Why do I hur tmore today about my dad passing then I do last night when it happened?

Answer 1

When it happened you were probably in shock and unable to fully comprehend the situation.

Answer 2

Last night you were probably in shock. Today you've had more time to think about your dad and the time that you have spent together. Precious Memories. Sorry for your loss. I lost my stepdad when I was 11 years old. I'm 41 now, and not a day goes by that I do not think about him and miss him. We never get over it, but we do get through it. Take care.

Answer 3

What you felt last night, your mind wasn't aware of the reality of never seeing you father alive again. Now that you have had some time to 'let it sink in', your heart hurts from the sense of loss you feel. As you mentally take out each memory and look at it, you will experience more loss and hurt. This will go on for awhile, it's harder at first. Believe me when I tell you that it does get better as time goes by. Try to keep in mind that you are not alone. When the time comes for you to reach out to someone...please do. Being comforted helps to ease the pain. It isn't thought of as being weak. Family and friends want to help you ease that hurt, you'll need them in the weeks to come. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I am sorry about your loss. I can't imagine loosing one of my parents.

I'm sure last night you were probably a bit in shock. Shock tends to insulate us from the sudden news of something bad.

You have had time for the reality of you dad passing and it has really set in now.

Time will help you get through this. I know you will always miss your dad, but it does get better as time goes by.

Best wishes to you and your family

Answer 5

I'm sorry to know you're father just went. I've lost both my parents, and I was young when my father went.

When we lose a parent or someone else close there are a whole range of things we feel and times of numbness that come at one time or another and go for a while again.

Last night you were probably numb, and you were probably in shock, and you may not have even really believed it. Today, maybe its sinking in a little more. Maybe you're hearing about funeral arrangements today?

When we lose someone it can be unbearable at times. At other times we kind of accept it. For a long time following a passing we are kind of numb, which - hard as it is to believe - can make the awfulness not as awful as it would be without some numbing.

You will take it one day at a time, one week at a time, one month at a time. Over the next several months you'll find you have things that you need to deal with, you'll cry at times, but other times you'll feel kind of regular. You'll find you still laugh. Still, it will be at the back of your mind.

As the months go on you'll sort of feel better, but then at a year you may discover that as the numbness has worn off some of the awfulness starts to get felt, and it can feel new all over again.

You have to just take it a day at a time and try to give your mind a rest from it by finding something that keeps you busy.

I found that four months after my father went I was alone in the house, and although I thought I had been "dealing with it" since he passed, I discovered that all of a sudden it really hit me what had happened. I felt worse on the day four months later than I had at any time previously.

Find the thoughts that help get you through this - that he isn't suffering, that he had a good life, that he knew you loved him, whatever thought gives you a little comfort. Every time you start to feel too bad think of the set of thoughts you have that make you feel slightly better.

The funeral (if you're having one) will - strange as this sounds - give you something to be doing and busy with. People are around, and it really does ease things just a little. There are really difficult parts to it, but once it is over you can begin to try to heal slowly.

Be with people who will let you talk. Be with people who will get your mind off it a little bit. Realize that the process is long and hard but that somehow Nature helps us get through it.

Accept that however you feel is ok, and realize that you'll have to go through a whole set of thoughts and crying episodes that will come when you least expect them. Get enough sleep.

When I read your question it made me feel so sad because I know exactly what you're going through. You will feel better gradually, so do what it takes over the next little while to just get yourself through this awful time.

Again, I'm so sorry that you're going through this even though I don't know you.

This may sound strange, but I found one of the thoughts that helped me from feeling too out of control was to remember that my mother or father was a grown-up, and that we are all here in this world on our own terms and time-table. Being a grown-up he would probably want you to take a rest from thinking about him when you can right now because you can always think about him later, and if trying not to think about him right this minute will help you feel better that's what parents would want for their children.

Answer 6

This is so weird, I am sort of going through the same thing now, in a way. First of all, my condolences to you and your family. My parents are both in their mid 80's and I am a total Daddy's Girl. I love him so much and I know it's going to crush me when he dies. I love my mother too, but not like the way I love my father. My mother and I have never gotten along until lately, and that's because she needs me to help her do things she can't. My father, well, we're very much alike, and I am emotionally closer to him. Girl, you are going through what is called grief. People say, time heals all wounds but that person is wrong. The hurt from losing a beloved parent can last a lifetime. You hurt more today because you are seeing the event in total clarity for as it is- and last night when it happened, you were probably feeling totally numb about it emotionally, like, it couldn't be real, or happening. This is what I do when I get depressed or scared about the upcoming deaths of my parents- I write about it. And I write down everything. I know we don't know one another, but I bet your dad really loved you a lot, and I believe in Heaven, and I know your dad is smiling down on you right now. He wants the best for his daughter. I bet he passed away knowing how much he loved you and was proud of you. Know that he loved you, a lot! *HUGS*- I wish I knew what else to say. Don't ever feel ashamed to cry about it, or feel depressed. It's natural. I'm just trying to prepare for when this happens to me, and I know I'm going to be a mess. I am planning on getting a therapist to talk to. That might help you, as well, having someone to talk to about this. Grief is a difficult thing to handle alone- so surround yourself with loving, understanding family and friends you can trust. God bless you, and good luck. I'll be rooting for you. >3

Answer 7

I'm sorry you lost your dad. I have, too. It will be like a rollercoaster for a while, some days bad, some days better. Eventually, the bad days aren't so bad and there are fewer ones, but you'll never forget him. It's just going to be hard for a while.

Answer 8

The shock has worn off and cold reality has sunk in. Seek help you to work through the grieving process. It does take time.

Answer 9

I am so sorry to hear about your dads passing.

I agree with the others. You was in shock and or denial last night. It is never easy to lose a loved one. Sending my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 10

probably cause you were in shock. and now your getting over the shock and going what through what you should be going through. it will hurt for a little while just take it one day at a time