my parents doesn't really like my gf, i am 26 and my gf is 25. i am asian. i tried to talk to my parents about this merriage because i think we are old enough, but my parents didn't give me any positive response. and i tried to talk to them several time, but the result is the same. then me and my gf decided to make merriage certificate without my parents knowledge, we even plan to stay together after we get the cert. am i wrong? how am i going to explain this next time to my parents? fyi, my gf's family don;t mind with our decision. we even ordered a wedding ring already
2007-04-12 22:00:24 · 6 answers · asked by synchronize81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe you should definately include your family in the wedding. If they decide not to go then atleast you have given them the opportunity. I have also thought of eloping (just up and getting married without anyone knowing) but I know it would hurt my family very badly. Tell your parents you have already gotten the certificate and the rings and that you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her and you are getting married and that you want them there because it is important to you, But yes you are plenty old enough to get married. Good luck
2007-04-13 03:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and GF are both adults in my country USA
Seems you and your parent still act as if you where a child.....your parents live in the old culture you are obviously trying to be part of the new culture.......time to make your own decisions, live your own life, have your own place, be in your own marriage.......it is your time to be an independant adult as the World now holds you responsible that way.
Ultimately you (not your parents) are the one responsible for your own actions
Try to explain this present day to them, but Love them for who they are.
2007-04-13 08:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me before having all those things done and live together., try to tell your parents about it. Try to sort it one last time, and if no positive response again, tell them that you and your gf had already decided and you think you are old enough and sure about it. And tell them it is what you really want, and apologise if you'll marry her even without their full consent.
2007-04-13 08:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by exiLed h0tie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to say-its your choice, but in reality you may need their support - especially if you have kids or need help getting a place etc. You should try to talk to them again with your girlfriend there too. Ask them why they object. Lot's of Asian parents have expectations for the marriage of their kids etc. and talk of shame and the neighbours etc still happens. If you have made a good choice and you love her then tell them you love them too and you are happy and you want them to be happy for you too.
2007-04-13 05:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by PickyChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly old enough. How you will tell your parents will have to be your choice. Your parents may not approve but you have to make your own decisions now, you are an adult.
2007-04-13 05:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your decision to get married your both older eough to make upo your own mind with out your parents telling you cant marry the person you live..........and if they cant undersant that you will get married to your gf if there at the wedding or not.... it would be there lose......tell your family what you think and if they dont like it then bugger them.........there only thinking about them selves and not you or your happeness
2007-04-13 07:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋