When is a person ready to move out of their parents house?

Question

I'm turning 26 in two weeks. I have a highly successful job with great income and I have decided that I definately need my own space. I have had surges within the last 5 years where I felt I needed to move out already. But was still in school and wasn't ready financially. Now I'm super excited but I can't help feeling guilty because they are amazing parents. Although I think what has detained me is also a feeling of insecurity. Sometimes I feel as though I can't survive on my own (or they have lightly hinted as much). I know it sounds ridiculous but sometimes the guilt sets in and I wonder if it's true. Does everyone go through that? I mean it's not like I'm getting married or going to school somewhere or moving for a job I'm just doing it because I think and feel it's time. But then the guilt sets in and I wonder if I am truly ready.

Answer 1

It's time. You can still live fairly close and see them often, but you need to develop your own life. You need to be able to entertain yourself when you're alone, and to learn to take care of a place on your own.

Answer 2

It sounds like your putting all the pressure on yourself. Does not sound like they are impacting your decision. I know you feel guilty moving, but think of it this way. You may stay now, and then in a few years really be ready to leave, and then not be financially successful enough to get a new home. There doors will be wide open with you for a while. Leave now while you have the chance, and start a new life. Your opening a new door, so go enjoy it.

Answer 3

Your feelings are quite normal :) considering the fact that you have been living with your parents all this while, to top it off - they are amazing parents. If they have somewhat hinted that you won't survive on your own it isn't because they feel you can't - it's just because they know they would miss you a whole lot and they'd be worried about you all the time. No matter how old you get, you are their baby!

It is great learning experience living on your own. No advice from me cuz you'll be getting loads from mom and dad... lol... All the best :)

Answer 4

You need to just do it...I did it at 22 and my parents tried to tell me that I wouldn't be able to afford it blah blah blah....I was the baby and they really wanted me to stay but it was time for me to go. I was scared to death and I wont lie, l lived in CA and rent was very high and some months were tough for me but it was so worth it!!! I loved my freedom and the responsibility of making my own decisions. I got married at 25 and moved back home for a few months before the wedding and that was so hard to do after living on my own for three years. When I look back those were some of the best memories that I have of my little cheap apartment. Don't let anyone tell you you cant do it. You will be fine and so glad that you did. Good luck.

Answer 5

Feeling guilty is something you did wrong, but you haven't done anything wrong. You want to do something that's right for you. You will also do your parents a great favor because they will see that you want to move out and live out in the world on your own. By living with them, you have already shown them that you can support yourself and are responsible. You can't live with them forever!

No need to fill guilty for leaving the nest. But, before you leave, don't forget to thank your parents for all that they have done for you and for helping you grow in becoming that responsible person that you are. Life is what you make it, so do your best in what you do. Your parents should be proud of you!

Answer 6

If you have a good job and can support yourself, then I would say find a nice place near home so you can see them all the time, but still have a life of your own. How does it feel bring a boyfriend home to your parents house? For all you know, maybe your parents are ready for you to move out!

Answer 7

If you are financially capable of living on your own, it's time. I really don't think any adult should live with their parents. And its rediculous to feel guilty. Parents EXPECT their kids to move out when they become adults. I'm 23 and am moving out as soon as i finish school and find a place, which will be in a few months. I'm extremely excited, and my parents have even been helping me pruchase necessary household items!

Answer 8

you're ready when YOU ARE READY! it's not like you're not going to see your parents anymore or whatsoever after moving out but then again as you said you need your own space and one thing for sure one day you have to live on your own. at least you already have a stable income and afford to live on your own. don't feel guilty about it. you still can go back to your parent's house whenever you want to..they're still there for you and always will..

Answer 9

I would say if you feel ready, you probably are. Don't let the guilt get in the way of that.
If you feel like you'll hurt your parents by moving out, sure, they'll miss you, but they'll probably also be extremely happy to see you be successful on your own.

And if something were to happen, and you felt like you needed to move back, I'd bet they'd gladly accept you back.

Hope this helps.

Answer 10

I was 16 when I left my parents home. I wasn't financially prepared but I did just fine. Had I waited until I was 26 I would have committed suicide. Nope no guilt here.

Answer 11

I'm thinking that you need to get out and prove your insecurities wrong. 26 is plenty old enough, and as long as your income is enough, what is there to worry about.

I don't really understand being nervous about being out on your own unless you're broke. There's nothing to make or not make if you can pay the bills, and you know how to prepare the foods you like to eat. I mean, there is plenty you CAN do but as long as you can eat and pay the bills, you'll make it...