Should i tell him i love him?

Question

Im not sure how to ask this. Ive been going out w/ this guy for about a yr and I really want to tell him I love him but I don’t know if I should. He has said it to me and he is very understanding of the fact that it scares me to say it. I dono y. he is my first real b/f and I haven’t really dated a lot of other people. Also, in the next month he is going to be leaving for 2 yrs on a mission for our church. Should I say it anyway, knowing there is a chance after he leaves I will never see him again (we have both decided it would be best for me to date other people while he’s gone)? wat could it hurt right?

BTW, if there are any LDS people reading this I would very much like to hear that religious aspect but any and all opinions are appreciated.

Answer 1

I used to have a seminary teacher give us what was the "Missionary circle of Life"...one missionary says goodbye to his girlfriend and gets on the plane, while another returns home and finds that girl that just said goodbye to her boyfriend...it is a circle...
Anyways, the best thing I would suggest is if you do love him, tell him, its OK. But, still encourage him to go on his mission, know that before he leaves there are no expectations of marriage when he returns, make perfectly clear that you want to date and if it is meant to be, you will end up together. I have had friends that have not dated at all while their missionary was out, he reutrns and they get married. I had a friend who didn't date, he missionary came home, they planned the wedding and she met someone else who she later married. I have had friends who dated, married someone else, and friends who dated and married their missionary when he came home. You just never know, you just kinda have to wait and see.

Answer 2

i think if ur absolutely sure abt the way u feel then u should tell him, but remember love is a very strong feeling, and usually if it isnt forever then its not love...if by any chance u do get attracted to sum1 else in the time he is gone, than u cant commit to love...if u feel the tendancy that u cant think of any1 but him, and u cant see any1 more with u than him, than i guess u could be in love...if after 2 years u still feel the same for each other, u would automatically know love exists

Answer 3

now not very most of the time. my dad used to inform me day-to-day. (however he is lifeless). my mother tells me. my sister tells me. every now and then different loved ones individuals do ........ or a freind does, however that form of affection is distinctive than romantic love. And even in that cirumstance, i have now not heard it most of the time. I am now not advised "I love you" very most of the time. I am now not advised "I admire you" or "Thank You" very most of the time both. Hugs are not normal both. And regardless that i am the form of man or woman of whom is quite comfortable and that i do not have to listen it day-to-day, each as soon as in a at the same time it's first-class to understand that i'm cared approximately and favored. But I consider the word turns into common after a at the same time and loses it is which means if used TOO a lot or within the improper context. Like while i man performs the "I love you" card simply to get you to do him OR a pal or loved ones member performs the "I love you" card simply considering that they desire whatever from you. Not every body is like that, however a few are. And the word does lose it is credibility and which means after a at the same time of getting used improperly in such occasions. I attempt to allow the individuals in my existence realize that i care approximately them most of the time. I continuously say "Love You!" or "I Love You!" however that is simply considering that that is the way in which that i'm. I've continuously been like that. I like individuals to understand that they're adored and cared approximately. And that it's specific, as i count on not anything in go back. I am sorry you have had such terrible occasions. I realize the sensation, think me. I can present you a hug! ---> ?hugs!!? And i am hoping it will get higher. Just considering that SOME individuals to your existence have dealt with you favor crap does not imply that you're. You deserve as a lot love and appreciate as the following man or woman. Don't accept not up to the satisfactory. LOVE YOU!!? ?????

Answer 4

If you really love him go ahead and tell him! as you said it might be the last time you see him and it would be nice to end it that you love each other and then say goodbye. Don't hide your feelings and then regret never telling him and then never see him again. What have you got to lose? Good luck!

Answer 5

Comunication is the mother of all relationships.Some one tells you "I love you", it make you feel good, so would feel your friend if you tel him you love him. expressing our feelings to the people we care about, bonds us toghether in most casses for life. And, yes tell him when he leaves that you love him, you never know, you might have him for the rest of your life. I'm certain that if he stops loving you he wil tell you.
"DOREL"

Answer 6

If you love him, tell him. I don't see the problem. But then, I suffer apathy in the worst way, so most people's problems don't seem like big deals to me.

Answer 7

I remember when My gf told me she loved me, cause then i could say i loved her w/o fear =D. Seriously though now would be the best time more than ever, we both agree. Its hot.

Answer 8

I don't see a downside. Letting someone know you love them makes them feel good and it sounds like you want to. Go for it.

Answer 9

Don't say a word. Some things are best kept to yourself. If you've agreeed to see others and you won't see him. Just let it go.

Answer 10

Try not to get involve emotionally I knw you cant help but heh... enjoy your dating period and then date other guys too