waitin..u ll be much more happier..
relations cant be bound by anythng..just stop reacting..things will b betr for both of u..
Goodluck
2007-04-13 00:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be gentle, explain to him that your feelings get hurt because you anticipate the talk time with himm all day and then you are let down when you dont hear from him. And if you have a cell he can send you an alert to let you know he is at the cafe on the pc and ready to talk. At least then you wouldnt have to sit in front of a pc waiting on him, you could be doing what you need to do as well. You gotta give the boy credit though he is studying hard to ensure a promising future which im sure you are included in. Sometimes time apart and little communication is necessary, and I know its hard, my husband is in prison so beleive me I understand how hard it is, but sometimes you just have to sit back and wait it out. Your days together will come and you will appreciate them much more because of the time you spent away from one another. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. You could also get a cell that can access chat or just have him send text to your phone you can easily do that. Or you could buy him a new phone if you can afford it. I dont know your situation, just trying to throw out some ideas to try to help. good luck
2007-04-12 23:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by dydasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Honey.... I'm going to put this as bluntly as possible and yet, be careful of your feelings...I think when someone means alot to you. You make every effort to see them. If you can not see them in person.. theres always the comp... and so on...He needs to study at the net cafe, not all the time but it would ease your anxiety. Your gonna have to come right out and say whats bothering you... If not the hurt will continue. And that's not fair. Your an awesome person!!!! You deserve so much more...I know because I've been there. And wait until your in a happy mood to talk with him about this... one it will knock him for a loop... and he'll wonder y you are not down...If this is something the he is doing purposely!!!! Good luck and take care!!!
2007-04-12 23:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by SexyCole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry T has made a very interesting comment. You are pushed aside for something he considers more important than you, which is his studies. But we all know that, studies do come first. I know what you're thinking, that if you can push studies aside for him but he cant, and all tht.
To me, i prefer to look at the worst case scenario. Are you sure that his computer hard drive is burnt? and his cellphone is stolen? and that he cant communicate without you in any way?
To me, I believe you should pack your bags and pay a visit to his place one day, without giving him prior notice of couse. Find out whether he has been tellin you the truth or not. My predictions are, he has found some1 else and is not telling you about her. I might be wrong, please tell me if I am, you know my name and link.
If he IS telling you the truth, the only thing you can do now is bear with it, if you love him alot, you'll wait for him. Until he finishes his studies. But my advice is, if you are gettin seriously hurt over this, you should end it before you do something drastic and dangerous to your own health.
Well, good luck!
2007-04-12 23:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by XI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, studies and being apart is hard. I can tell you do make the effort for him else you would not waste time sitting in front of the comp waiting for him and even feeling upset.
My advice is...surf the web, read a book, eat a snack, watch a movie on the side while waiting for him...so you won't feel that your time is wasted waiting for him.
Also try to set a time frame with him...maybe he usually reaches the cafe at 3pm and it takes him 30 mins to reach there....agree with him that after waiting till 5pm you will move on to hang out with your frens...let him know you have a life too!
2007-04-12 23:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Humble Learner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ow, that's a hard one. Uhm, instead of having those more common meetings, why not get together at a time that's DEFINITELY good for the both of you? Like, not every weekend or something, but more of once a month or so? Ask him, let's get together sometime, spend some quality time together, then schedule. That way, even if he misses one or two (or more) meetings with you, you can still look forward to some real quality time...
...hope i helped...
Good luck!
2007-04-12 23:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by z0rd0npkk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that this man has decided that his studies are more important than his relationship with you.
My advice is to thank him for the quality time you spent together, end the relationship as he is too busy for you and move on with your life.
2007-04-12 23:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY HIM A MOBILE! he needs one obviously, and when u talk to him tell him to send u an email if hi cant make it to the cafe in time ok trust me it'll work trust me xoxoxox
2007-04-12 23:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have come to comprehend that your buddy has executed something which you weren't excepting!!!!!!!!!!!!!! see in view of your fact i'm able to purely say that the correctness of any act is a relative actuality. first you need to scrutiny your very own expectation. and my buddy no person ought to be choose in his very own reason. 'nemo debt esse judex in propria causa' is the properly common and oft quoted maxim.
2016-12-29 06:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by raczak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is just tell him how you really feel when he says he will be on and then he dosent show up.........do you talk to each other on msn........if you like i can find out what he is really up to if he is doing his studies or not with out him knowing i now you or he want tell me... but you cant tell him ill message him or he wont tell me nothing
2007-04-12 23:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋