I feel ashamed. I wasn't drunk or anything . It was pure lust. I just made out with the other girl but i had promised myself i would never stoop so low. I messaged my girl i dont want to hide anything but i feel terrible what do i do
2007-04-12 21:28:10 · 25 answers · asked by manic_chili_pepper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont feel so bad, i do it all the time
just dont let her know
2007-04-12 21:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by SUPERMAN 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best thing to do is tell the truth. You are only human and you were designed to make mistakes. It is a part of life. Being a woman ,I think she will appreciate your honesty. And besides if you dont tell her and she finds out later, you have totally ruined the relationship. You will have a really hard time earning back that trust then. Right now you will be the good guy if you tell. Then later when she hears false rumors about you, she knows she can count on you to be honest with her. Its all part of building a good relationship,and sometimes it takes mistakes to do it. Not that I condone your episode with another woman, dont get me wrong. You were definatly in the wrong, and you know that, thats why you have that guilty feeling. That is another good thing. Dont ever forget that feeling!! Next time a situation comes up, remember how you felt, the lust will dissappear quickly when it is hiding behind guilt. Dont eat yourself up over it though. She is either going to have to accept it or give up on your relationship. If she chooses to give up the relationship wouldnt have been worth your time anyways. If you plan on being together for a long time beleive me you will face waaaaaaaayyy bigger problems than this,if she cant deal with this she isnt ready for a serious relationship anyways. But do expect that she will be very upset and she may say things out of anger. She has the right to be angry. And she might not want to look at you for a day or two, you have to understand that she is hurt. But she will come around after the anger takes its course and like I said she will appreciate your honesy in the end. Trust is the foundation of any good relationship.
2007-04-13 04:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by dydasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make promises with the best intentions but sometimes things just don't work out that way! Firstly, at least you feel bad about what you did. That shows that you are a good and decent person, you just screwed up. Secondly, do you wish to keep seeing your girlfriend, or is this incident a symptom of a deeper problem between the two of you? Maybe the two of you need abit more spice in your love life! Whatever the reasons, you and your girlfriend need to sit down together and have a very honest discussion about your future together. May I recommend that you do this face to face and not via text or phone call.
2007-04-13 04:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girl friend and be truthful, it is no use building a relationship on lies. If you are honest and truthful than she will forgive you and you can get down to a honest relationship. If you are still PLAYING THE FIELD then there is no point in you being in a relationship. Be honest, Honesty is the best policy and remember the grass in not always greener on the other side even though it may seem as if it is. Hope this has helped.
2007-04-13 04:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you did it and being honest is the best thing to do--you aren't married so what is the problem---you wanted the other girl--so why not go with the other girl and stop the hurt puppy routine?? Millions cheat--thats a fact---but if you cheat it makes you a low life, disrespectful, undignified, uncaring, immature male that can't control himself and certainly not worthy of a nice girl. She will probably dump you but so what----you got the other one to go to. Hope this stuff doesn't carry on to later life---cheats are usually with low class girls and they usually eventually get the diseases that never go away. Isn't that nice??
2007-04-13 04:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well youve destroyed the trust now. So you need to build it all the way back up. Tell her EXACTLY what happened and how it was only pure lust. Dont lie, dont make up anything tell her exactly what happened. Tell her you love her and promise to never do it again!!! and keep the promise
2007-04-13 04:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by meee_54678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kudos.
but if you only made out, it shouldnt be a huge deal. it probably would've been better to just deny it, but i guess you already told her. so, just sincerely (or mock-sincerely, if necessary) tell her you're very sorry and it will never, ever happen again. also, don't go around the other girl any more (or at least dont let the gf know you are). that will majorly piss her off. the gf will assume you're doing the other girl, even if you're just playing Yahtzee or something.
2007-04-13 05:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by a b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut the hell up. Don't ever tell her. It'll fade soon enough.
In the meantime, get your **** together. If that girl knows your girlfriend and your present situation then you have to shut her up too. Explain what you did was wrong and that you'd appreciate it if she didn't mention it to anyone because you don't want to hurt your girlfriend. Tell her you've never cheated on anyone before but she was simply irresistible. Break out every dirty trick you know to coax her onside.
2007-04-13 04:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think about why you did it, work out whether it means you should be in this relationship and tell your gf whatever the answer to your thinking is.
We all make mistakes but for your own sake think about the why rather than the consequence. I think that once you work out why you won't feel terrible.
2007-04-13 04:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't live with the guilt, tell her right away.
if you really love your girlfriend, she deserves to know. if she can forgive you, i'd salute her... and that should be already enough reason not to ever ever do that again.
if she can't forgive you, at least you already came clean with your conscience already out. If you have already tried all probable ways to win her back to show her you really love her and nothing works, sorry but you already have to move on.
trust is essential in a relationship. if she can't live with what you did, you'll still eventually end up apart.
good luck! ;)
2007-04-13 04:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so nice to be honest to yourself that you know you had betrayed her trust, now,it's up to her when she will trust and accept you again, but if you ask my opinion, it will take a while, because she get hurt by your action, how could you keep her from doubting you in the future, there must be an assurance that it won't happen again, you know girls, often wanted security from their bf, think of something that will win her back......and thanks for being honest to her...
2007-04-13 04:36:03 · answer #11 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋