a wedding?

Question

Me and my fiance would like to get married soon, I don't know how to go about it, I would like to have a dress and him a tux, but I don't really want a m.o.h, bridesmaids, best man and groomsmen, just me and him, it's too hard to pick and choose people, plus we don't have much money. although we would like people to attend though, can I do that? I have no clue about weddings any advice would help

Answer 1

Yes - you can do that. You don't need to have a wedding party. You do need to have two witnesses, but you can use your parents or any two people in the audience as witnesses instead of the bridal party.

For the guests -keep the guest list small, have an informal wedding in the afternoon or late evening so it doesn't go over any meal times, and then you can serve cake and punch for the reception instead of a whole meal.

Answer 2

The courthouse or city hall is an option, but you may want to have a more personal touch. You can find many wedding ministers/officiants in your local area that will do a simple civil cermony for you at a low cost. Depending on your location, most will conduct this type of ceremony anywhere between $50 - $200.

Some bridal sites can assist are Decidio, Wed Plan, All Wedding Companies, Gathering Guide,The NABWO website http://www.freewebs.com/nabwo/about.htm
and countless others.

Since you want to spend less, it will cost you in research.

The best to you and your planning!

Rev. Angela Chester
NABWO

Answer 3

Weddings dont have to be expensive. Dresses, shoes etc can be a lovely day dress or after five or evening gowns and any colour rather than white gowns. There are many seconds and great charity shop buys. Even people who have a dress languishing in their cupboards that they would love to see someone wear again, because they no longer fit in it. Suits can be obtained the same way or hired. They don't have to be terribly formal. Just get a great shirt. Many couples don't have attendants now. If someone insists explain you'd love to have them, but they would have to provide their own outfit, or that you just want to keep it small.
I went to a great wedding where the guests all brought a plate and bottle to the house for the reception. Another where instead of presents they gave envelopes of money to go towards the honeymoon or for the couple to buy what they really want. Even weddings where people went to mcdonalds, pancake or subway then back for coffee and nice cake and chocolate biscuits. Alcohol can be a huge punch made in a new plastic tub. The alcohol can be a inexpensive cask, add pineapple juice or other juices or cordial, inexpensive lemonade and chopped up fruit or canned pineapple, some ice if possible and voila. Tastes expensive... Sandwiches and fish bites from supermarket heated in oven, or sausage rolls, mini quiches, cut up fruit etc. Finger food is always a favourite. Sweets can be the wedding cake and cream. You may need to make two cakes if more people and have one aside in refrigerator. The other on the table as the bridal cake on show. Decorate room with balloons, tie ribbons on in colour you like. Hang from ceiling or curtain rods, or tied on back of chairs. Have a small bunch of fresh flowers with a ribbon tied around for yourself to hold. Get some disposable cameras so guests can take pictures and some guests will even be happy to pay for the development. Make a list of what you would like and every week buy an item and put it in a box or cupboard towards your special day. I used to buy some special chocolates in wrappers each week which I put with coffee at my reception. Look at Shabby Chic. Borrow or use old plates, glass looks good. Place three candles on a long glass dish to place on wedding table and light before you cut the cake. Get someone to make a carrot cake or simple cake and use a nice soft icing and fresh flower or small statuete on top, or just a ribbon around for the wedding cake and one on the cake knife handle. Use a plain tablecloth and sprinkle confetti or glass look sparkles on top of the table with the cake as your centrepiece. Everyone loves a wedding. Explain around that you are on a tight budget and you will be surprised at the offers from shops, friends and strangers. You don't have to conform. Do your own thing. Enjoy and good luck. Sher.......

Answer 4

You can do whatever you want since its your wedding. Most things in a wedding aren't a must anyways. You don't have to follow traditions. Having a wedding party isn't important, especially since you're on a tight budget. I went to a wedding a few years ago and the wedding party was only the brides 2 children, otherwise they probably wouldn't have had anyone else in it.

Answer 5

It's totally possible to do a wedding on a budget, I'm doing it myself!! You need to decide what is important to you, I would suggest looking at a "wedding planner check list" on one of the wedding websites, I found one on www.confetti.co.uk and I crossed off all the things on the list that did not apply to me, like "book the DJ or band" I'm not having a DJ or band, and then you should be left with a list of things that need to be planned, take it from there. It need not be stressful either, enjoy the planning.

Answer 6

If you are really trying to save money, why have the groom in a tuxedo? Go to the courthouse and get married. Remember if you do, you have to bring 2 witnesses with you. If you want to get married in a church, it can be just you and him, and the 2 witnesses. You can invite as many people as you want to the church, to see you wed.

Answer 7

I wish extra of a lawn variety marriage ceremony... like at a particularly fine southern plantation, have the marriage ceremony cerimony within the within mid-day, with the reception external within the night whilst it cools down. I wish chinese language (or is it eastern?) lantern-esque lighting fixtures with yellow roses and accents of orange with the fundamental colour being white. just a few men and women from every facet of the household (like 15-25 every). and the meals can be mounted like an fashionable buffet. thats all i acquired thus far, however i consider it is going to be the ideal marriage ceremony for me (if my long run husband likes it too).

Answer 8

get married at city hall with some guests.... dont worry about the rest. Its your day have it your way.